Coach to Coach E-Book

Martin Rooney

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 216

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020

Beschreibung

Learn the secrets for becoming the inspirational coach everyone is waiting for Think about the coaches you've had throughout your life. Most likely, some were good, others not so good. Maybe one or two were great. One thing is undeniable: Coaches can influence your life in ways that can be negative or positive. A coach can either build you up or tear you down. The world needs better coaches in all walks of life--if you're a parent, a teacher, a co-worker, or a leader, you are also a coach. Which kind of coach do you want to be? Coach to Coach helps you answer this question and shares the secrets to bringing out the best in a person, both on and off the field. For more than twenty years, author Martin Rooney hascoached professional sport stars, Olympic champions, and business leaders to high levels of performance, analyzing thousands of real-life examples of what works and what doesn't. Reading like a simple parable, this engaging book gives you an easy-to-use yet highly effective formula for becoming a better coach for your teams, in your business, and in your personal life. Packed with valuable insights and expert advice, this appealing book helps you: * Learn how to be a great leader by being a great coach * Create positive lives for your children and the people you work with * Inspire and motivate the people around you * Turn your natural skills and talents into your own unique coaching style * Use proven, time-tested coaching strategies to get results Coach to Coach: An Empowering Story About How to Be a Great Leader is an ideal book for coaches, leaders, managers, entrepreneurs, educators, parents, and anyone wanting to bring out the best in those around them.

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Cover

Praise for

Coach to Coach

Foreword

Introduction

1 The Tunnel

2 The Grind

3 The Showup Showdown

4 Cup of Coffee

5 Enthusiasm

6 Ultimatum

7 The Right Target

8 Eating Crow

9 The Real Definition

10 The Golden Rule

11 A Turning Point

12 The Two Abilities

13 Pointing Fingers

14 The Secret Move

15 The Holy Grail

16 Do the Work

17 Game Day

18 Bag of Peanuts

Acknowledgments

About the Author

Want to spend some time Coach to Coach?

End User License Agreement

Guide

Cover

Table of Contents

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Praise for Coach to Coach

“For great performances in your profession and family…study this book!”

Dan Gable

Olympic gold medalist, three-time U.S. Olympic team coach

15 NCAA team titles, University of Iowa Wrestling

355-21-5 lifetime coaching record

“Some books you read for entertainment. Some you read for enlightenment. Coach to Coach will give you both.”

Coach Lou Holtz

1988 NCAA National Champions, Notre Dame Football

Only coach to lead six different college programs to bowl games

College Football Hall of Fame

“Coach to Coach is an important reminder of the power of a coach. If you want to help more people and make a positive impact on the lives of others, read this book!”

Jon Gordon

Best-selling author of The Energy Bus, The Carpenter, and Training Camp

“Coach to Coach is about human development through sports. Martin Rooney gets it EXACTLY right in very clear ways: Elite coaching is about relationships, character development, and accountability.”

Anson Dorrance

22 NCAA Championships, University of North Carolina Women's Soccer

1991 U.S. Women's Soccer World Cup Champions

7-time NCAA Women's Soccer Coach of the Year and 1987 NCAA Men's Coach of the Year

U.S. National Soccer Hall of Fame

“Finding the right coach at the right time had an incredible impact on my life. In today's sports and business world, there has never been a more important time to have responsible and ethical people in place serving as coaches. Coach to Coach offers you practical and user-friendly tips on how best to be THAT coach for someone else.”

Shawn Johnson

Olympic gold and silver medalist in gymnastics

Winner of ABC's Dancing with the Stars

“Coach to Coach tackles the challenges and joys that come from a life of coaching. Use these simple coaching strategies and you will have no choice but to help more people.”

Phillip Fulmer

1998 National Champions, University of Tennessee Football

College Football Hall of Fame

“Coach to Coach is a must-read for anyone interested in being the best version of themselves as a coach, teacher, spouse, or parent. Martin Rooney combines wonderful teaching points with an engaging story. I have read many books on leadership and feel Coach to Coach will be a classic for coaches from youth sports all the way up to the professional level.”

Mark Krikorian

Head coach, Florida State Women's Soccer

2014 and 2018 NCAA National Champions

“Coaching is so much more than teaching someone how to play a sport. Coaching is about teaching them how to become great at life. What they learn on the field is what they do off the field. Coach from the heart with an open mind and find value in every player…form a synergy and watch the magic happen. Coach to Coach is your guidebook on how to help inspire someone to live out the story of their dreams.”

Rudy Ruettiger

The inspiration for the blockbuster film Rudy

“Coach to Coach is a great reminder of the simple coaching principles that produce results. Whether you are working with athletes on the deck at the Olympic Games or teaching young group swimmers foundational mechanics, coaches, mentors, and teachers need to practice the ideas in this book in order to offer our best coaching to the young people we are blessed to get to coach.”

David Marsh

12 NCAA team titles, Auburn University Swimming

Head coach, 2016 U.S. Olympic Women's Swim Team

Coach of 54 Olympians from 21 different countries

“Coach to Coach is a much-needed guide that will teach you how to inspire others. Martin trained me to be my best at the NFL Combine and has now made his coaching strategies into a simple philosophy for anyone. This captivating sports story will teach you how to be a better coach no matter who it is you lead.”

Chris Long

2018 Walter Payton NFL Man of the Year

Two-time Super Bowl champion

“Martin Rooney jukes right and then breaks left with Coach to Coach, and he scores again! As a coach, you are better after reading it. That's really all there is to it. This should be mandatory reading for all coaches at every level to learn to connect and contribute. Thank you for making me better, Martin.”

Gunnar Peterson

Head strength and conditioning coach, Los Angeles Lakers

“Coaching is about doing everything in your power to bring out the best in someone else. Even the greatest coaches in the world need guidance at certain points in their careers. In his book Coach to Coach, Martin Rooney offers that guidance in a powerful story. With so many great relatable lessons in every chapter, this little book will help you be that coach your athletes will always remember for the right reasons.”

Liane Blyn

Head of Sports Performance, Arizona State University

Multiple-time World Champion and World Record Holder in powerlifting

“As a fighter, you rely heavily on your coaches for support and direction. Martin was always my coach, and he was able to help me by saying the right thing at the right time. Using the story in Coach to Coach, he masterfully teaches you how to better connect and communicate to help someone fight their next battle.”

Jim Miller

First fighter to reach 30 fights in UFC history

Most career fights in the Octagon in UFC history

“After 33 years of coaching, I have learned there is a lot more than the X's and O's of the game. It is also about who those X's and O's are and how you can grow them as both players and people. Having watched Martin coach for years, I know he always did both. Coach to Coach is a valuable resource that should be on every coach's bookshelf.”

Greg Toal

2009 and 2011 U.S. High School National Champions, Don Bosco Football

Lifetime 305-55-2 coaching record

“To be a successful coach you must be likable, believable, and an example for all on your team. In each of these elements, as a coach and a leader, Martin Rooney has set the standard. If you enjoy inspiring stories with memorable characters that teach you simple wisdom, this book is for you. I highly recommend this book for anyone who considers him- or herself a coach.”

Jeffrey Gitomer

Best-selling author of YES Attitude and The Little Red Book of Selling

“There's more to coaching than the strategic, technical, and tactical aspects of a certain situation. Coaching also includes mentorship, leadership, and character development. A great coach instills the intangibles of discipline, resiliency, and fortitude to challenge individuals to be better than the day before. Coach to Coach can help you to make that connection.”

Joe Kenn

Head strength coach, Carolina Panthers

2015 NFL Strength Coach of the Year

“Coach to Coach provides an easily relatable view into the frustrating but equally exhilarating profession of coaching. This is a book I would recommend to anyone looking to improve as a coach, regardless of sport.”

Tony Veney

Head coach, track and field and cross country, Ventura College

2017 USA Track and Field Coach/Educator of the Year

“For every coach who spends all their time investing in others, but feels like no one has time to invest in them, Martin Rooney hears you, and Coach to Coach is lesson number one.”

Nick Winkelman, PhD

Head of Athletic Performance and Science for Irish Rugby Football Union

“Coach to Coach was my reminder of why I wanted to coach. Every athlete will leave sports someday and need skills for real life. This book inspires coaches to be positive role models and do our job to instill these skills. Read this book and you will help more people succeed.”

Shauna Rohbock

Olympic silver medalist in bobsled

Assistant coach, U.S. National Bobsled Team

President's Council on Sports, Fitness, & Nutrition

MARTIN ROONEY

AUTHOR OF TRAINING FOR WARRIORS

COACH to COACH

AN EMPOWERING STORY ABOUT HOW TO BE A GREAT LEADER

Copyright © 2020 by Martin Rooney. All rights reserved.

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Names: Rooney, Martin, 1971- author.

Title: Coach to coach : an empowering story about how to be a great leader / Martin Rooney, Author of Training For Warriors.

Description: Hoboken, New Jersey : Wiley, [2020]

Identifiers: LCCN 2019047743 (print) | LCCN 2019047744 (ebook) | ISBN 9781119662198 (hardback) | ISBN 9781119662211 (adobe pdf) | ISBN 9781119662204 (epub)

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To my old coach Bill Scarola, who taught me you must first be on fire before you can make someone else burn.

“Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.”

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

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“If I accept you as you are, I will make you worse; however, if I treat you as though you are what you are capable of becoming, I help you become that.”

—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Foreword

In this book, Martin Rooney is going to try to convince you that coaches have the most important job in the world. And although this sounds like a bold statement, I believe it to be true.

But I'm going to take that idea one step further.

If I were to ask you, “Who is the most important coach in the world?” you might name world leaders, powerful heads of business, or top coaches of sport organizations. You might mention an influential coach you've had in your own life, such as a special teacher or mentor, who has been the greatest help to you.

While I agree all of those people are incredibly important, I have a more personal answer. Now that I've transitioned from being a professional athlete to a coach, I realize the most important coach in the world is the person who coaches our children. And that realization is why I stand so strongly behind the message and mission of this book.

I have known and trained alongside Martin Rooney for 20 years. In many fitness and training circles, he is known as “the man” because of his technical knowledge. But that knowledge was only part of the reason I entrusted him to coach my kids. The other part was because he was able to get them to apply that knowledge through his ability to connect as a coach. During those years he spent coaching my boys, I witnessed the same strategies that Martin features in his book and I know they work.

If you are looking for simple and effective principles about how to be a great coach, they are here waiting for you in this book. But it goes beyond sports. I believe this inspirational book can also make you a better person, and someone who can make others better. Although both my sons were lucky enough to go on to play in the NFL, they learned lessons from Martin that could be used beyond the playing field. His coaching style taught them valuable lessons for winning in the game of life, too.

Whether you consider yourself a coach or not, you will be able to use the information in this quick and easy read to help people. If I could coach you how to use this book, I would challenge you to immediately apply the lessons while they are fresh in your mind, because as Coach to Coach will remind you, it isn't enough to know the lessons, you also need to put them into action.

It is my hope that every coach around the world reads this book. And you should hope so, too. Because not only might one of those coaches be in charge of your country, but one of them might also be a very influential part of your child's future.

Phil Simms

Super Bowl XXI MVP

Inside the NFL analyst

CBS lead sportscaster

Introduction

The world needs better coaches.

Whether you believe it or not, you are a coach. You don't have to be in charge of a sports team or business to earn the title. If you are a parent, teammate, co-worker, or friend, you are a coach in some way to someone else every day.

Unfortunately, like money, marriage, and parenting, coaching someone else doesn't come with a rule book or manual. It is my hope that this short, yet powerful parable in some way becomes one of those manuals for you.

I believe being called a coach is the most honorable title you can earn. When someone calls you “coach,” he or she is handing you the reins to some aspect of their life. They give you control, hoping you are the one who cares enough to show them the way to where it is they want to go.

This book is not about current science or the technical knowledge about running a practice or helping someone win a game. The ideas are much simpler, but also run much deeper. This is the softer side of coaching we know exists, but rarely gets a glimpse in today's arena.

I believe we are all waiting for a person like the old coach in this book to show up and help us fix a number of the problems in our lives. My hope is that after reading this book, instead of continually waiting for that person to magically appear, you go out into the world, use the lessons he had to teach, and become that coach for someone else.

I promise if you just take away the “Golden Rule” from this book and apply it, your life and the lives of others around you will improve. And that is because the real way a coach becomes richer is by enriching the life of someone else.

I also invite you to share your own inspiring coaching stories or how you have used some of the ideas from this book to improve the life of someone else. You can reach me at [email protected].

How do I know applying what you read in this book can forever change your life? Because it worked for me.

Martin Rooney

Cornelius, NC

2020

1The Tunnel

AND THEN HE WAS THERE.

Things really couldn't get much worse. Another loss for the team, and as Brian Knight made his way toward the locker room, he realized he couldn't be more alone.

As he walked from the field into the tunnel, he thought about slipping out a side door and going home. Not only did he really not feel like facing the team or the other coaches, but he also felt his job was in jeopardy.

But if he snuck back to his house, things wouldn't really be better there anyway, he thought gloomily. His kids would already be asleep—a reminder of another day missed with them. And quietly slipping into bed next to his sleeping wife would only remind him of the growing distance between them.

Bills and stress were piling up. Maybe it was time to give up on coaching and get a “real” job.

“Not your best day, huh, Bri?” came a hoarse voice from what seemed out of nowhere.

Brian turned around to see an older man about his height, maybe in his mid-60s, standing with his arms and palms against the cool wall of the tunnel.

“Excuse me?” said Brian, in the kind of tone that let the man know he was offended.

“I said, it didn't seem to be your best day out there,” replied the old man. “It's pretty obvious the defense was the reason the team lost out there tonight. Not much to be proud of.”

This got Brian's attention and angered him. Now agitated and arms crossed against his chest, he retorted, “Look, man, I don't know who you are or how you got in here, but you picked the wrong guy to piss off tonight.” With that statement, Brian took a half-step closer to the man.

The old man, seemingly amused by his apparent aggression, stepped away from the wall, kept his hands at his sides and moved right within a foot of Brian. “Calm down, kid. Seems things are worse than I remembered. I'm not here to bring you down. I'm here to build you up.” And with a smile that seemed to disarm Brian a little, he added, “And besides, I really don't think you want to lose twice tonight.”

Looking into the old man's eyes, Brian saw a confidence and peace of mind that intrigued him. He could also feel something else. It wasn't aggression. The closest thing he could equate it to was compassion. The old man understood. This feeling and the smile on the old man's face actually made Brian crack a smile, too.

With the tension eased a little, the old man said, “Don't worry, kid, everything has a strange way of working out.”

At that moment, the locker room door burst open and the head coach yelled out, “Knight, get in here. We're about to address the team.”

Brian turned back to offer a quick apology to the old man, but he was gone. Brian paused, puzzled about where this man had come from and how he knew his name. But before he could process the exchange or his sudden disappearance, he heard his name yelled again and quickly headed back to the locker room for the usual postgame duties.

The rest of the night was the usual except for one thing. Yes, there was the review of the game, the plans for next week, and the long drive home. But instead of going to sleep feeling helpless, for the first time in as long has he could remember, Brian had a strange feeling of optimism that things could indeed work out just like the old man said.

2The Grind

Every day was starting to seem like wash, rinse, and repeat. And not on a good cycle.

Getting up early for so many years had become natural to Brian, but that didn't mean it was easy. In fact, the morning knot he had in his stomach was getting tighter and putting his feet on the floor at 4 a.m. was getting tougher. More and more days started with him wishing he could just stay in bed.

Brian's two girls were also getting older and beginning to notice when he wasn't around. By the time he got home at night, they were either asleep or he was too wiped out or stressed out to do much with them. Sure, like most dads, he made it to the occasional lunch at home or school recital, but his conscience told him it wasn't enough. And when his oldest offered him some play money to buy an hour of his time the other day to stay home a little longer with her, it really hurt.

Things with his wife, Kelly, weren't good, either. She had always been on board with his dream of big-time college coaching, but the two different moves and his ever-increasing hours were taking their toll. With Kelly caring for the girls and also working as a graphic designer, conversations usually focused on their busy schedules. She had become distant and often appeared both frustrated and less interested in his dream. The most obvious proof of this disengagement was that it had been over a full season since she had attended a game to support him. “For better or for worse” seemed to Brian to be just things people unconsciously agreed to during their wedding vows. And when “the worse” started happening, it seemed like Kelly didn't remember that part of her vows at all.

Brian still loved football. Sports had always been the driver of his life. After his athletic career as a college linebacker ended, he naturally made the transition to coaching. Now almost a decade into this career path, however, he felt unprepared. And this lack of confidence became a vicious cycle of negativity and a lack of effort. He knew deep down if he kept this act up, his job wouldn't be safe for long.

On the field was where Brian always excelled. When he made the transition from athlete to coaching at his alma mater, he was familiar with the athletes he had played with and had their respect as a former star player and a teammate. This allowed him to work on the players' weaknesses and improve the defense. This led to some recognition and his and Kelly's first move up the ladder to a bigger program.