The Truth About Soulmates (Twin Souls, Twin Flames, Dual Souls, Karmic Partners) Part 1: Phases E-Book

Gabriele Hannemann

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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020

Beschreibung

The first encounter with a soulmate isn`t something you can compare to any other encounter. Many people will instantly realize that this is a special kind of partner. Often, a feeling arises as if you were looking into your own eyes or as if you were standing in front of you in person, which is a result of great love connecting the two soulmates. Usually, the male soulmate withdraws from his female soulmate after a short time, which is very difficult for her to understand because the only thing she`d like is to be together with him. The more he withdraws or acts in the opposite direction of what he has been saying to her, the more she believes that she`s imagining everything or even that she`s ready for a mental hospital. Thereby, she may get trapped in a waiting position or feel great suffering, which seems very much the same as infernal anguish. These and further questions will be explained in this first part: - Why the male soulmate always withdraws. - Why at the time of their encounter, the male soulmate is mostly bound to someone (in a relationship). - Why the male soulmate usually tries to start a relationship with other women. - Why you`ll wear a stigma of a crazy person if you tell someone about this connection. - Why she has to suffer so much because of his withdrawal and what it all means. - Which individual phases you have to go through with your soulmate and what happens in each of them. - What kinds of behavior you should possibly avoid with your soulmate, especially if you are experiencing neediness.

Leseprobe

The Frog King

Whether a frog or a king or a man,

each of them as he likes or can,

the dream will be eternal

and the mind will never again keep it external;

I long so much for it to finally happen and smile

but I must tap in the dark for a while,

as long as I don‘t see it‘s time to mature,

I won‘t get a kiss from the Universe for sure,

showing its confidence in me

but having its own ways you see,

it wants me to build my own confidence first

and then it would help me grow in faith and feel in it immersed,

sothat I can make it on my own without needing

to arm and defend myself bleeding,

or, I might turn around and bury myself in an abyss,

instead of being true to myself like a small dog would handle this,

and showing to the Universe and thyself

that I‘m on a journey to meet myself

and learn to have faith,

and then I can also see

whether I‘m the King

or just the ordinary me.

(Gabriele Hannemann)

CONTENTS

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

FOREWORD

How to use this book

Guidance in this book

Male and female soulmate

About soulmate relationships

What can you expect from this first book?

When the two of you change roles

How can I recognize that I have taken the female role?

INTRODUCTION

The mirror function serves for advancement and growth

How can I know what this situation wants to mirror?

A POEM ABOUT AWARENESS

FIRST ENCOUNTER WITH MY SOULMATE

ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS

INDIVIDUAL SOULMATE-PHASES

PHASE 1: ALPHA PHASE (THE BEGINNING)

How do female soulmates usually sense this first encounter?

How do male soulmates usually sense this first encounter?

How do both soulmates normally sense this first encounter?

What are the signs whereby I can recognize my soulmate?

Why do you meet your soulmate at all?

PHASE 2: ROSE-COLORED SOULMATE PHASE

Why is it necessary to experience the phase of separateness?

PHASE 3: THE SYNCHRONICITY PHASE

The synchronicities between two soulmates

Possible external synchronicities

What is the purpose of these synchronicities?

How »asking the Universe« works – what can I ask (for)?

What do these »signs« mean and how can I interpret them?

Signs on license plates

To flip a book open as an Oracle form

Opening the doors of perception

What happens when no signs are given?

What is the meaning of constantly seeing signs but nothing happens and you become completely irritated?

PHASE 4: THE INSANITY PHASE

Why does the male soulmate withdraw?

How can I interpret his withdrawal, what does it mean for me?

What types of withdrawal are there?

Why does he withdraw all over again?

Soulmate as a colleague at work

PHASE 5: THE WAITING ROOM PHASE

Why she waits and he doesn‘t come?

Why he withdraws even more when she keeps reaching out to him

Why you should not instruct your soulmate

Why letting go of your soulmate takes such a long time

Why cosmic ordering doesn’t work with soulmates

PHASE 6: THE SUFFERING &NEEDINESS PHASE

Why does she have to go through this »soul anguish?«

Why do such painful things bubble up when you want to release them?

Why does the male soulmate behave in a contradictory manner?

How the male soulmate experiences this phase

PHASE 7: THE MADHOUSE PHASE

Why does she have to experience this Madhouse phase?

PHASE 8: THE REPRESSION PHASE

Why does she initially repress him and doesn‘t really let go?

Why do test candidates often appear in this phase?

PHASE 9: THE RELAPSE PHASE

PHASE 10: THE CONFIDENCE PHASE

PHASE 11: THE TEST PHASE

Why is she always being tested?

How does the female soulmate pass her tests?

PHASE 12: 180° REVERSAL PHASE

Why does everything reverse by 180° degree?

What changes in the female soulmate?

What changes in the male soulmate?

What happens when the male soulmate starts to open his heart during this phase?..

PHASE 13: THE SURVIVAL PHASE

PHASE 14: THE FRIENDSHIP PHASE

PHASE 15: THE OMEGA PHASE

What is the purpose of all the suffering if the path was the goal?

What happens if »she« doesn‘t want to get involved with him anymore?

A BRIEF DESCRIPTION OF MALE SOUL-PHASES

BEHAVIOR PATTERNS TOWARD HER MALE SOULMATE SHE OUGHT TO AVOID WHENBEING NEEDY

She shouldn‘t reach out to him or chase him

She shouldn‘t visit places just to see him again

She shouldn‘t pay so much attention to her male soulmate

She shouldn‘t give up on herself or let herself down because of sadness and doubt

She shouldn‘t keep contacting him take action) as long as she is in the state of neediness

»I don‘t want to play games!«

If I withdraw so that he would reach out to me, isn’t that playing games?

Why it‘s important for her to learn to distance herself

Why is she usually more aware than he?

How she can see if she remains authentic with her femininity (restraint)

Why she shouldn‘t give him presents all the time

She shouldn‘t talk or interrogate him about his feelings for her

When is the right time to reveal her feelings to the male soulmate?

»I am afraid of losing him if I don‘t get involved with him.«

What if she has already revealed her feelings to him?

Why she shouldn‘t tell him anything about this special connection

If the male soulmate works in a spiritual realm himself

She should hide her despair if he chooses not to get involved How can she build her self-worth?

She shouldn‘t interrogate him about his life, family or partner When he says that he would like to separate from his partner

She should keep back from giving him unasked advice

She shouldn‘t put him under pressure

She shouldn‘t be huffy if he doesn‘t contact her or withdraws from her

She shouldn‘t work out strategies to get him

She shouldn‘t emphasize the advantages he would have if he got involved with her

If he is still involved, she shouldn‘t contact his wife and tell her everything

She shouldn‘t react with jealousy if he talks about other women

She shouldn‘t intentionally make him jealous to get a confirmation of his love

She should avoid telling him about her problems all the time

What can she do if she feels the need to talk to someone about her problems?

She shouldn‘t get all over him

She shouldn`t seek consolation in alcohol and drugs

She shouldn‘t try to get him drunk to make him willing

She shouldn‘t tell her friends about this soulmate union unless they experienced one themselves

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS ABOUT SOUL CONNECTION

Karmic partner, soulmate, twin soul or dual soul?

What is the difference between karmic partners, soulmates, twin souls and dual souls?

How to recognize a test candidate?

Do these partners appear in a certain sequence?

Is it possible to have more than one karmic partner, soulmate, twin soul or dual soul?

How can I know who the right one is if I meet more than one karmic partner or soulmate?

Relationship

The experience of a harmonious soulmate relationship

Do these partners stay together for a whole lifetime?

How do you know if certain learning tasks are completed?

If the relationshipis the goal

If the path of development is the goal

THE SAND CASTLE

DEFINITIONS

What does neediness mean?

What is (co)-dependence?

What exactly is spiritual growth?

What is quantum or morphogenetic field?

What are Akashic records?

What is resonance and what does it mean to come into resonance with something?

What is »primitive learning« in contrast to »higher-level learning?«

What exactly is unconditional love?

ABOUT ME

»When you realize that loving is more important than being loved,

being loved unfolds spontaneously.

(Unknown author)

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

First of all, I’d like to thank my soulmate of course, who helped me through our mutual experience by pulling out my highest potential from deeply within myself. Since we met, I’ve experienced a complete personality transformation and I‘ve learned to appreciate and love life like I never did before. This transformation is still an ongoing process. I‘ve probably caused him many sleepless nights as he did to me. It was indeed well worth all the agonies I went through because they’ve enriched me in such a way that, through my spiritual consulting I’ve been able to give support to lots of people in their soulmaterelationships and give them a kick-off to start their own transformation. Thanks to my dearest friend Karina Kilian who had to put up with my deepest and never-ending stories and who provided me with great information based on her own soulmate story. If I hadn‘t had her, who knows where I would’ve been today or where I would’ve ended up without her mindfulness and love. Thanks to my mother who just as well sensed all of my phases and stood by my side without grumbling or nagging, and who helped me to continue growing. My mother taught me to have faith and accept life, and to really face fear at times when I was eager to overcome it. Ever since I was a little girl, she taught me that I always had to work on myself and believe that everything in life happened for a reason. I‘d also like to thank my clients of course, as they have confirmed with their stories and experiences a lot of what I went through myself. This made it possible for me to round up all the information I’ve gathered based on their experiences, observations, my own experiences, card readings and information that I got from the Universe (the highest divine love source). In the end, I‘d like to express gratitude to all of those who were consciously or unconsciously at my disposal for the making of this book. With their help I was able to expand my boundaries and transform my own shadows. The path into the light always goes a bit through the darkness. With all this in mind, I‘ve gathered experiences and I paced onwards with an opened heart so that I could share my cognition

with people like yourself.

With deepest sympathy, yours Gabriele Hannemann

»Evolve yourself into unique,

distinctive, irreplaceable person you are deep within.«

(Pindar)

FOREWORD

HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

I wrote this first book for all female soulmates, namely, for those who have taken the role of a female soulmate and who feel emotional neediness towards their soulmate. Please, don‘t be frightened by the title of my book as I‘ve chosen this title deliberately, so that those who are at the beginning of such a connection and seem to rediscover themselves in it, may feel directly addressed. Of course, there is no real infernal anguish one has to go through, although, at the beginning it feels that way for most people. This depends heavily on how deepa person has processed her issues from the past. For this reason, someone may feel a kind of infernal anguish while someone else may not see the whole thing that bad at all. In the first part of the book I describe particular phases which are activated from the first moment soulmates meet each other. They are followed by far-reaching information, support and aha moments. To all newbies in this area I recommend reading the book step-by-step because the book is built up chapter by chapter. Those who have already been occupied with their soul connection should just follow their gut and decide how to read this book or which parts to go through in order to get the needed information. Considering that this book offers a lot of deep explanations and further assistance, I use numerous headings to make it easier for you to make the connections. You can underline the passages you see as important so that you can find them later more easily. By doing so, you can see which topics are relevant for you and see whether these topics still cause resonance in you. Furthermore, some useful tips will probably sink deep into your memory and you’ll be able to find appropriate explanations in less time. This will be useful if your mind or Ego decide to keep on driving you mad.

GUIDANCE IN THIS BOOK

Clearly, tips and guidance in my book are just recommendations. Primarily, spirituality teaches us to take full responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions. There are no general formulas in my book saying it should work in one specific manner, but you‘ll find suggestions about how to take a closer look of yourself and consider your own attitudes about soul connections. This may be very difficult if you are feeling needy. Similarly, it may be possible to find understanding for your counterpart and recognize your own mirror with the purpose of healing and getting to know yourself. My concern is to help people and explain life learning lessons in such a way that the human mind can understand them. Once the human mind has conceived something, it can achieve the conceived in a short period of time. Thereby, it will be easier for a person to advance and get out of certain situations where she may be feeling stuck. This also helps to attract less repeating patterns and to heal and transform them in the best possible manner. Each individual is invited to tread the path of his own growth and development. It is important to make your own experiences regarding soul connections and not to be afraid of doing something wrong. The point is primarily to develop yourself and explore certain characteristics belonging to your personality.

Conclusion: If the title and contents of this book address you, you can make an assumption that you’ve most likely met your soulmate, karmic partner, twin or dual soul.

MALE AND FEMALE SOULMATE

I‘d like to avoid repeating the full denomination »female« and »male soulmate, «so I‘ll talk mostly about »her« and »him.« This will make the text shorter and more enjoyable to read. If a male soulmate gets hold of this book, that‘s perfectly fine. My Soulmate – Guidebook, which has been going around the Internet for years and is still available on my website, has helped a lot of male soulmates. I‘ve met male soulmates asking me for guidance and being amazed by the fact that I have actually described their own stories. Besides, it may help a male soulmate to understand and accept this connection more easily.

ABOUT SOULMATE RELATIONSHIPS

Nobody can promise that you will end up with your soulmate after reading this book. It is possible that making the relationship happen is the goal here but the case may also be that the path of development itself is the real goal. This depends on what the two of you have decided to include in your soul plan and what you have agreed upon in your soul agreement. First of all, it’s not about whether you‘ll end up together, or when he‘ll reach out to you or open himself to you; these are just questions and answers in the service of the Ego. In order to grow and develop yourself further, you must learn to stop feeding your Ego. The main reason why you’ve met each other is spiritual growth and development of your own individual personalities. Here on Earth, this is the primary purpose. If you try hard and keep on working on yourself, you‘ll most probably be rewarded no matter how you may see the whole situation now. Never expect from others to take the next step, change or evolve because you‘ll wait in vain. Observe and work on yourself; otherwise, the Universe will do that for you.

WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT FROM THIS FIRST BOOK?

In this first book you‘ll find a lot of tasks and learning potential, especially if you‘ve just met your soulmate. Those who have known their soulmates for a while (at least a few years) are probably more advanced and according to their own experience, they can recognize the initial situations and they’ll most likely identify themselves with these. To those throwing their hands up in despair, I can only say: »In reality, your soul rejoices because it can pursue this task and thereby, give you the chance to become the master of your own life.« To summarize, here are a few fundamental questions which are answered in this book:

Why you are destined to meet your soulmate.

How this encounter normally feels like.

Why you’ve chosen to live up this experience.

Why there are always life lessons related to soul connections.

Which soulmate phases normally get activated.

What kind of behavior should be avoided in the state of neediness.

Answers to questions from a conceptual and spiritual point of view.

WHEN THE TWO OF YOU CHANGE ROLES

As a spiritual consultant, I‘ve had cases where the roles described above got interchanged. Maybe you are a man and she is the one who withdraws and embodies the characteristics of the male soulmate described in the book. Also, the case may be that you are both female or male partners. As I describe the story and spiritual growth and maturing of soulmates in my book, I assume that in most cases women take the role of a female soulmate and men the role of a male soulmate. If it is the other way around in your case, I must ask you please, to rethink a little bit while reading my explanations. I‘ve described who takes which role in the next section.

HOW CAN I RECOGNIZE THAT I HAVE TAKEN THE FEMALE ROLE

If you are the one who would consciously like to deal with this situation.

If you are the one who questions everything about this connection.

If you are the one who repeatedly reaches out to him/her.

If you frequently suffer because of his/her withdrawal.

If you have the feeling you can‘t live without him/her.

If you have no patience and he/she seems to have a lot of it.

If you keep on doubting his/her characteristics and behavior.

If you are the one who can‘t let go of him/her (release him/her).

If you can identify yourself with all of these points and think »yes,« then you’ve most likely taken the role of the female soulmate.

INTRODUCTION

Regardless of whether he/she is a karmic partner, soulmate, twin soul or dual soul, your counterpart represents a mirror for your own personality so that you can grow and further evolve yourself. If we didn‘t have our counterpart, we would stand still in our growth. Even if we’re not in a relationship with a partner, other people take over this function, like for example, our parents, neighbors, our children, people we meet, people who mean a lot to us, people who hurt us to the deepest, our enemies, our competition. Even our pets can take the function of our mirror.

There are always people and situations which mirror something to us, something that we have lately processed or something we still need to process. What I mean under mirror function will be explained in the next chapter. I‘ve noticed in my clients and according to my own experience that, when you handle difficult situations in the same manner as in the past, not much will change in the future. For this reason, I try to describe the situation with a soulmate or another partner in such a way that you can understand why both soulmates behave the way they do, also what is hidden in the background and how you can make the best out of it to serve your inner transformation. Those who have worked on themselves and these lessons, even if it lasted a little longer, go through difficult phases a lot faster than those who continually allow getting overwhelmed by their Ego and the mind. One thing is certain – these situations and the feelings we’ve experienced relating to our soulmate cannot be explained by normal sense.

»They must often change, who wish be constant in happiness or wisdom.«

(Confucius)

We are here on a learning planet with the objective to understand duality. If we master and pass atest based on a life lesson, we get a reward for it. This reward will definitely be pleasing, regardless of the form in which it may appear to each of us individually.

»All help is at hand. It only requires your trust and your collaboration.«

(Confucius)

THE MIRROR FUNCTION SERVES FOR ADVANCEMENT AND GROWTH

»I‘m actually quite different, but I so rarely have time to show it.«

(Ödön von Horváth)

Most of you will probably not want to hear this, but the person who challenges us the most or demands something from us at all, is the greatest gift which has been given to us. Only few of us are able to recognize the recurring pattern in ourselves; that’s why we need our counterpart or difficult situations as a mirror. Each individual made an exact plan before this life has begun about which experiences and situations they would undergo in order to learn certain things. When a soul comes into this world, it forgets all the memories and experiences that have been planned. These memories are present in the morphogenetic field (explanation at the end of the book) but they are covered by a veil of forgetfulness. If a soul keeps moving in the right direction and succeeds to master given life lessons through different situations and experiences, more and more obstacles will disappear on this personal path. Life flows and the soul is in alignment with itself and its life.

With each activated life lesson the soul rises on a higher level in its evolvement or spiritual growth. This area won‘t be constrained by tests and obstacles as the soul has already mastered its lessons. If an area is mastered, this will be stored or recorded in the Akashic records (the spiritual library of all knowledge and all experienced situations) and it will be credited to all people, so to speak. We can be sure that a scope has been achieved when we notice that people have started behaving totally differently than before and treat us differently because we don‘t carry our old patterns and energies around us anymore. Should the soul go astray and lose its way or fall back into its old demeanor patterns, recurring and new obstacles will suddenly start appearing again. This is the reason why recurring situations keep taking place and the soul feels riled or wonders why it attracts the same situations over and over again.

Through these situations however, the soul gets a new chance to come to understanding and get back on the right path. This happens repeatedly until the lesson is comprehended and mastered. As long as you don‘t master a situation, people and circumstances won‘t change. Think and try to remember that in some situations different people have treated you all in the same manner. These same people however, treat other people quite differently than they have treated you. This is a situation in which you can clearly recognize your mirror. Such an experience is about your old patterns that keep on repeating themselves like a gramophone record playing the same tune over and over again. Only when you recognize and master this pattern in yourself, people around you will noticeably change. When you finally break this pattern, there will be no need for these people to unconsciously put themselves at your disposal in order to mirror something to you.

»Seek within yourself, to find the world;

Seek in the sway of the universe, to find yourself…«

(Rudolf Steiner)

HOW CAN I KNOW WHAT THIS SITUATION WANTS TO MIRROR?

In principle, this is very easy. Everything that you find annoying or what upsets you in another person is exactly that portion of you which you don‘t want to become aware and let go of.

Example:

Let‘s assume that you get extremely upset because your soulmate doesn‘t have time for you or doesn‘t appreciate you as you‘d like him to. This means you should ask yourself about situations in which you don‘t give enough time to yourself or whether you appreciate yourself or your body.

Another example:

You are upset because you are being treated unfriendly. This poses the question: In which way are you unfriendly to your soul? You‘ll probably say: »I‘m not unfriendly to my soul!« Well, if you don‘t grow through life lessons which you‘ve prepared for yourself, your soul will find this unfriendly. Unfortunately, I can‘t say anything else here because that’s the way it is.

»Your first duty is to make yourself happy.

If you are happy, you will make others happy.«

(Ludwig Feuerbach)

Sometimes it may happen that you succeed in resolving certain issues deep inside of you, but there is still a resonance passing on to others or you‘re still upset about these issues. This could mean that you used to be like that in the past and your soul remembers this past experience. In this special case it is about forgiveness or acceptance of yourself and others. Therefore, we‘re talking about the mirror again. How you can make a difference will be clear after a period of close observation. You will surely pay attention to this from now on and you’ll make progress in these areas a lot faster. Gee! How unaware you were before! (just a little joke!) The whole thing may come as quite the opposite, for example that you find certain characteristics in a person amazing. This means that in this area, you‘ve already considered and resolved these same characteristics in yourself. In reality, you see your own resolved and positively altered characteristics.

In order to be able to better recognize your mirror, I especially recommend the movie:

THE MOVIE OF YOUR LIFE

This is a great spiritual movie in which you can recognize your own mirror in all life areas and use it to your advantage whether it‘s partnership, health,

occupation, finances etc.

(website: www.derfilmdeineslebens.com – in German)

So, I wish you a lot of fun with your learning tasks and reading this book.

A poem about awareness

It shall begin just like a bomb attack because it‘s about winning here, about

conquering your awareness to be more precise; there is no

misunderstanding about that.

You‘re not imagining all this, as this is pure love serving you to find your mainstream,

as usually agreed between soulmates.

He‘s teaching you patience and confidence so that you could build your own life

and not a life around him.

You‘ll always be a team of course, however, first you must play as individuals.

After all, there are no grants at the beginning.

Each of you hasyour own lessons and tasks, more than enough to feel fed up and

irritated, and as it may come, you might want to pour yourself a glass of pure wine

and drink up at once.

You may stay still for a while and even rub against yourself, which is not only

very important but crucial for you to start doing things right.

You’ll let go of the old and pull yourself together again. You’ll put your own

life in the center and then you can write your own lyrics about this time.

Now is the time of major transformation and HE is finally capable of action,

on a new level, with confidence, which may all come as quite a surprise.

All seems to be falling into place right now because he won’t be able to lie to

anyone any longer, especially not to himself, that’s clear of course and shows

wonderfully so far.

And for a Happy End, everything is well because you don’t have to chase him

anymore. You’ve arranged a life for yourself and got rid of the old so now it’s

possible to make this soulmate relationship to finally happen, as your own

Self unveils. With this awareness poem,

I’d like to give a new perspective to all those who may be affected

Even if it’s necessary to learn from your own experience,

A tip how to find your way on this path,

I hope I’m being helpful, otherwise

I won’t be at peace until that time.

(Gabriele Hannemann)

FIRST ENCOUNTER WITH MY SOULMATE

Oh, who is this? He looks good! Can this be true? Time stands still, there are just the two of us and, like in slow-motion, something meaningful happens. He gives me a hint from a distance and approaches me. We had agreed to get to know each other. Although I‘ve tried to approach this meeting without bias as it was no straightforward date but a business meeting, this has become very difficult for me. »You mustn’t show weakness because he is taken and has a family,« I said to myself! Inside I almost burst with joy. I didn‘t know at the time, where all the joy was coming from because I had met this man for the first time. I had the feeling that I stood face-to-face to myself and I felt certain warmth and confidence. He had everything in him what I believed my dream prince would have. The way he looked like, his manners, these indescribable blue eyes, the height, the way he gazed at me, even the zodiac sign fit in perfectly. Unfortunately, it seemed that I forgot the word »single« as I »ordered« him from the Universe. It felt like a dream, it was the nicest and the most exciting thing that had ever happened to me. If I had known that this one day when I met him, would not just turn my whole life upside down but change it completely, I would have cracked even more as it used to be the case in the past. It felt so wonderful to stand face-to-face to him in this moment, but at the same time, it was very sad as I knew we couldn‘t be together. Strangely enough, we seemed to have recognized each other although we hadn‘t met before and we just couldn‘t keep our eyes from each other. »Why didn‘t we meet before?« I thought to myself. Everything would have been easier and I wouldn‘t have had such guilty conscience because I fell in love with a man who was taken. Nevertheless, it seems that the way everything happened was absolutely right because I felt very needy at that time. Through this experience and the intensive growth of my soul in the years following this encounter, I succeeded in dealing with every imaginable lack of harmony that you can think of. If I had previously known how long and how much I‘d suffer through this short encounter and how this would drag on endlessly, I would have never got into this meeting. Today I‘m very happy about it and how it all happened and I’m pleased that I‘ve went through all of those suffering phases; otherwise, this book would have never been written and I wouldn‘t have been able to help YOU to cope with this situation.

»It is nonsense, says reason. It is what it is, says love.

It is calamity, says calculation. It is nothing but pain, says fear.

It is hopeless, says insight. It is what it is, says love.

It is ludicrous, says pride. It is foolish, says caution.

It is impossible, says experience. It is what it is, says love.«

(Erich Fried)

ACCEPTANCE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS

Please, be aware of the following:

If you take the path of soul connections, you‘ll be constantly tested by the Universe. These tests serve to prove whether you can persistently stay on the course of this path of learning and keep interest in your soul growth. Doubts will arise over and over again and sometimes you‘ll feel as if you were crazy. Feelings of anger mayappear which you‘ll project onto your soulmate or onto yourself. You‘ll be just about to give it all up, throw everything away, butin the end, that won‘t be possible. When you take the path of recognition and acceptance of your true self, you won‘t be able to step away from this path. The more you fight against it, the more difficult it will get. This is the only way to reach your goal and heal yourself and others.

INDIVIDUAL SOULMATE-PHASES

Before I go into detail about soulmate relationships, I‘ll describe individual soulmate-phases – what they are and how they feel like on both sides. You’ll find answers to many questions here, whereas many other questions will be dealt with in the second part beginning with »learning tasks of a soulmate.« (Please, keep in mind what I‘ve described in the foreword: if the two of you have swapped roles, you ought to do some rethinking here). There are individual phases a female soulmate has to go through after the first encounter with her male soulmate. The male soulmate undergoes the same phases to some extent but also different phases which he has to experience at a different time, namely, the female soulmate doesn‘t experience these at all. I‘ll briefly describe these phases after I’ve explained the phases for the female soulmate. Individual soul relationship phases don‘t have to appear in this particular order (as I‘ve listed them below). Some people experience these phases totally mixed up, simultaneously, continually to the very end, or they may keep recurring if certain learning tasks haven‘t been mastered yet. How long you‘ll stay in a particular phase depends entirely on you. The sooner you deal with your issues, the faster you‘ll get through them.

LIST OF INDIVIDUAL PHASES FOR THE FEMALE SOULMATE

Alpha phase

Rose-colored soulmate-relationship phase

Synchronicity phase

Insanity phase

Waiting room phase

Suffering & neediness phase

Madhouse phase

Repression phase

Relapse phase

Faith phase

Test phase

180° Reversal phase

Survival phase

Friendship phase

Omega phase

PHASE 1: ALPHA PHASE (THE BEGINNING)

Recognition and the first encounter with your soulmate in this life

Both soulmates meet for the first time in their life. The beginning may not be easy for both sides. As the first contacts begin so begin the learning tasks connected to this experience, which both soulmates chose for themselves in this life independently of each other. Very often, for both soulmates it all starts as love at first sight. The first phase (Alpha phase) is the most beautiful phase for the female soulmate but also the shortest phase of them all. After the Insanity phase of a female soulmate and the Withdrawal phase of the male soulmate, the situation usually becomes very painful for her.

He withdraws from her very quickly – right after their encounter, but this seems tobe something completely normal in soulmate relationships. They must undergo different phases independently from each other. Usually, female soulmates suffer more at the beginning of this connection because they are normally the ones who are aware of what is actually happening. It is because she realizes the connection before he does and would like to work on it, consciously or unconsciously. She‘d like to reach out to him but he usually withdraws after a short while. Close contact after their first encounter doesn‘t always have to be the case. Some soulmates meet and the attraction force cannot be stopped. Both fall for each other and experience a life filled with absolute ecstasy. It doesn‘t have to get sexual right away but it may happen. The closer the two of you get, the more you can notice your own needs in the eyes of your soulmate without having to say much. This encounter can be compared to the intensity of a »bomb impact.« Even if two soulmates don‘t get close to each other, they’ll feel powerful attractive forces. They’ll often get struck with amazement only later when they become aware of these powerful forces of attraction for another being, even if they still haven’t come together.

HOW DO FEMALE SOULMATES USUALLY SENSE THIS FIRST ENCOUNTER?

She realizes very quickly that this encounter is a special one.

She realizes that »HE« is the one she‘s been waiting for all of her life.

She experiences this encounter as if seeing her own incarnation in front of her eyes.

She notices he says things or does things she‘s just thought about.

She discovers more and more common grounds and synchronicities.

She often has the feeling that she could »pounce on« him right away.

She experiences this encounter as a »flash of lightning.«

She‘ll remember this encounter all of her life and she‘ll ask herself why she can‘t get this man out of her head even after many years have passed.

A while after the first encounter, she‘ll have the feeling as if she had won a lottery ticket but got ripped off later. If he’s not the standard type she had imagined before she met him, she’ll be surprised but won‘t worry about it.

HOW DO MALE SOULMATES USUALLY SENSE THIS FIRST ENCOUNTER?

He is surprised and wonders why he feels so secure, confident and well near her.

He is baffled that she’s exactly the way he imagined his dream woman would be (if she doesn‘t fit his standard type, he‘ll be even more baffled that he has such strong feelings for her).

He feels a certain kind of »electricity« going through his body.

Usually he can‘t take his eyes off of her.

He usually feels the first encounter as he might crack and lose his sense of orientation.