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This book was written to help you get out of seeing yourself as a victim. The idea that we are being used is false. No one is forcing us to gainst our own will. We have to dig deeper into why we over sacrifice for others, why we spend so much time trying to save people for the sake of receiving love or any other mundane gratification. Working on my heart allowed me to give and wait to receive, working on strengthening my mind allowed me to remember to also give to myself. I had to learn to feel comfortable with feeling worthy of receiving love. We do not have to compromise ourselves for anyone. This book will give you the reason why some seek others' approval.
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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2019
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It Was All Me
I used to allow myself to feel like a victim, I would always say that I have such a good heart, people are always taking advantage of me. This was a personal challenge that I once could not seem to escape. I thought that being kind and giving was something that God wanted from us all.
I was wrong, I was not being kind or loving, I was simply being too nice. Many of us good-natured people somehow believe that love is constantly giving, over sacrificing or trying to save others. But I later realized that I can only save myself from my own inner hell. The world is filled with givers and takers, that is a flaw. I had to balance my heart chakra to be able to love myself unconditionally.
Why? When we are truly working from love we are supposed to be balanced which means to give and receive with comfort. I used to give but did not feel worthy to receive. It may not equal the same when we receive, but we are supposed to notice additional blessings in our lives when we genuinely give. For me, I moved into a place that requires me to pay no rent, and I love this area. I realized that I have been planting good seeds especially through my writings, so my life experience will show it through my blessings.
Many can confuse love with insecurity. A giver must be able to give then be open to receive. If someone is not giving you anything back and only taking from you, then we must stop giving them too much of ourselves. They don't have to want what you can give either, at least you tried. We can take back our personal power. A taker is not supposed to take advantage of someone's kindness, their conscience should kick in so that they feel to give something back.
We are still learning about self-love which is the ability to first respect our feelings just as well as others. Respecting our feelings increases our self-worth. If we don't respect our feelings no one will. I was constantly giving my energy to others, this meant that I was being a people-pleaser. I was not working from unconditional love, I was giving them myself because I approved them as more important than myself. I found out that I was not given enough love from my parents and other loved ones.
We learn about unconditional love from our mother and father love, this is our first love. If we were neglected in some way we will spend our lives looking outside of ourselves to feel loved, which is dangerous. This is basically saying since I don't know how to love me because my parents didn't express love to me, then I need to find others that would give me love.
This is a victim mindset that keeps us constantly being used and abused by others. How can someone love me if I do not love my own wroth? I am what I am worth, we all come with gifts. This is why so many are looking to be in relationships, they haven't learned how to feel loved, this was missing due to past traumatic experiences. This searching for love or to be loved can also be for friendship and social endeavors. I was played for a fool many times, once someone saw my insecurity, they fed me lies or fake love to keep me giving up my power.
