HOUSEHOLD PAPERS AND
STORIES
HOUSE AND HOME PAPERS
I
- THE RAVAGES OF A
CARPET
"My dear, it's so cheap!"
These words were spoken by my
wife, as she sat gracefully on a roll of Brussels carpet which was
spread out in flowery lengths on the floor of Messrs. Ketchem &
Co.
"It's so cheap!"
Milton says that the love of fame
is the last infirmity of noble minds. I think he had not rightly
considered the subject. I believe that last infirmity is the love
of getting things cheap! Understand me, now. I don't mean the love
of getting cheap things, by which one understands showy, trashy,
ill-made, spurious articles, bearing certain apparent resemblances
to better things. All really sensible people are quite superior to
that sort of cheapness. But those fortunate accidents, which put
within the power of a man things really good and valuable for half
or a third of their value, what mortal virtue and resolution can
withstand? My friend Brown has a genuine Murillo, the joy of his
heart and the light of his eyes, but he never fails to tell you,
as its crowning merit, how he bought it in South America for just
nothing,--how it hung smoky and deserted in the back of a
counting-room, and was thrown in as a makeweight to bind a
bargain, and, upon being cleaned turned out a genuine Murillo;
and then he takes out his cigar, and calls your attention to the
points in it; he adjusts the curtain to let the sunlight fall
just in the right spot; he takes you to this and the other point
of view; and all this time you must confess that, in your mind as
well as his, the consideration that he got all this beauty for ten
dollars adds lustre to the painting. Brown has paintings there
for which he paid his thousands, and, being well advised, they are
worth the thousands he paid; but this ewe lamb that he got for
nothing always gives him a secret exaltation in his own eyes. He
seems to have credited to himself personally merit to the amount of
what he should have paid for the picture. Then there is Mrs.
Croesus, at the party yesterday evening, expatiating to my wife on
the surprising cheapness of her point-lace set. "Got for just
nothing at all, my dear!" and a circle of admiring listeners
echoes the sound. "Did you ever hear anything like it? I never
heard of such a thing in my life;" and away sails Mrs.
Croesus as if she had a collar
composed of all the cardinal virtues. In fact, she is
buoyed up with a secret sense of
merit, so that her satin slippers scarcely touch the carpet. Even I
myself am fond of showing a first edition of "Paradise Lost" for
which I gave a shilling in a London bookstall, and stating that I
would not take a hundred dollars for it. Even I must confess there
are points on which I am mortal.
But all this while my wife sits
on her roll of carpet, looking into my face for approbation, and
Marianne and Jenny are pouring into my ear a running fire of "How
sweet! How lovely! Just like that one of Mrs. Tweedleum's!"
"And she gave two dollars and
seventy-five cents a yard for hers, and this is"--
My wife here put her hand to her
mouth and pronounced the incredible sum in a whisper, with a
species of sacred awe, common, as I have observed, to females in
such interesting crises. In fact Mr. Ketchem, standing smiling and
amiable by, remarked to me that really he hoped Mrs. Crowfield
would not name generally what she gave for the article, for
positively it was so far below the usual rate of prices that he
might give offense to other customers; but this was the very last
of the pattern, and they were anxious to close off the old stock,
and we had always traded with them, and he had a great respect for
my wife's father, who had always traded with their firm, and so,
when there were any little bargains to be thrown in any one's way,
why, he naturally, of course--And here Mr. Ketchem bowed gracefully
over the yardstick to my wife, and I consented.
Yes, I consented; but whenever I
think of myself at that moment, I always am reminded, in a small
way, of Adam taking the apple; and my wife, seated on that roll of
carpet, has more than once suggested to my mind the classic image
of Pandora opening her unlucky box. In fact, from the moment I had
blandly assented to Mr. Ketchem's remarks, and said to my wife,
with a gentle air of dignity, "Well, my dear, since it suits you, I
think you had better take it," there came a load on my prophetic
soul which not all the fluttering and chattering of my delighted
girls and the more placid complacency of my wife could entirely
dissipate. I presaged I know not what of coming woe, and all I
presaged came to pass.
In order to know just what came
to pass, I must give you a view of the house and home into which
this carpet was introduced.
My wife and I were somewhat
advanced housekeepers, and our dwelling was first furnished by her
father, in the old-fashioned jog-trot days when furniture was made
with a view to its lasting from generation to generation.
Everything was strong and comfortable,--heavy mahogany, guiltless
of the modern device of veneering, and hewed out with a square
solidity which had not an idea of change. It was, so to speak, a
sort of granite foundation of the household structure. Then
we commenced housekeeping with
the full idea that our house was a thing to be lived in, and that
furniture was made to be used. That most sensible of women, Mrs.
Crowfield, agreed fully with me that in our house there was to be
nothing too good for ourselves,--no room shut up in holiday attire
to be enjoyed by strangers for three or four days in the year,
while we lived in holes and corners; no best parlor from which we
were to be excluded; no silver plate to be kept in the safe in the
bank, and brought home only in case of a grand festival, while
our daily meals were served with dingy Britannia. "Strike a
broad, plain average," I said to my wife; "have everything
abundant, serviceable, and give all our friends exactly what we
have ourselves, no better and no worse;" and my wife smiled
approval on my sentiment.
Smile? she did more than smile.
My wife resembles one of those convex mirrors I have sometimes
seen. Every idea I threw out, plain and simple, she reflected back
upon me in a thousand little glitters and twinkles of her own; she
made my crude conceptions come back to me in such perfectly
dazzling performances that I hardly recognized them. My mind
warms up when I think what a home that woman made of our house from
the very first day she moved into it. The great, large, airy
parlor, with its ample bow-window, when she had arranged it, seemed
a perfect trap to catch sunbeams. There was none of that
discouraging trimness and newness that often repel a man's bachelor
friends after the first call, and make them feel, "Oh, well,
one cannot go in at Crowfield's now, unless one is dressed; one
might put them out." The first thing our parlor said to any one
was, that we were not people to be put out, that we were
widespread, easy-going, and jolly folk. Even if Tom Brown brought
in Ponto and his shooting-bag, there was nothing in that parlor to
strike terror into man and dog; for it was written on the face of
things that everybody there was to do just as he or she
pleased. There were my books and my writing-table spread out with
all its miscellaneous confusion of papers on one side of the
fireplace, and there were my wife's great, ample sofa and
work-table on the other; there I wrote my articles for the "North
American;" and there she turned and ripped and altered her dresses;
and there lay crochet and knitting and embroidery side by side with
a weekly basket of family mending, and in neighborly contiguity
with the last book of the season, which my wife turned over as she
took her after-dinner lounge on the sofa. And in the bow-window
were canaries always singing, and a great stand of plants always
fresh and blooming, and ivy which grew and clambered and twined
about the pictures. Best of all, there was in our parlor that
household altar, the blazing wood fire, whose wholesome, hearty
crackle is the truest household inspiration. I quite agree with one
celebrated American author who holds that an open fireplace is an
altar of patriotism. Would our Revolutionary fathers have gone
barefooted and bleeding over snows to defend air-tight stoves and
cooking-ranges? I trow not. It was the memory of the great open
kitchen-fire, with its back log and fore stick of cord-wood, its
roaring, hilarious voice of invitation, its dancing tongues
of
flame, that called to them
through the snows of that dreadful winter to keep up their courage,
that made their hearts warm and bright with a thousand reflected
memories. Our neighbors said that it was delightful to sit by our
fire,--but then, for their part, they could not afford it, wood was
so ruinously dear, and all that. Most of these people could not,
for the simple reason that they felt compelled, in order to
maintain the family dignity, to keep up a parlor with great pomp
and circumstance of upholstery, where they sat only on dress
occasions, and of course the wood fire was out of the
question.
When children began to make
their appearance in our establishment, my wife, like a
well-conducted housekeeper, had the best of nursery
arrangements,--a room all warmed, lighted, and ventilated, and
abounding in every proper resource of amusement to the rising race;
but it was astonishing to see how, notwithstanding this, the
centripetal attraction drew every pair of little pattering feet to
our parlor.
"My dear, why don't you take your
blocks upstairs?"
"I want to be where oo are," said
with a piteous under lip, was generally a most convincing
answer.
Then, the small people could not
be disabused of the idea that certain chief treasures of their own
would be safer under papa's writing-table or mamma's sofa than in
the safest closet of their domains. My writing-table was dockyard
for Arthur's new ship, and stable for little Tom's
pepper-and-salt-colored pony, and carriage-house for Charley's new
wagon, while whole armies of paper dolls kept house in the recess
behind mamma's sofa.
And then, in due time, came the
tribe of pets who followed the little ones and rejoiced in the
blaze of the firelight. The boys had a splendid Newfoundland,
which, knowing our weakness, we warned them with awful gravity was
never to be a parlor dog; but somehow, what with little beggings
and pleadings on the part of Arthur and Tom, and the piteous
melancholy with which Rover would look through the window-panes
when shut out from the blazing warmth into the dark, cold veranda,
it at last came to pass that Rover gained a regular corner at the
hearth, a regular status in every family convocation. And then came
a little black- and-tan English terrier for the girls; and then a
fleecy poodle, who established himself on the corner of my wife's
sofa; and for each of these some little voice pleaded, and some
little heart would be so near broken at any slight that my wife and
I resigned ourselves to live in a menagerie, the more so as we were
obliged to confess a lurking weakness towards these four-footed
children ourselves.
So we grew and flourished
together,--children, dogs, birds, flowers, and all; and
although my wife often, in
paroxysms of housewifeliness to which the best of women are
subject, would declare that we never were fit to be seen, yet I
comforted her with the reflection that there were few people whose
friends seemed to consider them better worth seeing, judging by the
stream of visitors and loungers which was always setting towards
our parlor. People seemed to find it good to be there; they said it
was somehow home-like and pleasant, and that there was a kind
of charm about it that made it easy to talk and easy to live; and
as my girls and boys grew up, there seemed always to be some merry
doing or other going on there. Arty and Tom brought home their
college friends, who straightway took root there and seemed to
fancy themselves a part of us. We had no reception-rooms apart,
where the girls were to receive young gentlemen; all the courting
and flirting that were to be done had for their arena the ample
variety of surface presented by our parlor, which, with sofas and
screens and lounges and recesses, and writing and work tables,
disposed here and there, and the genuine laisser aller of the whole
mènage, seemed, on the whole, to have offered ample advantages
enough; for at the time I write of, two daughters were already
established in marriage, while my youngest was busy, as yet, in
performing that little domestic ballet of the cat with the mouse,
in the case of a most submissive youth of the neighborhood.
All this time our parlor
furniture, though of that granitic formation I have indicated,
began to show marks of that decay to which things sublunary
are liable. I cannot say that I dislike this look in a room.
Take a fine, ample, hospitable apartment, where all things,
freely and generously used, softly and indefinably grow old
together, there is a sort of mellow tone and keeping which pleases
my eye. What if the seams of the great inviting armchair, where so
many friends have sat and lounged, do grow white? What, in fact, if
some easy couch has an undeniable hole worn in its friendly cover?
I regard with tenderness even these mortal weaknesses of these
servants and witnesses of our good times and social fellowship. No
vulgar touch wore them; they may be called, rather, the marks and
indentations which the glittering in and out of the tide of social
happiness has worn in the rocks of our strand. I would no more
disturb the gradual toning-down and aging of a well-used set of
furniture by smart improvements than I would have a modern dauber
paint in emendations in a fine old picture.
So we men reason, but women do
not always think as we do. There is a virulent demon of
housekeeping not wholly cast out in the best of them, and which
often breaks out in unguarded moments. In fact Miss Marianne, being
on the lookout for furniture wherewith to begin a new
establishment, and Jenny, who had accompanied her in her
peregrinations, had more than once thrown out little disparaging
remarks on the time-worn appearance of our establishment,
suggesting comparison with those of more modern furnished
rooms.
"It is positively scandalous, the
way our furniture looks," I one day heard one of them declaring to
her mother; "and this old rag of a carpet!"
My feelings were hurt, not the
less so that I knew that the large cloth which covered the middle
of the floor, and which the women call a bocking, had been bought
and nailed down there, after a solemn family council, as the best
means of concealing the too evident darns which years of good cheer
had made needful in our stanch old household friend, the three-ply
carpet, made in those days when to be a three-ply was a pledge of
continuance and service.
Well, it was a joyous and
bustling day when, after one of those domestic whirlwinds which the
women are fond of denominating house-cleaning, the new Brussels
carpet was at length brought in and nailed down, and its beauty
praised from mouth to mouth. Our old friends called in and admired,
and all seemed to be well, except that I had that light and
delicate presage of changes to come which indefinitely brooded over
me.
The first premonitory symptom was
the look of apprehensive suspicion with which the female senate
regarded the genial sunbeams that had always glorified our
bow-window.
"This house ought to have inside
blinds," said Marianne, with all the confident decision of youth;
"this carpet will be ruined if that sun is allowed to come in like
that."
"And that dirty little canary
must really be hung in the kitchen," said Jenny; "he always did
make such a litter, scattering his seed chippings about; and he
never takes his bath without flirting out some water. And, mamma,
it appears to me it will never do to have the plants here. Plants
are always either leaking through the pots upon the carpet, or
scattering bits of blossoms and dead leaves, or some accident
upsets or breaks a pot. It was no matter, you know, when we had the
old carpet; but this we really want to have kept nice."
Mamma stood her ground for the
plants,--darlings of her heart for many a year,-- but temporized,
and showed that disposition towards compromise which is most
inviting to aggression.
I confess I trembled; for, of all
radicals on earth, none are to be compared to females that have
once in hand a course of domestic innovation and reform. The sacred
fire, the divine furor, burns in their bosoms; they become perfect
Pythonesses, and every chair they sit on assumes the magic
properties of the tripod. Hence the dismay that lodges in the
bosoms of us males at the fateful
spring and autumn seasons
denominated house-cleaning. Who can say whither the awful gods,
the prophetic fates, may drive our fair household divinities; what
sins of ours may be brought to light; what indulgences and
compliances, which uninspired woman has granted in her ordinary
mortal hours, may be torn from us? He who has been allowed to keep
a pair of pet slippers in a concealed corner, and by the fireside
indulged with a chair which he might ad libitum fill with all sorts
of pamphlets and miscellaneous literature, suddenly finds himself
reformed out of knowledge, his pamphlets tucked away into
pigeonholes and corners, and his slippers put in their place in
the hall, with, perhaps, a brisk insinuation about the
shocking dust and disorder that men will tolerate.
The fact was, that the very first
night after the advent of the new carpet I had a prophetic dream.
Among our treasures of art was a little etching, by an English
artist friend, the subject of which was the gambols of the
household fairies in a baronial library after the household were in
bed. The little people are represented in every attitude of frolic
enjoyment. Some escalade the great armchair, and look down from its
top as from a domestic Mont Blanc; some climb about the bellows;
some scale the shaft of the shovel; while some, forming in magic
ring, dance festively on the yet glowing hearth. Tiny troops
promenade the writing-table. One perches himself quaintly on the
top of the inkstand, and holds colloquy with another who sits
cross-legged on a paper weight, while a companion looks down on
them from the top of the sandbox. It was an ingenious little
device, and gave me the idea, which I often expressed to my wife,
that much of the peculiar feeling of security, composure, and
enjoyment which seems to be the atmosphere of some rooms and
houses came from the unsuspected presence of these little people,
the household fairies, so that the belief in their existence
became a solemn article of faith with me.
Accordingly, that evening, after
the installation of the carpet, when my wife and daughters had gone
to bed, as I sat with my slippered feet before the last coals of
the fire, I fell asleep in my chair, and, lo! my own parlor
presented to my eye a scene of busy life. The little people in
green were tripping to and fro, but in great confusion. Evidently
something was wrong among them; for they were fussing and
chattering with each other, as if preparatory to a general
movement. In the region of the bow-window I observed a tribe of
them standing with tiny valises and carpetbags in their hands, as
though about to depart on a journey. On my writing-table another
set stood around my inkstand and pen-rack, who, pointing to those
on the floor, seemed to debate some question among themselves;
while others of them appeared to be collecting and packing away in
tiny trunks certain fairy treasures, preparatory to a general
departure. When I looked at the social hearth, at my wife's sofa
and work-basket, I saw similar appearances of dissatisfaction and
confusion. It was evident that the household fairies were
discussing the question of a general and simultaneous removal. I
groaned in
spirit, and, stretching out my
hand, began a conciliatory address, when whisk went the whole
scene from before my eyes, and I awaked to behold the form of my
wife asking me if I were ill, or had had the nightmare, that I
groaned so. I told her my dream, and we laughed at it
together.
"We must give way to the girls a
little," she said. "It is natural, you know, that they should wish
us to appear a little as other people do. The fact is, our parlor
is somewhat dilapidated; think how many years we have lived in it
without an article of new furniture."
"I hate new furniture," I
remarked, in the bitterness of my soul. "I hate anything
new."
My wife answered me discreetly,
according to approved principles of diplomacy. I was right. She
sympathized with me. At the same time, it was not necessary, she
remarked, that we should keep a hole in our sofa-cover and
armchair,--there would certainly be no harm in sending them to the
upholsterer's to be new- covered; she didn't much mind, for her
part, moving her plants to the south back room; and the bird would
do well enough in the kitchen: I had often complained of him for
singing vociferously when I was reading aloud.
So our sofa went to the
upholsterer's; but the upholsterer was struck with such horror at
its clumsy, antiquated, unfashionable appearance that he felt bound
to make representations to my wife and daughters: positively, it
would be better for them to get a new one, of a tempting pattern
which he showed them, than to try to do anything with that. With a
stitch or so here and there it might do for a basement dining-room;
but, for a parlor, he gave it as his disinterested opinion,-- he
must say, if the case were his own, he should get, etc., etc. In
short, we had a new sofa and new chairs, and the plants and the
birds were banished, and some dark-green blinds were put up to
exclude the sun from the parlor, and the blessed luminary was
allowed there only at rare intervals, when my wife and daughters
were out shopping, and I acted out my uncivilized male instincts by
pulling up every shade and vivifying the apartment as in days of
old.
But this was not the worst of it.
The new furniture and new carpet formed an opposition party in the
room. I believe in my heart that for every little household fairy
that went out with the dear old things there came in a tribe of
discontented brownies with the new ones. These little wretches were
always twitching at the gowns of my wife and daughters, jogging
their elbows, and suggesting odious comparisons between the smart
new articles and what remained of the old ones. They disparaged my
writing-table in the corner; they disparaged the old-fashioned
lounge in the other corner, which had been the maternal throne for
years; they disparaged the work-table, the work-basket, with
constant suggestions of how
such things as these would look
in certain well-kept parlors where new-fashioned furniture of the
same sort as ours existed.
"We don't have any parlor," said
Jenny one day. "Our parlor has always been a sort of log
cabin,--library, study, nursery, greenhouse, all combined. We never
have had things like other people."
"Yes, and this open fire makes
such a dust; and this carpet is one that shows every speck of dust;
it keeps one always on the watch."
"I wonder why papa never had a
study to himself; I'm sure I should think he would like it better
than sitting here among us all. Now there's the great south room
off the dining-room; if he would only move his things there and
have his open fire, we could then close up the fireplace and put
lounges in the recesses, and mamma could have her things in the
nursery,--and then we should have a parlor fit to be seen."
I overheard all this, though I
pretended not to,--the little busy chits supposing me entirely
buried in the recesses of a German book over which I was
poring.
There are certain crises in a
man's life when the female element in his household asserts itself
in dominant forms that seem to threaten to overwhelm him. The fair
creatures, who in most matters have depended on his judgment,
evidently look upon him at these seasons as only a forlorn,
incapable male creature, to be cajoled and flattered and
persuaded out of his native blindness and absurdity into the
fairyland of their wishes.
"Of course, mamma," said the busy
voices, "men can't understand such things. What can men know of
housekeeping, and how things ought to look? Papa never goes into
company; he don't know and don't care how the world is doing, and
don't see that nobody now is living as we do."
"Aha, my little mistresses, are
you there?" I thought; and I mentally resolved on opposing a great
force of what our politicians call backbone to this pretty domestic
conspiracy.
"When you get my writing-table
out of this corner, my pretty dears, I'd thank you to let me know
it."
Thus spake I in my blindness,
fool that I was. Jupiter might as soon keep awake when Juno came in
best bib and tucker, and with the cestus of Venus, to get him to
sleep. Poor Slender might as well hope to get the better of pretty
Mistress Anne Page as one of us clumsy-footed men might endeavor to
escape from the tangled
labyrinth of female wiles.
In short, in less than a year it
was all done, without any quarrel, any noise, any violence,--done,
I scarce knew when or how, but with the utmost deference to my
wishes, the most amiable hopes that I would not put myself out, the
most sincere protestations that, if I liked it better as it was, my
goddesses would give up and acquiesce. In fact I seemed to do it of
myself, constrained thereto by what the Emperor Napoleon has so
happily called the logic of events,--that old, well-known logic by
which the man who has once said A must say B, and he who has said B
must say the whole alphabet. In a year we had a parlor with two
lounges in decorous recesses, a fashionable sofa, and six chairs
and a looking-glass, and a grate always shut up, and a hole in the
floor which kept the parlor warm, and great, heavy curtains that
kept out all the light that was not already excluded by the green
shades.
It was as proper and orderly a
parlor as those of our most fashionable neighbors; and when our
friends called, we took them stumbling into its darkened solitude,
and opened a faint crack in one of the window-shades, and came
down in our best clothes and talked with them there. Our old
friends rebelled at this, and asked what they had done to be
treated so, and complained so bitterly that gradually we let them
into the secret that there was a great south room, which I had
taken for my study, where we all sat; where the old carpet was
down; where the sun shone in at the great window; where my wife's
plants flourished, and the canary-bird sang, and my wife had her
sofa in the corner, and the old brass andirons glistened, and the
wood fire crackled,--in short, a room to which all the household
fairies had emigrated.
When they once had found that
out, it was difficult to get any of them to sit in our parlor. I
had purposely christened the new room my study, that I might stand
on my rights as master of ceremonies there, though I opened wide
arms of welcome to any who chose to come. So, then, it would often
come to pass that, when we were sitting round the fire in my study
of an evening, the girls would say,--
"Come, what do we always stay
here for? Why don't we ever sit in the parlor?"
And then there would be
manifested among guests and family friends a general unwillingness
to move.
"Oh, hang it, girls!" would
Arthur say; "the parlor is well enough, all right; let it stay as
it is, and let a fellow stay where he can do as he pleases and
feels at home;" and to this view of the matter would respond divers
of the nice young bachelors who were Arthur's and Tom's sworn
friends.
In fact nobody wanted to stay in
our parlor now. It was a cold, correct, accomplished fact; the
household fairies had left it,--and when the fairies leave a room,
nobody ever feels at home in it. No pictures, curtains, no wealth
of mirrors, no elegance of lounges, can in the least make up for
their absence. They are a capricious little set; there are rooms
where they will not stay, and rooms where they will; but no one can
ever have a good time without them.
II
- HOMEKEEPING VERSUS
HOUSEKEEPING
I am a frank-hearted man, as
perhaps you have by this time perceived, and you will not,
therefore, be surprised to know that I read my last article on the
carpet to my wife and the girls before I sent it to the "Atlantic,"
and we had a hearty laugh over it together. My wife and the girls,
in fact, felt that they could afford to laugh, for they had carried
their point, their reproach among women was taken away, they had
become like other folks. Like other folks they had a parlor, an
undeniable best parlor, shut up and darkened, with all proper
carpets, curtains, lounges, and marble-topped tables, too good for
human nature's daily food; and being sustained by this
consciousness, they cheerfully went on receiving their friends in
the study, and having good times in the old free-and-easy way; for
did not everybody know that this room was not their best? and if
the furniture was old-fashioned and a little the worse for
antiquity, was it not certain that they had better, which they
could use if they would?
"And supposing we wanted to give
a party," said Jenny, "how nicely our parlor would light up! Not
that we ever do give parties, but if we should,--and for a
wedding-reception, you know."
I felt the force of the
necessity; it was evident that the four or five hundred extra which
we had expended was no more than such solemn possibilities
required.
"Now, papa thinks we have been
foolish," said Marianne, "and he has his own way of making a good
story of it; but, after all, I desire to know if people are never
to get a new carpet. Must we keep the old one till it actually
wears to tatters?"
This is a specimen of the
reductio ad absurdum which our fair antagonists of the other sex
are fond of employing. They strip what we say of all delicate
shadings and illusory phrases, and reduce it to some bare question
of fact, with which they make a home-thrust at us.
"Yes, that's it; are people never
to get a new carpet?" echoed Jenny. "My dears," I replied, "it
is a fact that to introduce anything new into an
apartment hallowed by many home
associations, where all things have grown old
together, requires as much care
and adroitness as for an architect to restore an arch or niche in a
fine old ruin. The fault of our carpet was that it was in another
style from everything in our room, and made everything in it look
dilapidated. Its colors, material, and air belonged to another
manner of life, and were a constant plea for alterations; and you
see it actually drove out and expelled the whole
furniture of the room, and I am
not sure yet that it may not entail on us the necessity of
refurnishing the whole house."
"My dear!" said my wife, in a
tone of remonstrance; but Jane and Marianne laughed and
colored.
"Confess, now," said I, looking
at them; "have you not had secret designs on the hall and stair
carpet?"
"Now, papa, how could you know
it? I only said to Marianne that to have Brussels in the parlor and
that old mean-looking ingrain carpet in the hall did not seem
exactly the thing; and in fact you know, mamma, Messrs. Ketchem
& Co. showed us such a lovely pattern, designed to harmonize
with our parlor carpet."
"I know it, girls," said my wife;
"but you know I said at once that such an expense was not to be
thought of."
"Now, girls," said I, "let me
tell you a story I heard once of a very sensible old New England
minister, who lived, as our country ministers generally do, rather
near to the bone, but still quite contentedly. It was in the days
when knee-breeches and long stockings were worn, and this good man
was offered a present of a very nice pair of black silk hose. He
declined, saying he 'could not afford to wear them.'"
"'Not afford it?' said the
friend; 'why, I give them to you.'
"'Exactly; but it will cost me
not less than two hundred dollars to take them, and I cannot do
it.'
"'How is that?'
"'Why, in the first place, I
shall no sooner put them on than my wife will say, "My dear, you
must have a new pair of knee-breeches," and I shall get them. Then
my wife will say, "My dear, how shabby your coat is! You must have
a new one," and I shall get a new coat. Then she will say, "Now, my
dear, that hat will never do," and then I shall have a new hat; and
then I shall say, "My dear, it will never do for me to be so fine
and you to wear your old gown," and so my wife will get a new gown;
and then the new gown will require a new shawl and a new bonnet;
all of which we shall not feel the need of if I don't take this
pair of silk stockings, for, as long as we don't see them, our old
things seem very well suited to each other.'"
The girls laughed at this story,
and I then added, in my most determined manner,--
"But I must warn you, girls, that
I have compromised to the utmost extent of my power, and that I
intend to plant myself on the old stair carpet in determined
resistance. I have no mind to be forbidden the use of the front
stairs, or condemned to get up into my bedroom by a private ladder,
as I should be immediately if there were a new carpet down."
"Why, papa!"
"Would it not be so? Can the sun
shine in the parlor now for fear of fading the carpet? Can we keep
a fire there for fear of making dust, or use the lounges and sofas
for fear of wearing them out? If you got a new entry and stair
carpet, as I said, I should have to be at the expense of another
staircase to get up to our bedroom."
"Oh no, papa," said Jane
innocently; "there are very pretty druggets now for covering stair
carpets, so that they can be used without hurting them."
"Put one over the old carpet,
then," said I, "and our acquaintance will never know but it is a
new one."
All the female senate laughed at
this proposal, and said it sounded just like a man.
"Well," said I, standing up
resolutely for my sex, "a man's ideas on woman's matters may be
worth some attention. I flatter myself that an intelligent,
educated man doesn't think upon and observe with interest any
particular subject for years of his life without gaining some ideas
respecting it that are good for something; at all events, I have
written another article for the 'Atlantic,' which I will read
to you."
"Well, wait one minute, papa,
till we get our work," said the girls, who, to say the truth,
always exhibit a flattering interest in anything their papa writes,
and who have the good taste never to interrupt his readings with
any conversations in an undertone on cross-stitch and floss-silks,
as the manner of some is. Hence the little feminine bustle of
arranging all these matters beforehand. Jane, or Jenny, as I
call her in my good-natured moods, put on a fresh clear stick of
hickory, of that species denominated shagbark, which is full of
most charming slivers, burning with such a clear flame, and
emitting such a delicious perfume in burning, that I would not
change it with the millionaire who kept up his fire with
cinnamon.
You must know, my dear Mr.
Atlantic, and you, my confidential friends of the reading public,
that there is a certain magic or spiritualism which I have
the
knack of in regard to these mine
articles, in virtue of which my wife and daughters never hear
or see the little personalities respecting them which form parts of
my papers. By a peculiar arrangement which I have made with the
elves of the inkstand and the familiar spirits of the quill, a sort
of glamour falls on their eyes and ears when I am reading, or when
they read the parts personal to themselves; otherwise their sense
of feminine propriety would be shocked at the free way in which
they and their most internal affairs are confidentially spoken of
between me and you, O loving readers.
Thus, in an undertone, I tell you
that my little Jenny, as she is zealously and systematically
arranging the fire, and trimly whisking every untidy particle of
ashes from the hearth, shows in every movement of her little hands,
in the cock of her head, in the knowing, observing glance of her
eye, and in all her energetic movements, that her small person is
endued and made up of the very expressed essence of
housewifeliness,--she is the very attar, not of roses, but of
housekeeping. Care-taking and thrift and neatness are a nature to
her; she is as dainty and delicate in her person as a white cat, as
everlastingly busy as a bee; and all the most needful faculties of
time, weight, measure, and proportion ought to be fully developed
in her skull, if there is any truth in phrenology. Besides all
this, she has a sort of hard-grained little vein of common sense,
against which my fanciful conceptions and poetical notions are apt
to hit with just a little sharp grating, if they are not well put.
In fact, this kind of woman needs carefully to be idealized in the
process of education, or she will stiffen and dry, as she grows
old, into a veritable household Pharisee, a sort of domestic
tyrant. She needs to be trained in artistic values and artistic
weights and measures, to study all the arts and sciences of the
beautiful, and then she is charming. Most useful, most needful,
these little women: they have the centripetal force which keeps all
the domestic planets from gyrating and frisking in unseemly orbits,
and, properly trained, they fill a house with the beauty of order,
the harmony and consistency of proportion, the melody of things
moving in time and tune, without violating the graceful appearance
of ease which Art requires.
So I had an eye to Jenny's
education in my article which I unfolded and read, and which was
entitled
HOMEKEEPING VERSUS
HOUSEKEEPING
There are many women who know how
to keep a house, but there are but few that know how to keep a
home. To keep a house may seem a complicated affair, but it is a
thing that may be learned; it lies in the region of the material;
in the region of weight, measure, color, and the positive forces of
life. To keep a home lies not merely in the sphere of all these,
but it takes in the intellectual, the social, the spiritual, the
immortal.
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Here the hickory stick broke in
two, and the two brands fell controversially out and apart on the
hearth, scattering the ashes and coals, and calling for Jenny and
the hearth-brush. Your wood fire has this foible, that it needs
something to be done to it every five minutes; but, after all,
these little interruptions of our bright-faced genius are like the
piquant sallies of a clever friend,--they do not strike us as
unreasonable.
When Jenny had laid down her
brush she said,--
"Seems to me, papa, you are
beginning to soar into metaphysics."
"Everything in creation is
metaphysical in its abstract terms," said I, with a look calculated
to reduce her to a respectful condition. "Everything has a
subjective and an objective mode of presentation."
"There papa goes with subjective
and objective!" said Marianne. "For my part, I never can remember
which is which."
"I remember," said Jenny; "it's
what our old nurse used to call internal and out- ternal,--I always
remember by that."
"Come, my dears," said my wife,
"let your father read;" so I went on as follows:--
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I remember in my bachelor days
going with my boon companion, Bill Carberry, to look at the house
to which he was in a few weeks to introduce his bride. Bill was a
gallant, free-hearted, open-handed fellow, the life of our whole
set, and we felt that natural aversion to losing him that bachelor
friends would. How could we tell under what strange aspects he
might look forth upon us, when once he had
passed into "that undiscovered
country" of matrimony? But Bill laughed to scorn our
apprehensions.
"I'll tell you what, Chris," he
said, as he sprang cheerily up the steps and unlocked the
door of his future dwelling, "do you know what I chose this house
for? Because it's a social-looking house. Look there, now," he
said, as he ushered me into a pair of parlors,--"look at those long
south windows, the sun lies there nearly all day long; see what a
capital corner there is for a lounging-chair; fancy us, Chris, with
our books or our paper, spread out loose and easy, and Sophie
gliding in and out like a sunbeam. I'm getting poetical, you
see. Then, did you ever see a better, wider, airier dining-room?
What capital suppers and things we'll have there! the nicest
times,--everything free and easy, you know,--just what I've always
wanted a house for. I tell you, Chris, you and Tom Innis shall have
latch- keys just like mine, and there is a capital chamber there at
the head of the stairs, so that you can be free to come and go. And
here now's the library,--fancy this full of books and engravings
from the ceiling to the floor; here you shall come just as you
please and ask no questions,--all the same as if it were your
own, you know."
"And Sophie, what will she say to
all this?"
"Why, you know Sophie is a prime
friend to both of you, and a capital girl to keep things going. Oh,
Sophie'll make a house of this, you may depend!"
A day or two after, Bill dragged
me stumbling over boxes and through straw and wrappings to show me
the glories of the parlor furniture, with which he seemed pleased
as a child with a new toy.
"Look here," he said; "see these
chairs, garnet-colored satin, with a pattern on each; well, the
sofa's just like them, and the curtains to match, and the carpets
made for the floor with centrepieces and borders. I never saw
anything more magnificent in my life. Sophie's governor furnishes
the house, and everything is to be A No. 1, and all that, you see.
Messrs. Curtain & Collamore are coming to make the rooms up,
and her mother is busy as a bee getting us in order."
"Why, Bill," said I, "you are
going to be lodged like a prince. I hope you'll be able to keep it
up; but law business comes in rather slowly at first, old
fellow."
"Well, you know it isn't the way
I should furnish, if my capital was the one to cash the bills; but
then, you see, Sophie's people do it, and let them,--a girl doesn't
want to come down out of the style she has always lived in."
I said nothing, but had an
oppressive presentiment that social freedom would
expire in that house, crushed
under a weight of upholstery.
But there came in due time the
wedding and the wedding-reception, and we all went to see Bill in
his new house, splendidly lighted up and complete from top to toe,
and everybody said what a lucky fellow he was; but that was about
the end of it, so far as our visiting was concerned. The running
in, and dropping in, and keeping latch-keys, and making informal
calls, that had been forespoken, seemed about as likely as if Bill
had lodged in the Tuileries.
Sophie, who had always been one
of your snapping, sparkling, busy sort of girls, began at once to
develop her womanhood and show her principles, and was as different
from her former self as your careworn, mousing old cat is from your
rollicking, frisky kitten. Not but that Sophie was a good girl. She
had a capital heart, a good, true womanly one, and was loving and
obliging; but still she was one of the desperately painstaking,
conscientious sort of women whose very blood, as they grow older,
is devoured with anxiety, and she came of a race of women in whom
housekeeping was more than an art or a science,--it was, so to
speak, a religion. Sophie's mother, aunts, and grandmothers, for
nameless generations back, were known and celebrated housekeepers.
They might have been genuine descendants of the inhabitants of that
Hollandic town of Broeck, celebrated by Washington Irving, where
the cows' tails are kept tied up with unsullied blue ribbons, and
the ends of the fire-wood are painted white. He relates how a
celebrated preacher, visiting this town, found it impossible to
draw these housewives from their earthly views and employments,
until he took to preaching on the neatness of the celestial city,
the unsullied crystal of its walls and the polish of its golden
pavement, when the faces of all the housewives were set Zionward at
once.
Now this solemn and earnest view
of housekeeping is onerous enough when a poor girl first enters on
the care of a moderately furnished house, where the articles are
not too expensive to be reasonably renewed as time and use wear
them; but it is infinitely worse when a cataract of splendid
furniture is heaped upon her care,--when splendid crystals cut into
her conscience, and mirrors reflect her duties, and moth and rust
stand ever ready to devour and sully in every room and
passageway.
Sophie was solemnly warned and
instructed by all the mothers and aunts,--she was warned of moths,
warned of cockroaches, warned of flies, warned of dust; all the
articles of furniture had their covers, made of cold Holland linen,
in which they looked like bodies laid out,--even the curtain
tassels had each its little shroud,--and bundles of receipts, and
of rites and ceremonies necessary for the preservation and
purification and care of all these articles, were stuffed into the
poor girl's head, before guiltless of cares as the feathers that
floated above it.
Poor Bill found very soon that
his house and furniture were to be kept at such an ideal point of
perfection that he needed another house to live in,--for, poor
fellow, he found the difference between having a house and a home.
It was only a year or two after that my wife and I started our
ménage on very different principles, and Bill would often drop in
upon us, wistfully lingering in the cosy armchair between my
writing-table and my wife's sofa, and saying with a sigh how
confoundedly pleasant things looked there,--so pleasant to have a
bright, open fire, and geraniums and roses and birds, and all
that sort of thing, and to dare to stretch out one's legs and move
without thinking what one was going to hit. "Sophie is a good
girl!" he would say, "and wants to have everything right, but you
see they won't let her. They've loaded her with so many things that
have to be kept in lavender that the poor girl is actually getting
thin and losing her health; and then, you see, there's Aunt
Zeruah, she mounts guard at our house, and keeps up such
strict police regulations that a fellow can't do a thing. The
parlors are splendid, but so lonesome and dismal!--not a ray of
sunshine, in fact not a ray of light, except when a visitor is
calling, and then they open a crack. They're afraid of flies, and
yet, dear knows, they keep every looking-glass and picture-frame
muffled to its throat from March to December. I'd like, for
curiosity, to see what a fly would do in our parlors!"
"Well," said I, "can't you have
some little family sitting-room where you can make yourselves
cosy?"
"Not a bit of it. Sophie and Aunt
Zeruah have fixed their throne up in our bedroom, and there
they sit all day long, except at calling-hours, and then Sophie
dresses herself and comes down. Aunt Zeruah insists upon it that
the way is to put the whole house in order, and shut all the
blinds, and sit in your bedroom, and then, she says, nothing gets
out of place; and she tells poor Sophie the most hocus-pocus
stories about her grandmothers and aunts, who always kept
everything in their houses so that they could go and lay their
hands on it in the darkest night. I'll bet they could in our house.
From end to end it is kept looking as if we had shut it up and gone
to Europe,--not a book, not a paper, not a glove, or any trace of a
human being in sight; the piano shut tight, the bookcases shut and
locked, the engravings locked up, all the drawers and closets
locked. Why, if I want to take a fellow into the library, in the
first place it smells like a vault, and I have to unbarricade
windows, and unlock and rummage for half an hour before I can get
at anything; and I know Aunt Zeruah is standing tiptoe at the door,
ready to whip everything back and lock up again. A fellow can't be
social, or take any comfort in showing his books and pictures that
way. Then there's our great, light dining-room, with its sunny
south windows,--Aunt Zeruah got us out of that early in April,
because she said the flies would speck the frescoes and get into
the china-closet, and we have been eating in a little dingy den,
with a window looking
out on a back alley, ever since;
and Aunt Zeruah says that now the dining-room is always in perfect
order, and that it is such a care off Sophie's mind that I ought
to be willing to eat down cellar to the end of the chapter. Now,
you see, Chris, my position is a delicate one, because Sophie's
folks all agree that, if there is anything in creation that
is ignorant and dreadful and mustn't be allowed his way anywhere,
it's 'a man.' Why, you'd think, to hear Aunt Zeruah talk, that we
were all like bulls in a china-shop, ready to toss and tear and
rend, if we are not kept down cellar and chained; and she worries
Sophie, and Sophie's mother comes in and worries, and if I try to
get anything done differently Sophie cries, and says she don't know
what to do, and so I give it up. Now, if I want to ask a few of our
set in sociably to dinner, I can't have them where we eat down
cellar,--oh, that would never do! Aunt Zeruah and Sophie's mother
and the whole family would think the family honor was forever
ruined and undone. We mustn't ask them unless we open the
dining-room, and have out all the best china, and get the
silver home from the bank; and if we do that, Aunt Zeruah doesn't
sleep for a week beforehand, getting ready for it, and for a week
after, getting things put away; and then she tells me that, in
Sophie's delicate state, it really is abominable for me to
increase her cares, and so I invite fellows to dine with me at
Delmonico's, and then Sophie cries, and Sophie's mother says it
doesn't look respectable for a family man to be dining at public
places; but, hang it, a fellow wants a home somewhere!"
My wife soothed the chafed
spirit, and spake comfortably unto him, and told him that he knew
there was the old lounging-chair always ready for him at our
fireside. "And you know," she said, "our things are all so plain
that we are never tempted to mount any guard over them; our carpets
are nothing, and therefore we let the sun fade them, and live on
the sunshine and the flowers."
"That's it," said Bill bitterly.
"Carpets fading,--that's Aunt Zeruah's monomania. These women think
that the great object of houses is to keep out sunshine. What a
fool I was when I gloated over the prospect of our sunny south
windows! Why, man, there are three distinct sets of fortifications
against the sunshine in those windows: first, outside blinds; then
solid, folding, inside shutters; and, lastly, heavy, thick, lined
damask curtains, which loop quite down to the floor. What's the use
of my pictures, I desire to know? They are hung in that room, and
it's a regular campaign to get light enough to see what they
are."
"But, at all events, you can
light them up with gas in the evening."
"In the evening! Why, do you know
my wife never wants to sit there in the evening? She says she has
so much sewing to do that she and Aunt Zeruah must sit up in the
bedroom, because it wouldn't do to bring work into the parlor.
Didn't you know that? Don't you know there mustn't be such a thing
as a bit of real
work ever seen in a parlor? What
if some threads should drop on the carpet? Aunt Zeruah would have
to open all the fortifications next day, and search Jerusalem with
candles to find them. No; in the evening the gas is lighted at
half- cock, you know; and if I turn it up, and bring in my
newspapers and spread about me, and pull down some books to read,
I can feel the nervousness through the chamber floor. Aunt Zeruah
looks in at eight, and at a quarter past, and at half past, and at
nine, and at ten, to see if I am done, so that she may fold up the
papers and put a book on them, and lock up the books in their
cases. Nobody ever comes in to spend an evening. They used to try
it when we were first married, but I believe the uninhabited
appearance of our parlors discouraged them. Everybody has stopped
coming now, and Aunt Zeruah says 'it is such a comfort, for now the
rooms are always in order. How poor Mrs. Crowfield lives, with her
house such a thoroughfare, she is sure she can't see. Sophie
never would have strength for it; but then, to be sure, some folks
ain't as particular as others. Sophie was brought up in a family of
very particular housekeepers.'"
My wife smiled, with that calm,
easy, amused smile that has brightened up her sofa for so many
years.
Bill added bitterly,--
"Of course, I couldn't say that I
wished the whole set and system of housekeeping women at
the--what-'s-his-name?--because Sophie would have cried for a week,
and been utterly forlorn and disconsolate. I know it's not the poor
girl's fault; I try sometimes to reason with her, but you can't
reason with the whole of your wife's family, to the third and
fourth generation backwards; but I'm sure it's hurting her
health,--wearing her out. Why, you know Sophie used to be the life
of our set; and now she really seems eaten up with care from
morning to night, there are so many things in the house that
something dreadful is happening to all the while, and the servants
we get are so clumsy. Why, when I sit with Sophie and Aunt Zeruah,
it's nothing but a constant string of complaints about the girls in
the kitchen. We keep changing our servants all the time, and they
break and destroy so that now we are turned out of the use of all
our things. We not only eat in the basement, but all our pretty
table-things are put away, and we have all the cracked plates and
cracked tumblers and cracked teacups and old buck-handled knives
that can be raised out of chaos. I could use these things and be
merry if I didn't know we had better ones; and I can't help
wondering whether there isn't some way that our table could be set
to look like a gentleman's table; but Aunt Zeruah says that 'it
would cost thousands, and what difference does it make as long as
nobody sees it but us?' You see, there is no medium in her mind
between china and crystal and cracked earthenware. Well, I'm
wondering how all these laws of the Medes and Persians are going to
work when the children come along. I'm in hopes the children will
soften off the old folks, and make the house more
habitable."
Well, children did come, a good
many of them, in time. There was Tom, a broad- shouldered,
chubby-cheeked, active, hilarious son of mischief, born in the very
image of his father; and there was Charlie, and Jim, and Louisa,
and Sophie the second, and Frank,--and a better, brighter, more
joy-giving household, as far as temperament and nature were
concerned, never existed.
But their whole childhood was a
long battle,--children versus furniture, and furniture always
carried the day. The first step of the housekeeping powers was to
choose the least agreeable and least available room in the house
for the children's nursery, and to fit it up with all the old,
cracked, rickety furniture a neighboring auction-shop could afford,
and then to keep them in it. Now everybody knows that to bring
up children to be upright, true, generous, and religious needs
so much discipline, so much restraint and correction, and so many
rules and regulations, that it is all that the parents can carry
out, and all the children can bear. There is only a certain amount
of the vital force for parents or children to use in this business
of education, and one must choose what it shall be used for. The
Aunt Zeruah faction chose to use it for keeping the house and
furniture, and the children's education proceeded accordingly. The
rules of right and wrong of which they heard most frequently were
all of this sort: Naughty children were those who went up the front
stairs, or sat on the best sofa, or fingered any of the books in
the library, or got out one of the best teacups, or drank out of
the cut- glass goblets.
Why did they ever want to do it?
If there ever is a forbidden fruit in an Eden, will not our young
Adams and Eves risk soul and body to find out how it tastes? Little
Tom, the oldest boy, had the courage and enterprise and
perseverance of a Captain Parry or Dr. Kane, and he used them all
in voyages of discovery to forbidden grounds. He stole Aunt
Zeruah's keys, unlocked her cupboards and closets, saw, handled,
and tasted everything for himself, and gloried in his sins.
"Don't you know, Tom," said the
nurse to him once, "if you are so noisy and rude, you'll disturb
your dear mamma? She's sick, and she may die, if you're not
careful."
"Will she die?" says Tom gravely.
"Why, she may."
"Then," said Tom, turning on his
heel,--"then I'll go up the front stairs."
As soon as ever the little rebel
was old enough, he was sent away to boarding-
school, and then there was never
found a time when it was convenient to have him come home again.
He could not come in the spring, for then they were house-cleaning,
nor in the autumn, because then they were house-cleaning; and so he
spent his vacations at school, unless, by good luck, a companion
who was so fortunate as to have a home invited him there. His
associations, associates, habits, principles, were as little known
to his mother as if she had sent him to China. Aunt Zeruah used to
congratulate herself on the rest there was at home, now he was
gone, and say she was only living in hopes of the time when
Charlie
and Jim would be big enough to
send away, too; and meanwhile Charlie and Jim, turned out of the
charmed circle which should hold growing boys to the father's and
mother's side, detesting the dingy, lonely playroom, used to run
the city streets, and hang round the railroad depots or docks.
Parents may depend upon it that, if they do not make an attractive
resort for their boys, Satan will. There are places enough, kept
warm and light and bright and merry, where boys can go whose
mothers' parlors are too fine for them to sit in. There are enough
to be found to clap them on the back, and tell them stories that
their mothers must not hear, and laugh when they compass with their
little piping voices the dreadful litanies of sin and shame. In
middle life, our poor Sophie, who as a girl was so gay and
frolicsome, so full of spirits, had dried and sharpened into a
hard- visaged, angular woman,--careful and troubled about many
things, and forgetful that one thing is needful. One of the boys
had run away to sea; I believe he has never been heard of. As to
Tom, the eldest, he ran a career wild and hard enough for a time,
first at school and then in college, and there came a time
when he came home, in the full might of six feet two, and almost
broke his mother's heart with his assertions of his home rights and
privileges. Mothers who throw away the key of their children's
hearts and childhood sometimes have a sad retribution. As the
children never were considered when they were little and helpless,
so they do not consider when they are strong and powerful. Tom
spread wide desolation among the household gods, lounging on the
sofas, spitting tobacco juice on the carpets, scattering books and
engravings hither and thither, and throwing all the family
traditions into wild disorder, as he would never have done had not
all his childish remembrances of them been embittered by the
association of restraint and privation. He actually seemed to hate
any appearance of luxury or taste or order,--he was a perfect
Philistine.
As for my friend Bill, from being
the pleasantest and most genial of fellows, he became a morose,
misanthropic man. Dr. Franklin has a significant proverb,--
"Silks and satins put out the kitchen fire." Silks and
satins--meaning by them the luxuries of housekeeping--often put out
not only the parlor fire, but that more sacred flame, the fire of
domestic love. It is the greatest possible misery to a man and to
his children to be homeless; and many a man has a splendid house,
but no home.
"Papa," said Jenny, "you ought to
write and tell what are your ideas of keeping a home."
"Girls, you have only to think
how your mother has brought you up."
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Nevertheless, I think, being so
fortunate a husband, I might reduce my wife's system to an
analysis, and my next paper shall be, What is a Home, and How to
Keep it.
III
- WHAT IS A HOME
It is among the sibylline secrets
which lie mysteriously between you and me, O reader, that these
papers, besides their public aspect, have a private one proper to
the bosom of mine own particular family. They are not merely an ex
post facto protest in regard to that carpet and parlor of
celebrated memory, but they are forth-looking towards other homes
that may yet arise near us. For, among my other confidences, you
may recollect I stated to you that our Marianne was busy in those
interesting cares and details which relate to the preparing and
ordering of another dwelling.
Now, when any such matter is
going on in a family, I have observed that every feminine instinct
is in a state of fluttering vitality,--every woman, old or young,
is alive with womanliness to the tips of her fingers; and it
becomes us of the other sex, however consciously respected, to walk
softly and put forth our sentiments discreetly, and with due
reverence for the mysterious powers that reign in the feminine
breast.