The Roots and the Fruits E-Book

Ayodele Ajileye

• Herausgeber: BookRix
• Kategorie: Ratgeber
• Sprache: Englisch

Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2020

Beschreibung

Don’t judge me that I hate my daughter, she reminds me of my mother who collected money from her mate to defile me.

Don’t judge me that I’m not sound academically, every sound keeps me awake at night with the fear that it’s not another fight between my parents.

Don’t judge me that I sleep in school, my brother never allows me to sleep at night because he is homosexual.

Don’t judge me that I had sex with him, he was going to sack my husband from work if I do not.

Don’t judge me that I patronize prostitutes, my wife also demands for money before or after sex and she holds back if I don’t give her.

Don’t judge me that I’m homosexual, I don’t even know how to be a man.

Don’t judge me that I divorced him, you see him as a sparkling white angel but I always see a seven-horned devil.

Don’t judge me that I’m always out of the house, my home is hell.

Don’t judge me that I don’t regard my in-laws, my spouse has not left them to cleave to me.

Don’t judge me that I don’t want to marry, I don’t want to be the kind of wife to any man that my mother was to my father.

Don’t judge me that I kept it secret, my love ones did not believe me when I told them.

Don’t judge me that I talk too much, I’m scared of the pictures that silence brings back to my mind.

Don’t judge me that I have this bad habit, I really want to stop it, and Ive tried, but it overpowers me.

Don’t judge me that I attempted suicide, nothing seems to make sense anymore, its the end and I’d rather end it myself now than wake for someday.

Don’t judge me that I’m too quiet, nobody listens to me.

Don’t judge me that I’m promiscuous, isn’t sex what we are made for?!

Don’t judge me that I’m a lesbian, men irritate me because of my experience with my father.

Don’t judge me that I don’t love or trust, I don’t even know what they mean because I never experienced them.

Don’t judge me that I’m gullible, I’ve always been called “stupid”.

Don’t judge me that I don’t like my brother, he stole my mother’s love from me.

Don’t judge me that left her, you’ve only heard too little of the whole story and she is playing the victim.

Don’t judge me, you don’t know my story.

This book explains the roots of human psychology, and reveals how human can be managed, even dysfunctional ones.

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Ayodele Ajileye

The Roots and the Fruits

Understanding Human Behaviors

I dedicate this book to everybody who has had to go through stuff in his/her relationship(s), and desires to operate better relationships.BookRix GmbH & Co. KG81371 Munich

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Introduction

We live, think and behave in certain ways that stem from some things that most of us ignore. Life is like a fruit-producing tree and people’s character and behaviors are the fruits that are produced by their lives. I have seen people who do not care the type of fruit they produce while some others wonder how they came about their character. Whether good or poor, some people are satisfied with the fruits they produce while others are not satisfied. Most of those who are not satisfied with their lives fruits end up trying to change their fruits by plucking off those fruits. The problem is not with the fruits, it is with the roots and what is available for them to absorb from the soil.

Every fruit is much of a function of the nutrients drawn by the roots from the soil and some from the atmosphere through the stem, branches and leaves. The root is a person’s perception of life, the stem is how he processes occurrences around him and the fruit is how he responds to those occurrences based on his perception. This is why I wrote three books, one to take care of the root, another to take care of the stem, branches and leaves, yet another to cater for the fruits.

The first book in this three in one book titled The Basic and Thorough of Life caters for the root, the second book titled Ripple Effect takes care of the stem, branches and leaves, while the third book titled The Room deals with the fruits. All the three books are individual independent books that I decided to put together because they all deal with life as a plant that operates from the roots to the fruits.

So, get a notepad, let’s get to work as we understand life better than ever before. This book will not be complete if your life is not better for it. This is why I want to advice you not to just read it, but to study it and see how you can extract the juice for your personal good.

The Basic and Thorough: Meet the Seven

Going through life, I have seen certain things that are available to everybody; they are life's basic supplies and essentials. Not only are they basic, they are also thorough because, one way or the other, everybody continues to have them and operate in them throughout his/her life.  There are seven of them and everything in life seems to neatly fit in one or more of them. These basics and thorough factors are

ReligionFamilyEducationFinanceEntertainmentFashionMedia

These seven are always in operation in everyone’s life, in every sector and the society at large.

This book seeks to explain each of them as simply as possible, adjust whatever needs adjustment and present the true nature of each of the seven basic and thorough factors of life. I shall be using the life book of standard — the Holy Bible — as the major reference book to establish the truth. Enjoy your ride through the pages of the book, live better on the strength of the knowledge contained in it and recommend it to others.

Life is all about relationship and every basic and thorough affects the way a life is lived. From one generation to another, these seven are passed down. Everything that is right or wrong is what it is because any one or more of the basic and thorough factors is/are rightly or wrongly perceived. And our perceptions form our perspectives, our perspectives form our beliefs, while our beliefs form our lifestyles.

Our perception of things is what we take to every aspect of our lives and every sector of the society. And if our perceptions of the basic and thorough factors of life go wrong, the other things in life go wrong because our perception form our lifestyles. I’d like to explain what life really is first so that we can have a good foundation to stand and build on.

Life is relational and dynamic. Whenever people define life, it is defined based on relationship and dynamism. To say that life is relational and dynamic is to give the definition a wide coverage. Everybody relates and everything changes even as time changes.

Relationship which is the core part of every life is defined as the method of interaction with one’s environment and the responsiveness to the environment. Everything (animate and inanimate) that surrounds a person is his environment and there is a constant interaction (exchange) with the environment. To interact with the environment is to expend on or derive from the environment. To be responsive is to be responsible for or to certain components of the environment and yourself.

What really is the essence of life? Why do we live? To answer this question effectively is to probe the reason for relationship since life is all about relationship. The reason why we live is as instructed in Genesis 1:27-28

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it…

The male and the female talk in the passage above is in a way talking about a donor and a receptor, a speaker and a listener, a student and a teacher, a giver and a receiver, and not necessarily the literal male and female; it’s part of it, but it is not all of it. So, four things to be done in order to keep a relationship alive and lively are:

Be fruitful

To be fruitful is to be productive and there is no productivity without vision. Solomon said, “Where there is no vision, people perish.” Another translation says, “…people run wild.” Yet another says, “…people cast of restraint.” Without vision, there is no life. Being relational with a vision-focused heart in an always changing world itself makes relationship alive and lively. This is because you are always actively finding solutions to problems or trying to flow with changes without causing much strain to you and your vision.

If the vision is a positive vision, its other products are positive. Vision produces attitude (way of thinking), attitude produces word (action and inaction), word produce character (habitual behavior), and character is who a person is. This is validated by the wise Kings words, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” and the Jesus word, “You can identify the by their fruit, that is, by the way they act…”

And multiply

The phrase “And multiply” shows that its a continuity of the phrase “be fruitful”. To multiply is to increase in number. Every relationship starts from intrapersonal, and every interpersonal relationship is a multiplication. Whether natural increase (through partnership or friendship or fellowship), or biological (child bearing), or adoption, every relationship must just multiply. A vision attracts other complementary visions and that is part of what the Bible is saying when it says, “Deep calls unto deep…”

The art of multiplying is the openness of a person to other people, a vision to other visions, and so on. Being open to interpersonal relationship could lead to impartation of vision on other people through association, it could help visions to complement one another, and it could help to encourage one another to stay focused, endure and get better.

And replenish the earth

After the phrase “And multiply” comes “And replenish the earth” and this is as important as every other. To replenish something is to refill it with what it used to contain and better. The council of elder in the days of the Apostles did not need much digging before they realized that they had the crucified Jesus Christ before them as they beheld Peter and John after they had healed the lame man at the beautiful gate. Jesus had replenished the earth with Himself. The elders observed and noticed that Peter and John were not learned but they had been with Jesus — Jesus had multiplied with them by initiating a relationship with them. And now, they have been imparted with Jesus person and vision — as iron sharpens iron, Jesus had sharpened His disciples until they became Apostles in His order.

God said of Abraham that He knew that he will teach his household His ways. To impart Abraham with His person and vision was the basis of the God-Abraham relationship, and that is Abraham’s basis for his interpersonal relationships. People come to and go from the earth, but visions do not have to leave with their initiators. Elijah didn’t go away with his anointing; he replenished himself in Elisha. People are supposed to replenish themselves in those they relate with. In whatever ways a relationship has multiplied, there must always be the predecessor and the successor, the teacher and the student, the speaker and the listener, and so on per time, else will lost its continuity.

And subdue it

Finally, man was created with the same reason that the Son of Man was sent to the earth and that is “to destroy the works of the devil.” To subdue the earth is to take it over and rule over it; to take it over from the devil and rule over it as God’s ambassador — God’s image and likeness. And this is where relationship comes in again, “…one person chase a thousand of them, and two people put ten thousand to flight”. Devils can’t stand any purposeful relationship because they know that two (good) are better than one, and God is with every life and relationship that is initiated in His name.

Even in relating with people, the instructions are for people to become better and easily achieve set goals. Let me explain it as discussed in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

For improvement

Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, "Two are better than one…" This means that every relationship is meant to make people better in whatever they do. Relationships are God’s tool for training people so that individuals can rise to perfection.

For greater accomplishment

Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, "...they have good reward for their labor..." and Deuteronomy 32:30 asks, “How could one person chase a thousand of them, and two people put ten thousand to flight…?” This is because the two people are in good relationship and good relationships just must get better result.

For companionship

Genesis 2:18 says, "...it is not good for the man to be alone..." and Ecclesiastes 4:11 says, “Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone?” Life is not meant to be lived as a lone ranger; people are beings that only thrive in companies which is why God created the male and the female as I have explained earlier. Relationships help for people to rub minds, souls and bodies together and that satisfies for companionship.

For Procreation

Procreation is the ability to multiply and replenish put together. In order not to repeat what I have discussed before, I’d like you to study the terms again because the make procreation in relationship and in life.

God’s reason for relationship is to ensure continuity. I’m not talking about marital relationships, though it’s part of it, all good relationships that is set to fulfill the first three reasons for relationship should also procreate in their likes. This is mentorship, training, guiding people in the right course and really passing the baton.

Having understood life, we can now launch into the basic and the thorough factors of life.