INTP left a civil service job to meet ESFJ E-Book

Yeong Hwan Choi

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• Kategorie: Religion und Spiritualität
• Sprache: Englisch

Seitenzahl: 158

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2024

Beschreibung

I'm going to write with someone I fell in love with at first sight I met a few months ago. Eventually, I failed to win her love twice. And with a long-term perspective, I designed the environment for her to find me. The fact that she missed the woman she loved due to the lack of career exploration and the subsequent decline in self-esteem... I realized that it was a self-identity problem. Every time I put myself on the subway on the morning of the boring commute, I was gradually losing my color. However, he quit his job after eight years of working at large corporations and public servants, which he had only walked through reading and writing. Rather, my mind became stronger and my life became more relaxed than when I went to a stable civil service job. Now I'm starting to ask myself questions specifically without questioning what life is. I'm curious and excited about how much my value will be in the market of capitalism in the future. There are no short-term rewards, but we know that there are huge rewards waiting for long-term growth. If you read this book, you can know INTP's brain, and if your date or boyfriend is INTP, you can also know how to approach love. Furthermore, it is helpful for those of MZ officials who are concerned about quitting their jobs. In addition, public officials suffering from depression, sleep disorders, and ADHD mental disorders can re-interpret their successful perspectives on the world and their identity problems. You can also see how you overcome unnecessary defense mechanisms (fear of challenging new things) in the modern era. Lastly, it is helpful for those who choose a stable job with only social gaze or reputation maintenance instinct. So let's all go on a journey together to design her to find an INTP man, the ESFJ that made me fall in love at first sight.

Leseprobe

INTP Left a Civil Service Job to Meet ESFJ

Yeong Hwan Choi

While every precaution has been taken in the preparation of this book, the publisher assumes no responsibility for errors or omissions, or for damages resulting from the use of the information contained herein.

INTP LEFT A CIVIL SERVICE JOB TO MEET ESFJ

First edition. March 28, 2024.

Copyright © 2024 Yeong Hwan Choi.

ISBN: 979-8320283050

Written by Yeong Hwan Choi.

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Table of Contents

Title Page

Copyright Page

- Prologue -

Episode 1: Love as a Gamble

Episode 2: Dice and Probability

2-1 Unfamiliar feelings

2-2 Relative Value

Episode 3: Errors in Generalization

3.1 A Woman’s Intuition

3.2 The Curiosity of People from Busan

3.3 What Kind of Person is She?

3.4 Celebrity Love and Personal Preferences

Episode 4: Why Our Relationship Was Destined to Drift Apart

4.1 The Last Day I Saw Her

4.2 A Heavy Evening: The Story of That Day

4.3 Drugs and Gambling Addiction

4.4 How She Saw the World: A Different Perspective

Episode 5: Why I Reached Out to You

5.1 Breaking Through the Entry Barrier

5.2 If We Reach the Complementary Phase

5.3 What Was the ∞?

Episode 6: Numbers and Case Selection

Episode 7: The Cost of Choice

7.1 The Girl I Met Again

7.2 The Message She Left Behind

Episode 8: Another Crossroads, Another Choice

8.1 The Path to Resignation and Financial Freedom

8.2 The Dice that Became Beads

-Epilog-

- Author's Note -

- Prologue -

Have you ever fallen in love with someone at first sight in your life? It's 3 p.m. on a leisurely weekend, and the cool breeze fills the porch window

He sits in front of his computer and organizes his writing. It was a feeling that I had never had in the cold winter of my 25th year, when I became a member of the Society, and in my current 30s, I have had countless blind dates and several love experiences. Men in their 30s are unfortunately not excited to meet any of these women, they have a lot of money, they have a lot of money, they can pursue their hobbies, and their positions in the company are getting more and more workloaded. At this time of year, we do not stop the women who come and we do not catch the women who go. They already know what romance is and what love is. What if you meet someone who will fall in love at first sight?

I'm going to write about it with someone I fell in love with at first sight that I met a few months ago, and in the end, I failed to win her love twice. And I designed the environment so that she could find me with a long-term perspective. The fact that he missed the woman he loved due to the decline in self-esteem that followed from the lack of career exploration. I realized it was a matter of self-identity.

Every time I got on the subway in the morning on the repetitive and boring commute to work, I was losing my color more and more. However, he left his job at a large company and a civil service where he had walked only by reading and writing, and left the company after eight years of his journey. Compared to the unstable civil service job, my mind is stronger and my life is more relaxed. Now I began to question myself concretely, without doubting what life is. I'm excited and curious to see how much I'll be worth in the capitalist market in the future. There are no short-term rewards, but we know that long-term growth is rewarding enormously.

If you read this book, you will get to know the brain of an INTP, and if your boyfriend or boyfriend is an INTP, you will also know how to approach love. Furthermore, it is also helpful for MZ employees who are thinking about leaving the company. In addition, public servants who suffer from depression, sleep disorders, ADHD and other mental illnesses can reinterpret their own identity issues and their view of success in the world, and how to overcome unnecessary defense mechanisms (fear of trying new things) in the modern age. Lastly, those who chose a stable job based only on the social gaze or the instinct to maintain their reputation are also indirectly helpful.

So, let's go on a journey to get the ESFJ who fell in love with me at first sight to find an INTP guy.

Episode 1: Love as a Gamble

She, an ESFJ, and I, an INTP, met at a dinner party. When it was almost time to get off work, the manager asked, "Is Younghwan going today?"

It was Monday, so I didn't want to go out to dinner anymore, but I was like, "Oh... Yes." In a short period of time, I met her with a mixture of gratitude and regret, and I met her in an unexpected place. She was in her late 160s, fair-skinned, long, flowing hair, oriental eyes, and wore silver jewelry around her ears and neck. She was a beautiful woman. But I had to forget her.

It's a situation where you ruined the relationship with a sudden rash, which is a common mistake made by men who are new to dating. So, after analyzing the situation for a while, the INTP came back rational and took up the pen. It was a moment when people like Hikiko Mori instinctively experienced how things change when they really like the other person. In the first place, were selfish human beings more important to their own feelings? I didn't even know that the other person was a burden. In fact, "whether it's your own feelings or the other person's feelings, you've turned your eyes around for the time being" would be correct.

Rather than being myself, I feel regret for the relationship I couldn't achieve because I didn't know much about myself. What if we had gone in a progressive direction?

In retrospect, the dice I threw were either 1 or 6 . No, the dice had to be a '6'. So it was like a gamble.

Episode 2: Dice and Probability

I learned in high school that I was able to define the probability of my love for her with probability and statistics. Specifically, I substituted the odds of the dice into Pandora's box and created the probability of love. First of all, you need to know the background of "Pandora's Box".

Zeus, the chief of the gods, resented Prometheus for giving humans the kind of fire that only a god could have. So he decided to use Prometheus' brother, Epimetheus, to get the humans into trouble. Zeus ordered Hephaestus, the god of blacksmiths, to mold a woman out of clay. Zeus gave her life, Afrodite beauty, Hermes horsemanship, and Apollo the talent of music, and the name of this beautiful woman was Pandora. When Epimetheus saw Pandora, it was love at first sight.

"Don't like gifts from the gods, there must be something up to you."

His brother Prometheus cautioned him, but Epimetheus welcomed Pandora as a child, and Zeus sent Pandora away and gave her a small box.

"This is a gift from the gods to man. But you should never open it."

One happy day, Pandora wondered what was in the box. The moment Pandora opened the lid of the box, the calamities of greed, resentment, jealousy, revenge, and sorrow poured out into the world.

When Pandora's startled box closed the lid, there was only one thing left inside: hope. Knowing that, Pandora gave me hope. No matter how hard things are, people can overcome them because of hope.

I opened Pandora's box and threw a six-sided die.

In other words, I expressed greed, resentment, jealousy, revenge, and sadness from "1~5" on the dice  and hope with "6".

After she left, I created my own "love probabilities," and the probabilities are as follows.

(The assumption that God can have many)

2-1 Unfamiliar feelings

I used to have a high IQ but a low EQ. I didn't study in high school. However, my mock test grades always maintained 3~4 grades, except for the language section. In my first year of high school, I even played in the top 10 in my class.

He majored in civil engineering at university and is currently working in a related field. Even though I like to play alone, it was only after I became a college student that I woke up to the opposite sex. I'm going to tell you about my past relationships and that I'm not a beginner in dating.

It wasn't until I was 20 that I had my first girlfriend. It wasn't until I joined the army that I met him, but the reason was so rational and logical that I didn't even think of holding him. My first girlfriend said, "I don't want to wait two years, I'm old enough to meet a lot of guys."

After I went back to school, I watched a graduate student who came in as a teaching assistant in a liberal arts class for a few weeks, and then I asked for his number, and we dated for about two and a half years. Again, it was a car, and he didn't tell me why, so I grabbed him once, but he left again. After joining a major company, I went on blind dates constantly, but I didn't meet anyone. Even if it wasn't necessarily an overseas assignment, I didn't like the fact that I had to move around for the rest of my life. After I left the company, people around me told me to study civil service, so I became a civil engineer at the age of 28. Since then, I've had a lot of blind dates, flirting, and confessions 5 times. And after two relationships, he is now 34 years old and alone. As a lover of analysis, I found that women's tendencies were somewhat similar when I accumulated data on women. Perhaps because of this, my curiosity disappeared and I was not excited to meet anyone.

On the other hand, I grew up in a well-to-do family environment. Both my father and mother went to good universities and studied well during their school days. As a result, my brother's genes were really good in terms of intelligence. I also thought that I grew up being loved without any financial deficiencies.

But as an adult, I felt that my parents' love was a little wrong. Of course, my parents would have said that because I was the first...

My sister is the only one in my family who knows how to express emotions. I grew up with a blunt father and a skeptical mother. When I was young, I grew up being scolded strictly by my parents, who tried to teach me the laws and rules if I did something wrong. The problem was next. When I finished reflecting on what went wrong, my parents didn't give me a warm word or a hug. In particular, my father showed a different attitude towards me and my brother, and after reflection, I realized that the reward was either money or books. Then I would read alone in my room or play some kind of mental game. On the other hand, I gave my younger brother a kind word and hugged him.

Even if it's just a small example, I have a lack of empathy when I bond with my parents, unlike my younger siblings, and I find it difficult to read the minds of others.

Even emotions come first. Oh, of course, I don't get angry because I feel angry at this time, but I feel that there are more emotions that I don't know than I thought. So, rather than being interested in others, it may be more interesting to study and analyze economics, philosophy, society, history, and politics at home. In the midst of this kind of life, the refreshing excitement of biting into an orange came to me.

When I saw her for the first time at a dinner party, I felt that the soju I usually used was unusually sweet that day.

How I felt when I fell in love with her at first sight at that time... And the emotions in the relationship that were sorted out in an instant... It was a jumbled, exhilarating and unique emotion. In the vast amount of data in my head, this situation and emotion never existed.

'This feeling was so unfamiliar.'

2-2 Relative Value

I've always tried to learn something from my ex-girlfriends. My first love was so young that I wondered what a woman was and what love was, rather than a developmental relationship.

When I was 24 years old after serving in the military, I became my second girlfriend and learned what it means to compromise. The man, like me, was fond of intellectual activity. We met and discussed social issues and current events. There were many times when we disagreed with each other during discussions, but whenever we did, he taught us how to compromise.

And from the age of 28 to 32, my two relationships were people who liked me. He asked me to meet him because he liked my external appearance, but he said that the process of getting to know me was too hard. I don't keep in touch during a relationship

There were many cases where it was done. It wasn't that I didn't like him, or that I was cold, so I often needed some time alone in an independent space.

At worst, he showed up in three weeks and said, "I'm sorry for contacting you late because I was analyzing the Korean economy and the U.S. economy."

"He's a cat. If you ask me to play, I play alone. And then it disappears.... Suddenly, he sneaks up and asks you to play again. I don't know where to put my stance."

"Do you like me, brother?" "yes"

"But why do you act like that?" "I don't understand." "Do you think the relationship is right now?" "I don't understand."

I don't have empathy, so I don't understand. I often made errors when talking to them.

I didn't judge their worth, but I think they thought they were less valuable.

And "Brother, break up." "Hmm... Don't get sick, stay healthy." And he didn't catch it.

I knew that I needed to meet someone I liked more to be less selfish. To distinguish between them, I didn't just analyze economic ideas, philosophies, and measures to deal with social problems to those I liked more, but constantly informed them and shared their opinions.

Everyone says I'm a weirdo. To be precise, it is written as a sign of unusualness. Even my friends of 20 years say they don't know, and they don't have feelings. He even said that he didn't have mood swings and was good at regulating his emotions, unlike ordinary people, and asked me, "Are you a sociopath?" Even at work, most people say to me, "You're unique."

Civil engineering officials are a very busy line. In addition, it is relatively closer to 'money' than other serials, so there are many interests. When I work, I don't write a report with a direction in mind. Many workers write reports that focus on what their boss tells them to do or what they want them to do. In other words, you write a report for your boss in front of a computer.

But I sit idly by for days. People think I'm not working. Not. I'm sitting down, analyzing what direction I want to go in and which direction is reasonable. As I said earlier, civil engineering serials have a lot of stakes related to money.

In my head, I'm analyzing the number of all cases. The benefits that the 'construction company' will take, the benefits that 'our city' will bring, the benefits that will be returned to the citizens, the direction that the boss wants, and the 'reasonable direction in accordance with the law' are all open. Then calculate the probability. If you widen your position in this direction and if you reduce it, you can share the benefits equally. Then, determine if the bill is interpretable, and finally, consider the direction your boss wants. Once I have decided that the probability of the number of cases is reasonable, I have everything sorted out in my head, and from then on I will write the report without any interruptions. But after falling in love with her at first sight, I didn't count the number of cases where I could increase my value (my strengths: analysis, knowledge, logic, rational decisions, etc.).

A lover is someone who designs the future together. People don't want to have someone of lower value than them as a lover. Lovers are also related to people, so I think it's psychological warfare to some extent, from the search war to the flirting, romance, and marriage that follows. It is a kind of psychological warfare that gives an advantage in relative values, and both men and women do not show their honest side. Moderate cheating acts like a glide that can lead to flirting and romance. Some people say, "If you meet while deceiving yourself like that, you'll break up anyway." The moderate cheating I spoke of is not a lie and a deception, but just a necessary skill in psychological warfare. The reason why we need this is because we don't love each other yet. But love and marriage are also I think it's different. Marriage is possible without love.

However, wouldn't it be most desirable to have a marriage that leads to a love affair, a relationship in which realistic conditions and inclinations coincide, and in the end, a relationship that compensates for each other's lack of equal value?

Episode 3: Errors in Generalization

After falling in love with her at first sight, a week later, I called her office. Every night, I ask myself, 'Am I really good at that?' I thought. I asked during a phone conversation with a friend. "Is it the right thing to do to call the office office?"

"No, don't call me, will he answer me in public and say, 'My number is xxx-xxxx-xxxx'?" But she gave me a number.