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- Herausgeber: BookRix
- Kategorie: Geisteswissenschaft
- Sprache: Englisch
The term 'Emotional Hoarding' seems to have slipped into our vocabulary. It is applied to those who never let go of any slight in the past.
However, the issue is not just the person wallowing in his pity, but his attempt to blame and castigate and punish those he finds 'guilty' of causing his failure.
He may be a victim, in some senses, but is trying to make others his victim.
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What is an Emotional Hoarder?
BookRix GmbH & Co. KG81371 MunichPrologue
This is my personal experience. This is an analysis of what to look for without the psycho-babble.
It is a book of warning.
To begin, I first heard the expression; "Emotional Hoarder" from one who embodies the concept.
I did look up the definitions, as you can do, but it is not a deeply investigated topic. The scant information tended to view the Emotional Hoarder as a victim. Tended to define him as one who is unable to process past events and carries his negative memories and feelings throughout life.
The provocation of compassion for the Emotional Hoarder seemed to be at the centre.
As I was unfamiliar with the term and the definition seemed rather hollow I thought to cultivate a friendship with this person so as to see first hand what it entails.
Dealing with a person who has been and describes himself as an 'Emotional Hoarder' I experieincef what it is, how it manifests and the effect on the Hoarder and those around him.
Although the first response would be a kind of pity for one unable to escape the 'traumas' of the past, I found a dark under belly to Emotional Hoarding.
Emotional Hoarders aren't just wallowing in the pain of their past. Their version of the past and reality are often divergent.
The Emotional Hoarder is unable to escape the feelings they experienced at the time of the event, whether reasonable or not.
Further, Emotional Hoarders are focused on inflcting their view of events on anyone in their ambit who can be blamed.
It is not that the Hoarder is trapped, unable to escape the pain of the past. Speaking with the Hoarder I noticed he embraces that pain and seeks to inflict it on others.
His 'duty' to make other people feel responsible for his failures is the centre of his being.
As an anthropologist I have been trained to explore other cultures without interference. To witness and report.
What I have seen and experienced is what provokes this article.
