Gedankendoof - The Stupid Book about Thoughts -The power of thoughts: How to break through negative thought and emotional patterns, clear out your thoughts, build self-esteem and create a happy life E-Book

Lilly Fröhlich

• Herausgeber: tredition
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Serie: Stupid Books
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2024

Seitenzahl: 265

Beschreibung

Don't let the biggest enemy sit between your ears! What exactly are thoughts and why do they influence our feelings? What happens in our body when we are thinking and feeling? Your magician (= soul) in his magician's workshop (= brain) does not distinguish between physical and mental pain, nor between real and fictitious events (= thoughts). This means your magician is busy brewing muddy cocktails of hormones that induce negative feelings. His best co-worker, the librarian in the inner library (= subconscious) writes down everything the magician thinks and experiences, because his books contain beliefs, values and memories. And as the crappy hormone party ramps up, you could actually reach your full potential, but you can't because it takes all your energy to fight off the muddy hormones. So don't put a band-aid on yourself before you cut yourself! How can we discard old patterns of thoughts and feelings in order to finally live happily and liberated? Let me take you by the hand with this book and walk with me into a more positive and happier life!

Leseprobe

The Stupid Book about Thoughts

I dedicate this book to all who are a role model for others through their positive attitude and those around you who make life so sweet.

Lilly Fröhlich

Gedankendoof® -

The Stupid Book about Thoughts

Fit for your Mindset

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Bibliographic information from the German National Library: The German National Library lists this publication in the German National Bibliography; detailed bibliographic data can be accessed on the Internet at http://dnb.dnb.de.

Editing: Sandra Fiedler

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Table Of Contents

Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Preliminary Remark

Dear Mindset - I Am Coming!

The Human Brain

Neurotransmitters

Dopamine

Endogenous opioids

Serotonin

Noradrenaline

Cortisol

Adrenalin

Osteocalcin

Mr Left and Mrs Right

Construction of the magician's workshop

Pretrontal Cortex - Conscious High Security Ward

Limbic system - Center of Emotions

Brainstem - Survival-Area

Amygdala - the Fear Center

Hippocampus - the Memory Center

Insula - the horror of old age

A few data on the magician's workshop

Did You Know That…

Mirror Neurons

Digression: empathy, compassion and pity

Digression: psychopath

Where are the mirror neurons found?

Mirroring language

Mirroring movement

Our Mindset

The subconscious - our ›inner library‹

Inner monologues

Foreign suggestions

The underestimated subconscious

Personal subconscious

Collective subconscious

Consciousness - our boss?

Brain areas involved

Attention

Inattentional blindness

Inattentional deafness

Hibernate mode

Anti-Error Programs

Addictive behavior

Craving

What are Thoughts?

Dangerous thoughts

The genie in the bottle

Beliefs

From poet to thinker?

Viewer

Dreamer

Winner

What are Emotions?

What is going on in the body?

Happiness and luck

Self-esteem

Satisfaction

Fear

Anger

The Fear Phenomenon

Four basic fears

Schizoid Character

Depressed Character

Compulsive Character

Hysterical Character

Horror movies - Booster for our soul?

Fear of commitment

Cat

Buffalo

Spider monkey

Bears

What Does Stress Do to Us?

Digression: Cholesterol

How to avoid stress

Laws of Life

Crises in life

Accept the termination

Law of Propulsion

Law of cause and effect

Law of Concentration

Law of Faith

Placebo

7 steps to happiness

Law of Creation

Law of Habit

Creatures of habit

How are habits formed?

The Wheel of Life

Break old habits

Changes in your environment

Law of Attraction

You are the magician

Emergence of the law

You must also act positively

Loss of a living being

Our Perception Shapes Our World

Can beliefs be changed?

Detour into quantum physics

Our filter

Extinguishment

Distortion

Generalization

Set an anchor

Overwrite negative anchors

The magic circle

Travel through Time with Light Luggage

People’s memory

Ultra short term memory

Short term memory

Episodic memory

Semantic memory

Procedural memory

Change memories

Moneyfestation

Clean Out Your Thoughts

What values are important to you?

Build your self-esteem

Question niggles

Common colds

Dementia

Burnout

Think Yourself Happy!

Mirror exercise

Love yourself

Get rid of fears

Meditation

Shake Qi Gong

Autosuggestion

Gratitude

Time for Magician’S Training

Categories: City, country, river

ABC-Lists

Warm up your magician!

Hypnosis and Meridians - All Nonsense?

Hypnosis

Meridians

Communication - the Verbal Thought

Communication between man and woman

Communication square

How does it work?

Factual level

Self-disclosure

Relationship level

Appeal

Good communication

Can You Really be Your Placebo?

Résumé

About the Author

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Preliminary remark

›Gedankendoof® - The Stupid Book about Thoughts‹ with the subtitle ›Fit for your Mindset‹ is the 4th volume of the series of Stupid Books.

Although the title is very provocative, it is by no means a provocation of your intelligence. Rather, this book is about the fact that we are not prepared at all for what takes place in our heads.

So that you can really get started, you will be given this guide. It is for everyone who wants to walk through the world in a more enlightened manner.

You can find many more examples and tips in my German

Lebensdoof® Podcast.

I started the series of Stupid Books with the guide ›Lebensdoof®‹ to help school leavers find their way outside of school and Hotel Mom, because young people often don't know how contracts are made, that you have to terminate them, how to find an apartment and how to have your own finances under control. A book followed about the care of those in need of care, then a book for families about educating

Because I don't like prefixes - after all, I can't be just a little bit pregnant either, so why should there be a word before the word? –, I would like to point out something very important here: In order to achieve better readability in this guide, the female and male designations are not mentioned. The male or female designation used in this book applies to all persons of all genders.

And now it starts.

Dear Mindset - I am coming!

Our soul is a magician who sits between our ears in his magician's workshop called ›brain‹ and there, he creates miracles - or failure, illness and bad moods.

Some people recognized this more than 100 years ago and treated the entire team of the magician, the conscious and the subconscious, which has settled in the head to the gut, with appreciation and lived a happy life.

Others, unfamiliar with this magic - or those who don't ›believe in such nonsense‹ - treat their magician and team worse than their car.

They put garbage in the top and expect gold to come out the bottom. They would never think of pouring bad engine oil in their car or coffee in their water glass when they want to drink water.

But with the brain, they do.

They fill it with (negative, incriminating) news programs, daily soaps, bad food, alcohol and maybe even (illegal) drugs.

The magician in our heads keeps waving his wand and no matter what we think, it will come true.

Like a genius who winks and says: »Your wish is my command!«

If you think you can't do something, your magician grants that wish. If you think you can do anything, your magician will grant that wish, too.

Unbelievable?

But if we dig a little deeper, you'll find that your ›magician‹ has also hired a ›librarian‹, a sort of guardian who oversees your ›inner library‹ - your subconscious - and outperforms the lame staff your consciousness.

»Watch your thoughts for they become words, watch your words for they become actions, watch your actions for they become habits, watch your habits for they become your character,

watch your character for it becomes your destiny.«

(Charles Reade, 1814 - 1884)

Some people struggle to get out of bed in the morning, unable to smile. They're already sneaking into the bathroom with a killer load of negativity because, for example, they're on an early shift, have a long day at the office ahead of them, or have trouble with some customer waiting for them.

They complain all day that they have ›fucking early shifts‹, ›a stupid boss‹ or ›stupid customers‹ and can't get going.

Maybe there are some other little lice that ›got all over your liver‹ or ›got in your kidneys‹?

Some look at themselves in the mirror and inwardly groan at ›what they look like again‹.

There's a wrinkle here, a gray hair there, and a few fat cells too many there, maybe the nose isn't perfect or the left eye hangs lower.

We have about 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts a day, and about 80 percent of them are negative!

80 percent!

Damn it, the Englishman would say.

And as I said, for many, the swearing starts in the morning.

The alarm clock rings, the person concerned is perhaps still tired and thinks: »Oh nooo, does that bastard have to ring now?

Another working day? No weekend?«

Then he struggles up, turns on the radio and hears over the ether: »Good morning! Five days until the weekend. Hold on!«

Äääääääääh, really now?

»Keep going?«

Is life really a ›hanging out‹ from weekend to weekend, vacation to vacation?

Here's some bad news for you: you're doing the wrong job.

I have to stop myself from working too much.

For me it's Sunday evenings: »Great, tomorrow I can really hit the keys again!«

I also know people who say: »Leave me alone in the morning! I am unresponsive. I'm a morning grouch.«

From Monday to Friday, every week, month after month and year after year, are you supposed to ›hang in there‹?

Waiting for days off - and thus, for death?

Or that happiness tumbles down the sidewalk?

Or in the lottery pot?

Nope!

What a waste of time!

Humans live an average of 27,375 days - if they're lucky.

That's 75 birthdays, 75 Christmases and 75 (magnificent) summers.

But how many days can we really remember?

Most days pass us by, unobtrusively.

Some we wish we had never experienced.

We just forgot others.

In our busy work routine and daily duties, we often overlook that our lives are made up of a series of forgotten days.

And then again there are the days that we want to capture because they are so beautiful that they fill us with the greatest joy and happiness.

For some, for example, the holiday is a concentrated heap of outstanding days and they look forward to it all year long.

Year for year.

Many have a not so rare gift: they postpone everything until later.

They postpone plans until later.

Travel - later.

Find love - later.

Pursue hobbies - later.

Enjoy the pension - later.

Really let your soul dangle - later.

And some people only realize at the end of their lives that they have been constantly putting off their lives until later and that it is now too late for later.

Others - very few, but increasingly more people - realize in time that they should live their lives as if there were no tomorrow.

But that's only a fraction so far.

»Life should not be a journey to the grave, embarked on with the intention of arriving in a beautiful and well-preserved body. On the contrary, you should skid to the finish line with locked wheels in a puff of smoke, completely exhausted, totally exhausted and exclaiming loudly: 'Wow! What a trip!«

(Hunter S. Thompson)

There are people who count the days until they retire for 40 years.

Because… ›Then they want to enjoy their lives, look at the world and let their souls dangle‹.

And when they finally reach retirement age, they suddenly have a niggle here and a niggle there, some don't even live to retire - in Germany about one in seven - and others become so ill that they neither get their pension nor can they enjoy retirement age.

My beloved grandmother, who died at the age of only 66, gave me the first food for thought.

She was counting the days until she could finally retire. Because her husband had forbidden her to go to work when she was young, she had not been able to get an education. Up until the 1970s, women in West Germany were only allowed to work if their husbands gave their consent.

So later she had worked in a psychiatric ward and tortured herself there every day. As soon as she retired, she got cancer and wasted away for the last few years. The second food for thought I got from a customer who died at the age of 62 and had to abandon his huge backpack full of dreams and visions, all of which he had put off until ›later‹.

Because he didn't have any more time, he wanted me to at least fulfill a dream with him and write a book with him.

As I sat by his deathbed, he said, »Lilly, I wish I had lived my life differently. I wish I had fulfilled my dreams and not put them off until later. Look at me! I lie in bed and wait for death. And I grieve because I can't even get out of bed to fulfill one more dream.«

If you ask some people whether they don't want to change their mindset so that everything is easier to do, they just shake their heads and grumble: »No, no, let's do it! It must go! It's no use. It's all humbug anyway. Sorcery!«

Oh yes, it's magic!

Because your soul is a magician and your brain is his magic workshop. And what is concocted in it is amazing!

Some people also say: »Uh, no, I'm not restricting myself! Why should I do without?« »Oh, that's too tiring for me. I want to eat and drink what I want. I'll die anyway.«

There are also a lot of people who don't see the need to give up their habits and vices in order to live healthier and happier lives, but at the same time grumble that fate is treating them so badly.

Really now?

They are wondering?

Aren't they themselves the ones who have programmed their subconscious in this way, or do others still play a role?

I'll get into that later in the book.

If you also think like this, I ask you: »Are you sure that you can change ›nothing‹ in the mindset to counteract exactly this feeling, this thought and thus, also this action?«

»Nothing changes unless you change.«

(Juergen Hoeller)

For years, brain researchers have been investigating what geniuses like the Roman Emperor Marc Aurel knew about 2,000 years ago and Johann Wolfang von Goethe as early as the 18th century:

»In the long run, the soul takes the color of thoughts.«

(Marc Aurelius)

»Any improvement in your life begins with improved thoughts.«

(Goethe)

Did you know that a person can imagine himself in a different state?

This applies both in the positive direction and in the negative. It has happened that a person who suffered from schizophrenia, which is a split personality in which one personality had blue eyes and diabetes, but the other personality had brown eyes and was perfectly healthy.

How is that possible?

How can it be that a person is ill in one ›world of thoughts‹ and is demonstrably healthy in the other ›world of thoughts‹, even though, purely from a logical point of view, the blood should show clear signs of diabetes? And how can a person change the color of their eyes just by the power of their thoughts?

What does this mean for our magician's power?

Hallelujah, that's a powerful spirit that lives in us, isn't it?!

But what are our thoughts made of?

Where do thoughts come from?

Are we really in control of our thoughts?

These are all questions that brain researchers have grappled with for many, many years, and yet, the topic is unknown to so many.

And that's what this book is all about:

What is behind the mysterious ›magician‹ and the thoughts and emotions that determine our entire destiny?

Which of us human beings does brain research?

Who is busy with his ›thoughts‹?

Who deals with the solutions how we can make our lives happier and more successful?

Exactly: The people who say to themselves: »I want to change my life. I want more in life than just languishing in sadness or frustration. I want to lead a happy life.«

Maybe even with a fat portion of prosperity, success and health?!

You have a right to it!

Some, and especially those who get to thinking because of an illness or an accident, deal with ›personality development‹, the new popular genre in the world of literature, coaching and the stage.

They want to live.

They want to love.

They want to laugh.

They want to be happy.

They want money and want to fulfill their dreams.

They want to be successful.

And you know what?

It is possible.

You can live a life that fulfills you.

You can have work that fills you with joy.

You can have friends who appreciate you.

You can have a happy partnership.

You can have a bulging wallet - and bank account.

You can win prizes and trophies for great achievements.

It is possible.

In this book we come to ›happiness‹ and unravel what that means exactly and how you can achieve it.

People who want to be happy read books by Dr. Joe Dispenza, the genius scientist, researcher, management consultant, author and lecturer who walked out of the hospital in his early 20s weeks after doctors had told him he would never walk again after his bike accident.

He was able to.

Seriously!

Whaaaaaaaat?

Yes, he could, and without a 12-inch metal plate attached to his spine.

How?

Every day in the hospital bed - and months later at home - he visualized that he could walk again.

He used his magician and spurred him on to peak performance.

Again, his spine was broken and he was imagining his broken spine healing.

And his spine is healed!

This accident - and its healing - were the reason why he studied and set up his own chiropractic practice.

He studied neuroscience as well as brain imaging, neuroplasticity, epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology.

He now gives seminars1 around the world and has a whole team of doctors who do brain scans of people in a wide variety of conditions.

Many of them are sick, desperate, at the end.

In his book ›Breaking the habit of being yourself2‹ he describes in a somewhat more complicated but very clear way how people can be able to make changes in their thinking, in their body and in their life itself to accomplish.

He describes how people often engage in ›self-destructive habits and thoughts‹ that prevent them from realizing their full potential.

They sort of keep their light under their bushel and have given their librarian a fat black section in their ›inner

library‹ (= subconscious).

Dr Joe Dispenza makes it clear that anyone can break these habits by changing subconscious thoughts and habits.

He and his team of doctors are able to use brain scans to prove that humans are capable of self-healing and life-changing changes through certain tools and techniques, such as meditation, visualization, and journaling.

The author describes how to let go of negative beliefs and accept positive ones.

Have you ever wondered why this man doesn't appear in the German-language Wikipedia?

I'm wondering.

For whom is it ›dangerous‹?

Why didn't the Wikipedia platform, which has made a name for itself as a walking encyclopedia of the Internet, have no German article about Dr. Joe Dispenza?

Has he discovered anything about the human spirit that is not meant to be known?

Didn't anyone come up with the idea of submitting the article there or was it rejected?

(Like mine, it was also rejected.)

On the website www.wikitia.com there is an article in English about the ›Dr. of chiropractic3‹.

As early as 1944, Dale Carnegie (November 24, 1888 - November 1, 19554) wrote in his book ›How to stop worrying and start living‹ what thoughts do to us humans.

So if you are now holding ›Gedankendoof - stupid thoughts‹ in your hands, there is a reason for it.

Maybe you're just interested in what I'm suddenly releasing into the world on the subject of ›thoughts‹ as a lawyer, or did you pick up the book to find solutions for you to get along better in and with your life?

Maybe you want to find the perfect partner?

Or do you want to help your finances?

Do you have dreams that you finally want to fulfill?

I have found one thing over the last almost five decades: we can think ourselves sick and sicker, we can think ourselves small and puny, or we can think ourselves big, beautiful, healthy and optimistic.

When I was a little girl, my father told me I was too fat and ugly for this world.

That stuck, my magician had my librarian create a file folder that said: ugly and fat.

And what is once in the inner library remains written down there.

It took me 40 years to come up with the idea of overwriting this program.

And so it is with many people who are still lugging around old files from their childhood and youth, which slows them down and prevents them from leading a happy life.

We often don't know anything about it, because the most formative time is pregnancy and the first two years of life.

A time when we suffer from ›childlike amnesia‹, so to speak, and our language center is still under construction.

If you compliment people with negative programs, they won't be able to accept them at all.

Why?

Simple: because their magician orders the librarian to scoot into the inner library and look for a file folder (in vain) that says: »Beautiful human.«

»Gifted person.«

»Intelligent person.«

»Valuable person.«

Malicious tongues call such people ›anglers‹ because they ›fish for compliments‹, that is, they thirst for compliments.

This is total nonsense!

They are in fact unable to accept them, because their magician only considers ›true‹ what the librarian has written in his files. And if it says that the person is ›ugly‹ or ›fat‹ or ›dumb‹ or ›clumsy‹, the librarian reports exactly that to the conscious mind.

Many people feel worthless because of the devaluation of their environment, especially because of bad experiences at school. This allows them to be treated with contempt.

They have built up a so-called ›negative self-schema‹ and only perceive information from their environment that exactly confirms this self-image.

Criticism then becomes personal devaluation, mistakes turn into catastrophes.

I was like that.

My parents were very young when I was born and when they were only 18 they left the house without taking me with them. They left me alone and the police often came because worried neighbors heard a baby crying all the time.

At the age of 17 I lost my parents' house and went to one of the richest schools in Hamburg.

While I had no food - and no heating - some of my classmates debated what car they wanted for their 18th birthday and where their condo that beckoned high school graduation should be.

My mindset was so negative that for decades my magician only drew people into my environment who exploited me, paid me poorly or not at all and trampled on me.

Sandra, a friend of mine, got fed up at some point and forced me to read the German book ›Ich kann das: A story about the three words that change our lives5‹ by Bodo Schäfer.

My personal ›Turning Point‹ - one of the turning points in my life.

»You must read that book! You have to finally get out of your own trap and stand by yourself.«

I read it.

And I changed my life.

The first thing (after my divorce) was to quit my job at a newspaper that I was working for underpaid.

Since then I've dabbled in ›personality development‹, ›mind control‹ and ways to reprogram myself.

I read one book after the other.

And that brought me to this book.

Most recently I was at seminars for personality development. If they are done well, you will get knowledge and opportunities to deal with your subconscious, your programming and your self-responsibility.

Here the participants deal with the ›laws of life‹, which I will come back to in this book. And along the way, you walk over glowing coals, fresh shards and smash through thick boards.

So if you want to know how to improve your life and both live happier and die happier, then welcome to this volume in the dumb cool book series.

Dare to live your dream and do what makes you happy, both professionally and privately.

You are allowed to be happy.

You are allowed to earn money.

You are allowed to be successful.

Live the life where you can sit there ›later‹ and look back on your life and say, »Man, what a great life I've had! Thank heaven, I had the courage to change and do what fulfilled me.«

Then, with perhaps trembling hands, you put together an awesome, colourful, glowing puzzle and you know you've really got your life together.

That's why I say now:

Grab this guide and get fit for your positive mindset and a healthy magician!

The human brain

The brain - I call it the ›magician’s workshop‹ - is probably one of the most complex and still unexplored organs of the human being, and yet we know that our soul, the ›magician‹, lives there.

»Make sure the biggest enemy in your life is not sitting between your ears.«

(Juergen Hoeller)

The magician's workshop grows like a flower from the stalk, the spinal cord, and comes into the world incomplete with the human baby shell. (And better not sees the light.)

How lucky can we be that we have our nontransparent body shell, because without it we would look like a solid lump of pasta (brain) with very long threads (nerve tracts) that drag around on the floor because they are that long - and we women even have a butterfly between our thighs, which certainly not only men would be keen on, because our clitoris, it's true, extends in the shape of a butterfly from the hips to the knees - did you know that?!

So our noodle lump is the ›magician’s workshop‹ in which our soul sits as a ›magician‹, diligently brewing the drug cocktail day after day so that the transporters (neurotransmitters) can provide us with feelings, which in turn are triggered by our thoughts.

And now let's take a look at what's romping around in the test tubes.

Neurotransmitters

These neurotransmitters, or ›the magician’s service providers‹, have the following tasks:

Dopamine

Dopamine has earned the reputation of being the messenger of good luck, which is poured out in joyful anticipation as soon as, for example, the WhatsApp ringtone announces a message from your favorite person. In this way, the body shell in which the magician is constantly brewing in his workshop is motivated to use his magic potions to make people move and get up or pick up their mobile phones - or to eat when their stomachs are growling.

So it's sort of a ›driver‹ or ›motivator‹, you could also say it is the boss of the reward system.

He and his brother Serotonin are ›best friends‹ because they party in the body and ensure a good mood.

Endogenous opioids

Endogenous opioids