Yes, I Can! E-Book

Robin Nixon

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2012

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Beschreibung

Yes I Can! is for anyone who ever said, "I wish I could be like that person." Deep down we know that we all have the potential to be "that person", but achieving it seems impossible in practice. Well it's not impossible - you have the power to dramatically change your life. You can become more confident and motivated and find greater focus and direction in your life. You can become a better leader or manager and fill yourself with positive energy. You can lead the fulfilling life you have always dreamed of, and much more. See yourself as successful. Be successful. You have the power to change your life in ways that you may not even realize. As long as you can see where you want to be, or what you want to achieve, then you can make it happen. All you need to do is set aside a few minutes a day to visualize what you want to change or improve, and you'll find the focus and direction to get what you want. Using the power of creative visualization and other well-understood psychological techniques, you'll find this book is packed with practical, real world examples of changes that you can achieve in your life, using tried and tested techniques that have been demonstrated to be highly effective in numerous controlled studies. Yes I Can! contains simple, easy-to-follow, five-minute exercises developed by motivation expert Robin Nixon, which have worked wonders for thousands of others - now it's time to make them work for you. How this book will change your life By following the exercises in this book, you'll learn how to achieve all the following, and much more: * Learn to love yourself, life and others more - and be loved too * Achieve any goal on which you set your heart * Attain a level of self-confidence to match your abilities * Quickly recover from failure to try again * Motivate yourself when there's a task to do * Increase your stamina, concentration and commitment * Diminish negative energy * Learn to relax and become fulfilled From now on, your answer to every question that life throws at you will be, 'Yes I can!'

Leseprobe

Table of Contents

Cover

Title page

Copyright page

Dedication

Acknowledgements

Introduction: This Book Will Change Your Life

1 Learning to Visualize

HOW VISUALIZATION WORKS

EXPECTING A POSITIVE OUTCOME

HOLDING ONTO YOUR BELIEF

SELECTING GOALS YOU CAN ACHIEVE

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

2 Belief Is Half the Battle

LET’S TALK ABOUT YOU

LOOKING AT HOW YOU VIEW YOURSELF

COMPARING FAMOUS BANKRUPTS

DOING THINGS BY NOT KNOWING YOU CAN’T

THE MEDICINE THAT WORKS PURELY ON BELIEF

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

3 Standing Up for Yourself

BECOMING MORE ASSERTIVE

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF

LEARNING TO SAY ‘NO’

STANDING YOUR GROUND

AVOIDING THE DANGERS OF APPEASEMENT

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

4 Lighting the Fire Inside

DETERMINING WHY YOU WANT TO BE MOTIVATED

LEARNING HOW SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE GET MOTIVATED

DISCOVERING HOW YOU CAN HAVE GREATER MOTIVATION

PRACTISING THE VISUALIZATION

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

5 Building Confidence

THE DUNNING–KRUGER EFFECT

GETTING A HANDLE ON YOUR TRUE ABILITIES

CUSTOMIZING THE AFFIRMATIONS

THE BENEFITS OF BEING MORE CONFIDENT

SETTING YOURSELF A FIRM GOAL

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

6 Practising Patience and Perseverance

SAVING YOUR MONEY

FOCUSING ON A PARTICULAR DESIRE

AN EXERCISE WORTH PRACTISING

OTHER APPLICATIONS

NEVER GIVING UP

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

7 Plucking Up Courage

HOW AFFIRMATIONS WORK

BUILDING ON YOUR GROWING COURAGE

MAINTAINING COMMON SENSE AND FOCUS

GOING AHEAD AGAINST THE ODDS

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

8 Setting and Achieving Goals

SPENDING THE TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOUR GOAL

WRITING AFFIRMATIONS FOR YOUR GOALS

KEEPING YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ON BOARD

REPETITION IS THE KEY

EXPECTING RESULTS

STUDYING THE EFFECTIVENESS OF WRITTEN GOALS

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

9 Leading from the Front

BECOMING CONFIDENT AS A LEADER

SHARING YOUR VISION

LINING UP YOUR PRIORITIES

BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

MAINTAINING CONSISTENCY

EMBODYING ALL THESE TRAITS

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

10 Committing Yourself

THE SURVIVAL OF THE COMMITTED

COMMITTING TO RELATIONSHIPS

COMMITTING TO BETTERMENT

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

11 Gaining Boundless Enthusiasm

OUR PLACE IN THE UNIVERSE

FROM THE MUNDANE TO THE SUBLIME

PRACTISING CAUTION

HOW VISUALIZATION WILL HELP

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

12 Acquiring Better Focus

SEEING LIFE THROUGH A LENS

TAKING GREATER NOTICE

HAVING THE WRONG FOCUS

FINDING THE RIGHT FOCUS

EXPANDING YOUR HORIZONS

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

13 Assuming Responsibility

TOMORROW ALWAYS COMES

HAVING RESPONSIBILITY THRUST UPON YOU

CHOOSING TO TAKE ON RESPONSIBILITY

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE

INCREASING YOUR DESIRE FOR RESPONSIBILITY

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

14 Using Body Language

ABOUT MIRROR NEURONS

THE PENCIL STUDY

SMILING IS GOOD FOR YOU

NOT JUST FACES

CONTROLLING YOUR TONE OF VOICE

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

15 Encouraging Creativity

BEING ARTISTIC

AWAKENING YOUR CREATIVITY

CONSTRUCTING A CREATIVITY CHAIN

COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR UNCONSCIOUS MIND

CONSIDER THE FLEA

DOING IT FOR SOMEONE ELSE

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

16 Generating Positive Energy

ABOUT PHYSICAL ENERGY

EMOTIONAL ENERGY

SPIRITUAL ENERGY

THE ENERGY WITHIN

COMPARING THE ENERGY TYPES

LETTING GO OF WORRIES AND HURTS

INCREASING POSITIVE ENERGY

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

17 Painting the Vista

PAINTING YOUR OWN VISTAS

PRESENTING YOUR VISTA

OUTSIDE OF THE WORKPLACE

USING YOUR VISTA

THINKING PURELY VISUALLY

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

18 Fostering Curiosity

THE VACATION EFFECT

CHANGING YOUR PERSPECTIVE

EXPANDING YOUR KNOWLEDGE

USING CURIOSITY IN EVERYDAY LIFE

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

19 Learning to Relax

HOW WE DEAL WITH STRESS

WHAT CAUSES STRESS?

USING INSTANT RECALL

COMBATING STRESS WITH THE TRUTH

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

20 Spreading Happiness

UNDERSTANDING HAPPINESS

BEING HAPPY BY MAKING OTHERS HAPPY

A NATURAL HIGH

SHARING YOUR JOY WITH OTHERS

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

21 Taking Pride

WHY WE NEED TO HAVE PRIDE

PRAISING OTHERS THE RIGHT WAY

CATCHING HUBRIS BEFORE IT GROWS

QUIETING YOUR EGO

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

22 Becoming Fulfilled

WHAT IS FULFILMENT?

ATTAINING FULFILMENT

PUTTING THINGS RIGHT

HAVING IT ALL MAKE SENSE

IF NOTHING ELSE, REMEMBER . . .

About the Author

Index

This edition first published 2012

© 2012 Robin Nixon

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Acknowledgements

I’d like to thank all the people who have helped to bring this book to publication, including Jonathan Shipley, Iain Campbell, Jenny Ng, Vicky Kinsman, Grace O’Byrne, Megan Saker and Emily Bryczkowski, and everyone else who has been involved. It’s been a distinct pleasure to work with the Capstone team, and I’m grateful to you all for making my vision for Yes I Can! become a reality, and for helping it to turn out better than I ever expected.

I’d also like to thank each and every one of the well over 150,000 people who downloaded the first four chapters of this book from the iTunes App Store and Android Market. Your incredible support and hundreds of kind comments let me know that what I had written made a difference, and spurred me on to complete the book you are now reading – it wouldn’t have happened without you!

Introduction

This Book Will Change Your Life

You can do it!

– Robin Nixon

‘I wish I could be like that person.’ I bet this is a phrase that you have said to yourself. Deep down you know that you have the potential to be ‘that person’, but achieving it seems impossible in practice. Well, I can tell you that it’s not impossible:

You have the power to change your life in many ways that you may not even realize.

You can become more confident and motivated, and find greater focus and direction in your life.

You can become a better leader or manager and fill yourself with positive energy.

All this and more can be achieved with the simple five-minute exercises in this book.

Once you get used to these techniques and have seen the real results you can achieve, you’ll understand how you can adapt the techniques directly to your own specific life and circumstances to achieve much more specific goals.

The power of creative visualization has been known for centuries, but it’s something you rarely come across. But think about it. Before building a house you need a plan, an architect’s drawing or blueprint. Without it, builders would run around in circles not knowing where they were going or what to do next.

But with a plan the builders can progress in an orderly fashion, from one task to the next, ensuring, for example, that they don’t try to put the roof on before the walls have been built.

So it is with life. Think of these exercises as life blueprints. To create them you simply set aside a few minutes each day to visualize the part of your life you wish to change or improve, and as you do so you see where the problems are, and the solutions just pop into your mind. And there are plenty of ready-made exercises in this book you can practise.

If you visualize on a topic for several days you will see your visualizations grow. They will expand and become more detailed, and you’ll start saying ‘Aha’ as not only do you begin to understand how you can make the change you want, but you’ll notice that you’ve actually already started out on the change.

I promise there’s no mumbo jumbo in this book. Every technique is simply explained along with the reasons for why it will work. In these chapters you’ll find practical, real-world changes you can achieve in your life using tried and tested techniques.

These exercises have worked for me many times over – and they will work for you. Prepare to be astonished.

1

Learning to Visualize

I visualized myself being a famous actor and earning big money. I could feel and taste success – I just knew it would all happen.

– Arnold Schwarzenegger

In this chapter you will:

learn the history of creative visualization

understand how visualization works

be ready to start using creative visualization to change your life

Creative visualization has been known about and understood for hundreds (if not thousands) of years. For example, ancient cave dwellers visualized the animals they would hunt and how they would do it, and drew this on their cave walls.