Christian Prayer For Dummies E-Book

Richard Wagner

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Religion und Spiritualität
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2011

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Beschreibung

Advice and examples help you find your own prayer style Discover how prayer works and why you need it now more than ever Do you want to pray, but you're not sure how? This friendly guide explains the different kinds of prayer - revealing how and why to pray and how to discern God's answers. You'll see how to overcome hindrances, how to use a journal, and how to pray on your own. Discover what "Thy will be done" means and how to approach prayers that seemingly haven't been answered. The Dummies Way * Explanations in plain English * "Get in, get out" information * Icons and other navigational aids * Tear-out cheat sheet * Top ten lists * A dash of humor and fun

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Christian Prayer For Dummies®

by Richard Wagner

Christian Prayer For Dummies®

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From He Shall Glorify Me. Copyright © l946 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“We have a God who engineers circumstances.” (Chapter 1)

“If you ever prayed in the dawn, you will ask yourself why you were so foolish has to not do it always: it is difficult to get into communion with God in the midst of the hurly-burly of the day.” (Chapter 4)

“Specific times and places and communion with God go together. It is by no haphazard chance that in every age men have risen early to pray. The first thing that marks decline in spiritual life is our relationship to the early morning.” (Chapter 4)

“Watch the difference between confession and admitting; the majority of us are quite ready to admit, it is the rarest thing to get to the place where we will confess. . . . It is much more difficult to confess to God than we are apt to think. It is not confessing in order to be forgiven; confession is the evidence that I am forgiven.” (Chapter 6)

From The Love of God. Copyright © l938 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Fasting means concentration in order that the purpose of God may be developed in our lives.” (Chapter 10)

From So Send I You. Copyright © 1930 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Whether our work is a success or a failure has nothing to do with us. Our call is not to successful service, but to faithfulness.” (Chapter 12)

“When we hear a thing is not necessarily when it is spoken, but when we are in a state to listen to it and to understand. Our Lord's statements seem to be so simple and gentle, and they slip unobserved into the subconscious mind. Then something happens in our circumstances; up comes one of these words into our consciousness and we hear it for the first time and it makes us reel with amazement.” (Chapter 19)

From God's Workmanship. Copyright © l953 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Don't say thy will be done, but see it is done.” (Chapter 16)

From If You Shall Ask. Copyright © l937 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Some prayers are followed by silence because they are wrong, others because they are bigger than we can understand.” (Chapter 18)

From Our Brilliant Heritage. Copyright © l929 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Before we can hear, we must be trained.” (Chapter 19)

From The Philosophy of Sin. Copyright © l937 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“These are cases recorded in the Bible, and in our own day, of people who have been marvelously healed, for what purpose? For us to imitate them? Never, but in order that we might discern what lies behind, namely, the individual relationship to a personal God.” (Chapter 20)

From Not Knowing Where. Copyright © l934 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“If it was God's will to bruise his own Son, why should it not be his will to bruise you?” (Chapter 20)

From The Shade of His Hand. Copyright © l924, 1936 by the Oswald Chambers Publications Assn. Ltd.:

“Prayer is not a preparation for work, it is work. Prayer is not a preparation for the battle, it is the battle. Prayer is two-fold: definite asking and definite waiting to receive.” (Chapter 4)

“There will come one day a personal and direct touch from God when every tear and perplexity, every oppression and distress, every suffering and pain, and wrong and injustice will have a complete and ample and overwhelming explanation.” (Chapter 18)

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About the Author

Richard Wagner is founder and writer of Digitalwalk.net (www.digitalwalk.net), a Web-based commentary with the purpose of challenging and encouraging Christians to earnestly live out their faith in a digital, postmodern world. Richard has served in church leadership and teaching roles for more than a dozen years. He lives in Princeton, Massachusetts, with his wife and three boys. You can e-mail Richard at [email protected].

For a study guide and discussion questions for Christian Prayer For Dummies, visit www.digitalwalk.net/prayerdummy.

Dedication

To Lori and Aaron: The present mystery of lost prayers will someday be answered by your smiles.

Author’s Acknowledgments

When John Donne penned “No man is an island,” I am convinced that he had to be speaking of an author. There are so many people I’d like to acknowledge who helped shape and guide this book and make it possible.

First and foremost, I want to thank my wife, Kim, for her sacrifice, boundless enthusiasm, and unique insights that helped inspire the book, particularly the family prayer and journaling chapters. My sons, Jordan, Jared, and Justus, deserve special thanks for their support, especially during a particularly important crunch time when they fasted from the TV and movies as a way of showing support for the book.

Several people provided marvelous feedback and ideas to help form and shape the book. Joe Wagner, my father, reviewed each chapter and provided his opinions to help make sure the book stood up to the real world. Clint Frank, a go-to person in my life when I need wise counsel, also provided tremendous encouragement and perspective from the very start. I also appreciated the theological perspectives of Eric Hartlen and Randall Matthews to help clarify some tough issues. Bruce Marchiano deserves a warm and special thanks for sharing his unique insights into the prayer life of Jesus. Finally, I’d like to thank those people who were willing to share their personal stories of prayer to me, some of which I chronicle in the book.

The editorial team for this book was a blessing. Heartfelt thanks to Tonya Cupp for her flawless project management, encouragement, and flexibility; Tina Sims for her keen editing prowess and her knack for always spotting the parts of a chapter that needed further explanation; and Dr. Bill Young for his wise theological insights that helped refine the book and keep its overall message consistent. Special thanks also goes to Kathy Cox for her belief in the book’s vision from the outset.

Finally, so many people around me were prayer warriors throughout the book writing process. I have a deep sense of gratitude to the people in my home group, e-accountability group, and Heritage Bible Chapel for their prayers.

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Contents

Title

Introduction

How This Book Is Organized

Assumptions Made in the Book

Conventions Used in This Book

Icons Used in This Book

Where to Go from Here

Part I: Signing Up for Basic Training

Chapter 1: Discovering the Real X-Factor

Having a Chat with God

Realizing What’s So Good about Prayer Anyway

Seeing How Prayer Works: Past, Present, and Future

Transforming Your ABC’s into the X

Chapter 2: Prayers: We Don’t Need No Stinkin’ Prayers

Debunking the Top Excuses

Correcting Eight Really Bad Ideas about Prayer

Chapter 3: Relating to God: More than the Sum of All Prayers

Naming the Elephant in the Room: Sin

Viewing God: Taskmaster or Loving Father?

Talking to God: Dear (fill-in-the-blank)

Deciding Between “Heavenly Father” or “Daddy”

After Your Prayer Leaves Your Lips: A Behind-The-Scenes Guide

Chapter 4: Taking a 24/7 Prayer Adventure

Praying Around the Clock

Packing Your Own Prayer Saber

Knowing When You’re at Your Best

Pray@Work

Penciling in Some Prayer Time

Sailing through the Sand

Chapter 5: The Original Christian Prayer For Dummies: The Lord’s Prayer

Viewing the Lord’s Prayer as a Model, Not a Carbon Copy

Getting the Big Picture

Chapter 6: Revealing Prayer’s Secret Recipe

Responding in a Most (Un)Natural Way: Adoration

Honesty Required: Improving Your Confession

Making Every Day Turkey Day: Thanksgiving

Going to the Rug for Others: Intercessory

Asking for Yourself: Petitionary

Part II: Turbocharging Your Prayers

Chapter 7: Ready-Made or Do-It-Yourself?

Whipping Up a Batch from Scratch

Breaking Open the Ready-Made Variety

Navigating the High Seas: Combining the Two Types of Prayer

Chapter 8: Looking to the Scriptures for Help

Pairing the Ultimate Couple: Bible and Prayer

Psalms: The Heart of Prayer

Epistles: The Mind of Prayer

The Bible’s Ten Best Prayers

Chapter 9: Journaling the Write Stuff

Journaling: Don’t Let Hand Cramps Stop You

Getting Past the Cool New Notebook: Journal Content and Style

Choosing Between a Pen or a PC

More than Just Bean Counting

Chapter 10: Thinking Fast

Why Fast? It Only Makes Me Hungry

Fasting in the Crossfire

When Good Fasts Go Bad

Getting Fast Answers to Practical Questions

Chapter 11: Helping You Out: Prayer Enhancers

Singing Your Prayers . . . Even If You Can’t Hold a Tune

Freeing Your Mind

Accessorizing Doesn’t Only Make the Outfit

Attending Special Prayer Events: Kneeling Room Only

Chapter 12: Avoiding the Potholes to Prayer

Reducing Distractions to Your Prayer Life

Clearing the Mental Cobwebs

Overcoming Emotional Roadblocks

Part III: Praying Well with Others

Chapter 13: Going Nuclear (Family, That Is)

Talking to God as a Family

Fitting It in Between Soccer and Dessert

Teaching Junior How to Pray

Blessing Your Children

Es-spousing Prayer

Chapter 14: Praying in Small Groups

The Small Group That Prays Together Stays Together

Seeking All Prayer Requests

Steering Clear of Small Group Pitfalls

E-Prayer: Praying in the Internet Age

Chapter 15: Overcoming the Yadda Yadda Yadda: Effective Public Prayer

Praying in Public versus Speaking in Solitude

Keeping the Z’s to a Minimum

Part IV: Tackling Some Tough Issues

Chapter 16: Thy Will Be Done

Wanting Your Will Won’t Get It Done

Knowing God’s Will

Exposing an Age-Old Struggle

Discovering the Purpose of Praying According to God’s Will

Striking a Balance between Asking and Surrendering

Chapter 17: Ask and It Shall Be Given

I’d Like A Porsche, Please

Staying within the Lines: Sticking to God’s Will

Chapter 18: Lost Prayers

Considering Prayers That Looked Misplaced and Forgotten

Cornering Confusion, Ousting Doubt

Yanking Your Chain? No Way

I Can’t Believe He Said No

Seeing Eye to Eye Isn’t Always Possible

Finding Your Lost Prayer

Revisiting the Lost Prayers: The Rest of the Story

Chapter 19: Hearing That Voice in the Cornfield

Suffering from the “God Told Me” Syndrome

Waiting for God to Speak: Expect a Peep, Not a Roar

Fine-Tuning Your Ears

Questioning That Inner Voice: God or My Empty Stomach?

Identifying False Voices

Testing What You Hear

Chapter 20: Healing in a Modern World

When God Heals

Just the (Healing) Facts, Ma’am

Applying the Techniques of Healing Prayer

When God Doesn’t Heal

Chapter 21: Getting Tongue-Tied

Unwrapping Spiritual Gifts: “Whatchoo Talkin’ about, Willis?”

Tongues Spoken in the Bible: News at 11

Practicing Tongues Today . . . or Not

Keeping Your Tongue to Yourself

Balancing Perspective

Part V: The Part of Tens

Chapter 22: Prayers for Ten Occasions When You Need It Most

Fear

Anger

Despair and Suffering

Decision Making

Wasted Time

Guilt

Stressed Family Relationships

In Need of Healing

Approaching Death

Surrender

Chapter 23: Ten or So Prayers to Teach Children

Bedtime Prayers

Morning Prayers

Mealtime Prayers

Prayers for Any Time of Day

Chapter 24: Ten Retreats and Ten Pilgrimages

Ten Prayer Retreat Centers

Prayer Pilgrimages

Chapter 25: Ten-Plus Recommended Web Sites

Sacred Space

Prayer Central

Prayer Today Online

The Book of Common Prayer

Pray! Magazine Online

Bible Gateway Audio Bible

ePrayer.org

International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church

Presidential Prayer Team

National Children’s Prayer Network

America Praying On-Line

Introduction

I’ ll pray for you.”

Have you ever said those words to a friend or loved one after hearing of a tragedy, sickness, or job loss? I often say that phrase as I talk with others about what’s going on their lives. Indeed, this expression is a common, second-nature response to a need that is shared. Yet, do you always follow up on your promise to pray? I confess that too many times I’ve said those words and failed to do so.

“I’ll pray for you” is a phrase packed solid with good intentions. However, sorry to say, prayer requests can often go in one ear and out the other, given the frantic, fast-paced lifestyles of today’s world. Following through on that pledge to pray has become too much like that to-do list of handyman jobs I keep promising my wife I’ll do.

However, I think a reason other than busyness keeps people from praying diligently. People tend to exchange lip service for genuine prayer when they forget the true power that prayer holds. Prayer becomes a nice thing to do rather than something you feel compelled to do for a friend.

In reading this book, you discover that “I’ll pray for you” is one of the most significant expressions you can utter. Contained inside this deceivingly simple phrase is a direct line to an all-knowing, all-powerful God, who invites Christians to participate in his work in the world through prayer. Therefore, by following through on that promise to your friend, God can use your earnest and diligent prayers to effect real and lasting change. However, you also discover while reading this book that prayer is more than a one-sided conversation of endless prayer requests. Instead, as a natural part of the relationship you have with a personal God, prayer involves actively listening to him and letting him move freely in your life.

Christian Prayer For Dummies equips you with the know-how you need to deepen and enrich your prayer life. It also helps you know why you’re praying, whom you’re praying to, what prayer can do, and how to pray effectively. I avoid the two extremes—“touchy-feely” spiritualism and heavy theological prose—that you can so often encounter when reading books on prayer. My aim is to touch a middle ground that is highly practical yet life changing.

How This Book Is Organized

Christian Prayer For Dummies is your practical guide to prayer that helps you wrap your arms around this often misunderstood topic. I divide the book into five parts, each of which builds upon the previous ones.

Part I: Signing Up for Basic Training

As you kick off your journey of prayer, Part I helps you discover the essential aspects of prayer, what prayer is not, and why prayer is central to how God works in the world. You then explore when and how to pray, whether you’re at home, on the road, at work, or at play. Before leaving, you study the Lord’s Prayer, the most famous prayer of all time, and find out how you can use it as a model for your own prayers.

Part II: Turbocharging Your Prayers

In Part II, it’s time to get practical. You begin by exploring how to pray on your own and how to best organize your prayers. From there, you start looking at how to use written prayers and Scripture to keep your prayers on track and prevent them from becoming stale. You also discover several proven prayer techniques and aids, including journaling, meditating, fasting, and singing. Furthermore, because wandering thoughts and emotional blocks can kill your prayer life before it ever gets off the ground, you explore how to overcome these and other common hindrances to prayer.

Part III: Praying Well with Others

In Part III, you find out to pray more effectively with others, starting with the most important place of all—your home. You see how prayer can transform your family relationships and how you can create a legacy of prayer for your children. You also discover how to pray in small, informal groups and get an insight into the hodgepodge of issues to think about when praying in formal occasions, such as church services and graduation ceremonies.

Part IV: Tackling Some Tough Issues

Part IV tackles the most difficult and thorny issues associated with prayer. You find out why God sometimes wants you to wait for answers despite your objections, how you can pray according to God’s will and not your own, how to listen to God speak, how God heals in today’s world, and what praying in tongues means. Chapters 16, 17, and 18 are the heart of the book.

Part V: The Part of Tens

In Part V, I provide a variety of resources designed to boost your prayer walk. I begin by listing prayers for ten occasions when you really need them. I continue by providing ten prayers well worth teaching your children or grandchildren. Next, I detail ten retreat and pilgrimage locations that you can visit on special occasions when you want to get away to pray. Finally, I close the part by chronicling what I consider the ten best prayer Web sites.

Assumptions Made in the Book

Christian Prayer For Dummies is a book on Christian prayer, not a general guide to prayer spanning all religious faiths. The primary assumption made in this book is that prayer is directed to the God of the Bible and is in synch with historical Christian beliefs.

The great Christian writer C.S. Lewis used the term “mere Christianity” to describe the core essentials of the Christian faith that any believer, regardless of his or her background, can agree to. In the same way, I focus my discussion on “mere Christian prayer,” or teachings of prayer and practices that Protestants (including both the evangelical and mainline communities), Roman Catholics, and Orthodox Christians all affirm.

Although all Christians can agree on the essentials of prayer, let me be very frank and say that Christians among the different branches of Christianity disagree and sometimes disagree very loudly. When I encounter these debatable issues, I point them out and distinguish among the various traditions.

Christianity is a faith based on real space and time history. The central event is the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ, some 2,000 years ago. All Christian teaching depends on this historical, literal event. The Apostle Paul, who wrote much of the New Testament, concurred when he said that if this fact weren’t true, then everything he and other Christians were doing was a huge waste of time. So, although this book doesn’t address issues concerning the historical reliability of the Christian faith, it does assume that what you read in the Bible is trustworthy and reliable.

Finally, although I certainly don’t expect anyone to be a Bible scholar, I am assuming some very basic knowledge of the Bible, such as knowing what the Old Testament is, who the Israelites and Moses were, and the like. If you’d like a primer on the Bible, I recommend checking out TheBible For Dummies by Jeffrey Geoghegan and Michael Homan (published by Wiley, Inc.).

Conventions Used in This Book

As you read through the book, keep in mind the following conventions:

Each Bible passage cited in the book is from the World English Bible translation (which you can see at www.worldenglishbible.com). On occasion, I paraphrase the text to make it more readable.

Although the Bible uses many terms to describe God, I generally use God and Lord. Also, in accordance with traditional Christian beliefs, I make use of the traditional masculine pronoun he to refer to God.

You find quotes from the some of the top Christian thinkers on prayer scattered throughout the pages of the book. Each quote is relevant to the text of the chapter and helps round out your understanding of the information being discussed.

Icons Used in This Book

Tip draws attention to a key point that can enrich your prayer life.

Pay close attention to the Remember text; it highlights something that is important if you want to deepen your understanding of prayer.

Heed the cautionary tales whenever you see the Warning icon. It saves you from falling into the pitfalls of prayer mistakes and errors.

The Technical Stuff icon identifies cool, hip, and interesting material to read, but it’s more theological or advanced than the rest of the stuff in the book. Technical Stuff information is helpful but not essential.

Where to Go from Here

If you decide to read Christian Prayer For Dummies from start to finish, you will find the topics logically ordered, with each successive chapter rounding out what you discovered in previous chapters. However, because it is a reference book, you don’t have to read the book cover to cover.

What’s more, if you have a specific issue that you’d like to jump to, consider the following jumping-off points:

For the basics of what prayer is and isn’t, see Chapters 1, 2, and 3.

For how, when, and what to pray, see Chapters 4, 5, and 6.

For the two key concepts of Christian prayer—“Thy will be done” and “Ask and you shall receive”—see Chapters 16, 17, and 18.

For knowing how to hear God, see Chapter 19.

For what to do when God doesn’t seem to answer your prayer, see Chapter 18.

For discovering how prayer is related to your relationship with God, see Chapter 3.

For prayer techniques, see Chapters 7, 8, 9, 10, and 11.

For very practical information about praying with others, see Chapters 13, 14, and 15.

For ready-made prayers that kick-start your and your child’s prayer life, see Chapters 22 and 23.

Part I

Signing Up for Basic Training

In this part . . .

Prayer is like a greased pig at a county fair—often pursued but rarely grasped. In this part, you discover the basics of prayer and how to get that lasso going in full motion. You find out what prayer is, how it works, and why it is such a pivotal part of how God works in the world.

Chapter 1

Discovering the Real X-Factor

In This Chapter

Defining prayer

Recognizing the benefits of prayer

Looking at examples of the power of prayer throughout history

Praying with the right attitude

C an you go anywhere these days without seeing someone talking on a cell phone? Take a look around, and you’ll see happy “cellulites” walking down the street, driving a car, or watching a movie. Even the church is not immune—on more than one occasion I’ve heard a cell phone ring in the middle of a service!

In this age of wireless communication, there are virtually no barriers to chatting with a friend on the phone, no matter where you are or what you’re doing. In fact, during a recent car trip across the United States, I was amazed to find my cell phone fully usable in the most remote and barren spots of the Nevada desert.