Living in the Moment E-Book

Anna Black

• Herausgeber: CICO Books
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2014

Beschreibung

Most of us operate on auto-pilot much of the time, passing through the present moment with our mind either caught up in the past or straining toward the future. Through mindfulness meditation, an ancient Buddhist practice, Anna Black shows you how to intentionally pay attention to your daily experience. When we are not being mindful, we miss out on small moments that often are the most valuable be it a beautiful building that we pass on our journey to work, the taste and texture of lovingly prepared food, or the fact that we are needed by those we love the most. By being mindless we miss opportunities for personal growth by not being aware of our shortcomings or our inner strength, or by letting negative thoughts and emotions control us.In mindfulness meditation we pay attention to our ongoing experience whether it is pleasant such as appreciating a starry night sky; unpleasant a disagreement with a loved one; or neutral doing chores. We become aware of our habitual thoughts and behaviours and discover which are helpful and which are not. We learn to listen to the body and pick up warning signs of stress as well as tune in to our inner wisdom. Packed with short and simple meditations, this book can be used by all people, in all walks of life and at any time.Anna Black is a highly qualified mindfulness practitioner, who teaches mindfulness workshops. She has a Masters in Mindfulness-based Approaches to Health and has completed the Advanced Teacher Development Intensive run by teachers from the North Wales Centre for Mindfulness and from the Center for Mindfulness at the University of Massachusetts Hospital, USA. She has an established personal practice in mindfulness and meditation (www.mindfulness-meditation-now.com) and supervises other mindfulness teachers.

Leseprobe

Contents

INTRODUCTION

WHAT IS MINDFULNESS?

MINDFULNESS DEFINED

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF THIS BOOK

HOW CAN MINDFULNESS HELP US?

WHO CAN PRACTICE MINDFULNESS?

COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS

HELPFUL ATTITUDES

POSTURE

TUNING IN TO THE BODY

MINDFULNESS OF BREATHING

CLEANSING THE BODY WITH BREATH

THE HAND

THE FACE

SETTLING IN TO THE BODY

MOVING ATTENTION AROUND THE BODY

STANDING TALL LIKE A MOUNTAIN

STANDING MOVEMENT PRACTICE

SITTING DOWN MOVEMENT PRACTICE

CULTIVATING BODY AWARENESS

WALKING WITH NOWHERE TO GO

CULTIVATING WELL-BEING

MINDFUL EATING

DRINKING TEA

WHO ARE YOU SHOWERING WITH?

DOING THE DISHES TO DO THE DISHES

SPORTS AND LEISURE ACTIVITIES

PREPARING A MEAL

GIVING THANKS

SPACIOUS SKY

OPENING UP TO THE UNIVERSE

“SEEING-DRAWING”

BEING WITH THE GOOD

ALL THAT IS RIGHT WITH ME

MAKING CONTACT

YOU AND YOUR BABY

PARENTING PRACTICE

RINGING TELEPHONE

ON HOLD

BEING PRESENT IN CONVERSATION

SEEING

TOUCHING

STANDING IN SOMEONE ELSE'S SHOES

THE EARTH BENEATH US

BRUSHING HAIR

CREATING A CIRCLE OF KINDNESS

OFFERING KINDNESS TO YOURSELF

THOSE WHO IRRITATE US

WISHING WELL

LETTING GO OF TECHNOLOGY

WEAVING YOUR PARACHUTE

WAKING UP TO MINDLESSNESS

THE BREATH

TAKING A BREATHING SPACE

STAYING WITH THE ITCH

DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT

BEFRIENDING THE WANTING CREATURE

WATCHING RESISTANCE

SITTING LIKE A MOUNTAIN

WHAT IS YOUR WEATHER FORECAST?

HEARING SOUND AND SILENCE

SITTING BY THE WATERFALL

PAYING ATTENTION

THE POWER OF SILENCE

BEING WITH THE DIFFICULT

SITTING AND MOVING WITH THE BREATH

RED MEANS STOP

COMMUTING CHALLENGES

BUMPER TO BUMPER

STAYING GROUNDED

NAMING YOUR DEMONS

BEFRIENDING THE DIFFICULT

JUST ONE BREATH

A WALK IN THE RAIN

OPENING TO THE WIDER WORLD

MOVING IN CLOSER TO PAIN

BEING WITH THE UNPLEASANT

WHERE TO GO NEXT

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

INTRODUCTION

Many of us operate on automatic pilot. How many times have you left the house and then later have no recollection of your actions since then—to the extent that you even might return to check you have actually shut or locked your front door? (And yes, I have done that!) To a certain extent we need to operate that way to get things done in the time we have available. But problems arise when we spend the majority of our life in this way—zoning out of the small, everyday experiences that add color and texture to life. Our lack of attention means we don’t notice or we miss much that is going on and this affects our relationships. We multitask so much that we never stop to take stock of where we are—we are constantly leaning forward to move on to the next thing. Or we might be stuck; paralyzed with thoughts of “what if” or “if only” that prevent us moving forward and dealing with what is going on now. The negativity that arises out of these states of mind affects us even more and we may become anxious or depressed, or we may self-medicate with drugs and alcohol, and so the cycle continues. Very often the cycle is broken only by a major life change—an illness or an accident, a bereavement, a relationship breakdown. These are the type of events that jolt us awake and make us question the way we live. It is often only when everything falls apart that we are prepared (and forced) to make radical changes.

I discovered mindfulness by chance—browsing the local library’s shelves I came across Jon Kabat-Zinn’s book Full Catastrophe Living. Despite its thickness, the sub-title of “How to cope with stress, pain and illness using mindfulness meditation”, sounded promising for someone who was struggling to cope with stress. Reading it was one of those “light bulb” moments as I realized how much energy I was expending trying to keep my life exactly how I thought it should be rather than accepting how it actually was. The realization that I could stop struggling and start from where I actually was, gave me a huge feeling of release—even though the acknowledgment of the size of the gap between reality and expectations was painful.

At the same time I was already interested in meditation, but I was not drawn to any traditional Buddhist orders. I was struggling with the practicalities—for example, in my yoga class the teacher would fold elegantly into the Lotus position and we would go into silence for 20 minutes. I would close my eyes for what seemed an age only to open them and realize that the second hand of the clock had barely moved. I would sit cross-legged, in agony, without a clue what I was supposed to be doing, and wonder how everyone else managed to sit there so serenely. One thing led to another, in the way it does if you let things unfold in their own time. I discovered there was no need to contort myself into an uncomfortable position; gradually, two minutes extended to five, then a few more, and so on.

Taking one step at a time (and a few backward), I began to walk the path of mindfulness, keeping my attention firmly placed in my feet, while retaining an overall sense of the direction I was heading in. My experience of each step encouraged and informed the next. Mindfulness now influences and guides my whole life. Its effects are not always easy to live with, and I often stumble and go off track, but connecting to one’s own inner wisdom and strength takes you to a place of richness. We discover that we have to learn the same lessons over and over again—and that’s okay—one never “arrives,” but instead constantly learns and grows.

I have been influenced and taught so much by so many. Much of that is passed on here in the spirit of sharing that underpins Buddhist teachings, but any mistakes are mine. I hope this book will serve as a taster for the possibilities that mindfulness meditation can bring into your own life and encourage you to explore the subject further. The emphasis is on experimenting with ways to bring mindfulness into your everyday life, and doing this in small steps at a pace that feels right for you. You have a lifetime of moments filled with opportunity ahead of you.

Before trying any of the meditations in the book, it may help to have some understanding of what mindfulness is, where it comes from, and how it is being used today. Although its roots are over 2,500 years old, it is only in the last 30 years or so that it has been used therapeutically and become more mainstream. In this chapter I also highlight the benefits of mindfulness and explain how any one of us can draw out and cultivate these inherent qualities, as well as dispel some common misconceptions about meditation.

The book is designed for dipping in and out of, but before you begin practicing I recommend you read How to Make the Most of this Book. This section has some important information about how to approach the practices and get the most from them, while always looking after yourself. To that end, there is also some guidance on posture and how to assume a position of alert attention that is safe and relaxed. Many of the meditations, though, can be done while you are out and about in daily life.

In mindfulness meditation we are deliberately cultivating particular attitudes that will support our practice and in this chapter I will explain what these are and how they can benefit us—in everyday life as well as in the practices themselves.

Mindfulness Defined

To begin with, it is helpful to have a clear understanding of what mindfulness is: deliberately paying attention to things we normally would not even notice, and becoming aware of our present moment experience as it arises, non-judgmentally, and with kindness and compassion. When we practice mindfulness, we pay attention to what is happening in our mind and our body; to our thoughts—the stories we tell ourselves—as well as to emotions and physical sensations as they are arising.

Origins of Mindfulness

Mindfulness meditation has its origins in Buddhist practices that are over 2,500 years old. Prince Siddhartha, who became the Buddha, dedicated his life to finding the cause of suffering and he recommended mindfulness as a way of overcoming grief, sorrow, pain, and anxiety, and of realizing happiness.

In 1979 mindfulness began to be used therapeutically by Dr Jon Kabat-Zinn and colleagues at the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University of Massachusetts Hospital, USA. Kabat-Zinn developed the eight-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program as a way of helping people learn to live with chronic medical conditions. These were people who the doctors could do nothing more for—for example, those with terminal illness, chronic back pain, or who had HIV. Many of them were suffering from depression and anxiety as a result of their condition.

In MBSR, mindfulness is cultivated through formal meditation practices, such as sitting and the body scan, as well as mindful movement, such as yoga, and informal practices in which participants bring mindfulness meditation into their everyday lives. Through these practices participants discover a different way of being with their suffering. The program cultivates qualities such as patience, acceptance, and equanimity, which enable them to deal with stress, chronic pain, and illness with greater ease, skill, and wisdom. Clinical research has shown that beneficial physical changes occur in participants completing the course, including a stronger immune system, lower blood pressure, and shifts in the way the brain deals with difficult emotions. The benefits of the MBSR program spread by word of mouth and through the media, and it was soon offered to people of all ages in all walks of life. Today, MBSR programs are popular in schools, prisons, and in the sports and business worlds, as well as in healthcare, where they are practiced as much by healthcare providers as by patients themselves.

In 2001 Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) was developed by Mark Williams, John Teasdale, and Zindel V. Segal. Based on MBSR, MBCT was developed specifically for the treatment of depression, but has since been adapted for other clinical conditions, including anxiety, eating disorders, and addictions. MBCT is recommended by NICE (the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence) in the UK for the treatment of depression in individuals who have suffered three or more episodes.

In essence MBSR and MBCT are very similar. There is a difference in that MBSR is usually taught to generic groups of people suffering from a variety of physical and psychological conditions or disorders and/or general life stress, whereas MBCT is usually taught to a group suffering from a specific condition, such as depression or anxiety, and so would include course content appropriate for that condition. However, the emphasis on the deliberate and non-judgmental present-moment awareness of one’s own experience is at the core of both MBSR and MBCT.

The evidence base for the therapeutic uses of mindfulness-based approaches to health is growing all the time. Research is commonly done with participants on a structured eight-week course, incorporating a daily practice of both formal and informal meditations, as well as classroom teaching. The practices in this book are predominantly informal and, although they are not a substitute for therapeutic care, they are a good place to start practicing mindfulness if you are a beginner.

If you already have some experience of mindfulness meditation, I hope this book will encourage you to bring it more into your daily life. While the formal practices are without doubt important, the more we can weave mindfulness into the fabric of our lives, the more we will reap the benefits.

HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF THIS BOOK

The book has been divided into different chapters. If you are new to mindfulness, I recommend you start with some of the body-focused practices in Chapter 2, Tuning in to the Body. These will introduce some core skills, such as breath awareness and moving the attention around the body, which are needed for practices in which we learn to “be with the difficult,” such as pain or anxiety. It is always best to take small steps rather than jump in at the deep end. Chapter 5, Weaving Your Parachute has some foundational practices that underpin and cultivate attitudes and skills, which will help you get the most out of all the meditations. Once you are used to focusing on the breath, it is fine to dip in and out of the different sections.

A key component of mindfulness is the willingness to turn toward the difficult—uncomfortable sensations in the body, painful emotions, or unwanted thoughts. As our awareness increases we notice much that previously we have tuned out from because it was unpleasant or painful, either physically or psychologically. Paying attention to the body can also bring old emotions to the surface. All of this means that, while mindfulness meditation can have many benefits, it can also be stressful and, at times, difficult. If at any time you feel overwhelmed, it is important that you stop immediately. It does not mean that you will never be able to practice mindfulness, but perhaps it might be better to do it with the support of a teacher or at a time when things are less stressful for you. If in doubt, always seek the advice of your doctor.

I recommend that you take the time to read through the following guidance before embarking on any of the practices. When you come to do a practice, I suggest you read it through a few times and then set aside the book and have a go. There is never just one way to do something and the instructions are for guidance only. The more you do the practices the more you will make them your own, using your own words, phrases, and rhythms that will have a particular resonance for you. Feel free also to make practices longer or shorter as you wish. Many of them can be extended to whatever time you have available.

The more you do the practices the more you will make them your own, using your own words, phrases, and rhythms

Remember

★ Mindfulness is about deliberately paying attention to your experience, without judgment, as it unfolds—noticing what is happening physically in the body and where. It also involves being aware of what emotions are arising and the tone of these feelings, as well as noticing the stories we tell ourselves.

★ The emphasis is always on what is happening, not why it is happening.

★ We use our senses—sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell—to explore our experience.

★ We never look for a particular experience. There is no right or wrong experience. Whatever your experience is, this is your experience in this moment.

★ If at any time you get lost in a practice, just bring your attention back to the physical sensations of breathing.

Questions you might ask yourself while practicing are:

★ What am I feeling physically in my body? Notice what the sensation is, where it is located and its particular characteristic—for example, whether it is constant or changing, and so on.

★ What am I feeling emotionally? If you identify a particular emotion—for example, anger—ask yourself: How do I know I am feeling angry? Where am I experiencing anger in my body? What do the physical sensations of anger feel like? How would I describe them?

★ What thoughts are arising? What stories am I telling myself about my experience?

You can do many of the practices while you are out and about in your daily life—standing in lines, or sitting in your car or a waiting room. But for others you will need to find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. I have known students who retire to the bathroom at work in order to have a few minutes undisturbed meditation time!

Wherever you are, I suggest you turn off or unplug your phone. If you are worried about finishing at a particular time, I would recommend setting your phone to vibrate or using a timer or alarm clock, but perhaps put it under a cushion or a pillow so that the sudden ringing does not startle you too much. There is some guidance about posture.

Some people find keeping a meditation journal helpful so that they can record their experiences, and nowadays there are even phone apps that allow you to do this.

It is easy for your mindfulness practice to be relegated to yet another item on your list of things to do, so I suggest you keep it simple and perhaps focus on just one practice to start with. It’s best to do one practice several times a week, or whenever you remember, before experimenting with something new. Congratulate yourself on what you do manage to do rather than berate yourself for what you don’t accomplish.