Big Questions, Worthy Dreams E-Book

Sharon Daloz Parks

• Herausgeber: John Wiley & Sons
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• Sprache: Englisch

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Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2011

Beschreibung

THE "TWENTY-SOMETHING" YEARS of emerging adulthood are increasingly recognized as a distinctive but puzzling era in the human life span. In this tenth anniversary revised edition of her 2001 classic, Sharon Daloz Parks, a pioneering voice in young adult development theory, builds on the foundation she established over two decades ago in The Critical Years, in which she recognized this significant stage in the human life span and underscored the role of mentors in the lives of young adults. The emerging adult years constitute a new challenge to individuals, institutions, and cultures. It matters whether emerging adults move through the twenty-something decade on default settings or are well prepared for citizenship and leadership. Focusing on critical features of human development--transformations in thinking, feeling, and networks of belonging--Parks describes the potential and vulnerability of emerging adults and shows how mentors and mentoring environments can provide access to big-enough questions and inspire dreams worthy of engagement with a challenging and complex world. Parks casts the emerging adult years within the task of making meaning in a dramatically changing world--a task that all human beings share. She helpfully recognizes "faith" as meaning-making in its most comprehensive dimensions, whether expressed in secular or religious terms, and how over time our meaning-making orients our sense of purpose, moral stance, and competence. This tenth-anniversary revised edition of Big Questions, Worthy Dreams is written for faculty and administrators in higher and professional education, supervisors in workplace settings, community leaders, parents, and for all who are open to deepening their understanding of emerging adult lives. This updated edition addresses recent issues and events, including (among others) violence in our culture, mixed spirituality and religious identities, social media and networking, the economic crisis, changing racial identity, cultural shifts, and other forces shaping the narrative of young adulthood today.

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Table of Contents

Cover

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Title page

Copyright page

Dedication

Preface

Chapter One: Emerging Adulthood in a Changing World

A New Era in Human Development

Bewildering Ambiguity

Three Central Questions

The Search for Meaning, Purpose, and Faith

A Disciplined Inquiry—A Developmental Perspective

Role of Imagination in Human Intelligence

Mentors and Mentoring Environments

Becoming Adult in a Changing World

The New Commons

The Distinctive Role of Higher Education

A Complex Call

Chapter Two: The Deep Motion of Life

Points of Departure: What Faith Is and Isn’t

Faith—a Matter of Meaning

Forms of Faith

Through the Valley of the Shadow

The Deep Motion of Life

Chapter Three: Becoming at Home in the Universe

The Formation of Trust and Power

Evolving Capacities of Mind

A Powerful Conversation

A New Place in the Life Span

Discovering Another Neglect

Journey

Home

Chapter Four: It Matters How We Think

Forms of Knowing

Reconsidering the Three-Step Model

Forms of Knowing Revised

Emerging Adulthood

Chapter Five: It All Depends . . . 

The Affective Dimensions of Meaning-Making

Forms of Dependence

Chapter Six: . . .  On Belonging

Networks of Belonging

The Power of Tribe

Freedom and Boundaries

Balancing Two Great Yearnings

Forms of Community

The Value of Recognizing the Emerging Adult Era

Chapter Seven: Imagination

Threshold Existence

Imagination Versus Fantasy

Imagination: A Composing and Shaping Activity

Imagination: The Highest Power of the Knowing Mind

Imagination—for Good and for Ill

Imagination: Process, Content, Action

Learning and Leadership

A Paradigm—a Grammar of Transformation and Learning

Communities of Confirmation and Contradiction

Imagination and the Moral Life

Relationship and Risk

To Mend a World

Chapter Eight: The Gifts of Mentorship and a Mentoring Environment

Overuse of the Term Mentor

Recognition

Support

Challenge

Inspiration

In Dialogue

Accountable—Mentors and Clay Feet

Mentoring Communities

Features of a Mentoring Environment

Chapter Nine: Higher Education as Mentor

Epistemological Assumptions

The Syllabus: A Confession of Faith

Big-Enough Questions

The Professor as Spiritual Guide

Passion

Worthy Dreams

The Courage and Costs of the Intellectual Life

Chapter Ten: Culture as Mentor

Recognition

Support

Challenge

Inspiration

Worthy Dreams

Coda: Mentoring Communities

Professional Education and the Professions

The Workplace

Travel

Families

Religious Faith Communities

Media

Social Movements

The Author

Name Index

Subject Index

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“Making meaning is a challenge at all stages of life, but perhaps most of all during the emerging adult years, when most young people leave their family home and then have to find a new place in the world. In this book, Sharon Daloz Parks explores with insight and empathy the many ways that today’s emerging adults struggle to answer their big questions and reach their dreams —and how, as mentors, we can help them get there. This book will be a valuable resource for parents, professors, administrators, employers, and all others who care about emerging adults and want to see them thrive.”

—Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, Clark University; author of Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road from the Late Teens Through the Twenties

“Big Questions, Worthy Dreams is welcome relief from recent portrayals of university students as character-flawed consumers. Parks’s skillful presentation of developing ‘consciousness, conscience, and competence’ in emerging adults challenges university colleagues to reclaim their shared project of higher education with enlarged imaginations and renewed purpose.”

—Patricia O’Connell Killen, academic vice president, Gonzaga University

“In this book, Sharon Daloz Parks has given us a rare and precious gem that shines a deeply sensitive and profoundly sweet light into the core meaning of higher education. With an intellectual edge honed by experience, she writes with her characteristic compassion and brilliant reflections on the big questions of our time. Her search and explorations reignite the spirit, purpose, and calling of our common work as mentors and educators seeking to understand how to help form more responsible global citizens. Give this book to yourself and as a gift to a friend.”

—Manuel N. Gomez, vice chancellor, emeritus, University of California, Irvine

“I read Big Questions, Worthy Dreams when I first became a rabbi on campus. The copy is well worn and overflowing with underlined passages. Sharon Daloz Parks’s wisdom and insight continue to enlighten and inspire all who work with emerging adults across lines of profession, discipline, and faith.”

—Rabbi Josh Feigelson, educational director, AskBigQuestions, an initiative of Hillel: The Foundation for Jewish Campus Life

“From today’s vantage point, the things at stake in this tenth anniversary edition are even more profound and urgent than they were the first time around. This is not a little story about young people. It is a big story about humanity and the persistent quest for meaning and purpose. Parks begs us to get young people on the mat and wrestling with life’s big questions, and to help them build authentic lives that do right by those questions. The moment is now, the responsibility is ours, the key is mentorship, and the payoff should be big—for all of us.”

—Richard A. Settersten Jr., author, Not Quite Adults: Why 20-Somethings Are Choosing a Slower Path to Adulthood, and Why It’s Good for Everyone

“This is the classic work on emerging adulthood, now updated to reckon with the bewildering and very big questions the past decade has delivered up: think 9/11, Facebook, global recession, climate change. Scholarly, wise, elegant, and deeply insightful, the book is an indispensable resource for all who work with people in the awe- and angst-filled years between 18 and 32, all who interact with them, and all who care about their safe passage into mature and compassionate adults. And, as Sharon Parks helps us see, all of us should care, because the stakes are high. Mentoring from “hospitable” adults can make all the difference in how high they set their sights and now, more than ever, upcoming generations have fateful choices to make about their lives and our common future that we need them to take up faithfully and fully awake. Parks, a master teacher, lights the way—theirs and ours.”

—Diana Chapman Walsh, president emerita, Wellesley College; board chair, The Broad Institute of MIT and Harvard

“No one who cares deeply about people in their twenties should be without this book. In Sharon Daloz Parks’s lyrical company we learn so much more about their biggest possibilities—and our own.”

—Robert Kegan, author, In Over Our Heads; professor, Harvard Graduate School of Education

“Parks’s clear voice in Big Questions, Worthy Dreams is simultaneously that of a scholar, clinician, ethicist, and priest—that of a rare and capable generalist who can nurture both teachers and students . . . [and] reveal the architecture of the process by which we merge the questions of ultimate reality with the immediate needs and duties of our generation. Stunningly transparent. Essential insight.”

—Janet Cooper Nelson, chaplain of the university, Brown University

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Parks, Sharon Daloz, date

 Big questions, worthy dreams : mentoring emerging adults in their search for meaning, purpose, and faith / Sharon Daloz Parks.—2nd ed.

p. cm.

 Includes index.

 ISBN 978–0–470–90379–7 (hardback); 978–1–118–11384–4 (ebk); 978–1–118–11385–1 (ebk); 978–1–118–11386–8 (ebk);

 I. Title.

 BL42.P37 2011

 207'.50842–dc23

Excerpt from “Bugbee as Mentor” from Wilderness and the Heart: Henry Bugbee’s Philosophy of Place, Presence, and Memory, edited by Edward F. Mooney. Reprinted by permission of The University of Georgia Press. Copyright © 1999 The University of Georgia Press.

Excerpt from A Feeling for the Organism: The Life and Work of Barbara McClintock, by Evelyn Fox Keller. Copyright © 1983 W. H. Freeman and Company, New York. Reprinted by permission.

Excerpt from Hunting for Hope by Scott Russell Sanders. Copyright © 1998 by Scott Russell Sanders. Reprinted by permission of Beacon Press, Boston.

Excerpt from Quinn/Deep Change/Copyright © 1996. Reprinted by permission of Jossey-Bass, Inc., an imprint of John Wiley & Sons.

Excerpt from Acts of Faith by Eboo Patel. Copyright © 2007 by Eboo Patel. Reprinted by permission of Beacon Press, Boston.

Excerpt from A Gravestone Made of Wheat by Will Weaver. Copyright © 1989, published by Graywolf Press. Reprinted by permission.

Dedication

James W. Fowler III

intellectual pioneer,

faithful professor,

masterful teacher,

friend

Preface

In recent decades, there has been mounting public awareness of something particularly powerful and poignant—and sometimes confounding—about the “twenty-something” years, harboring, as they do, both potential and vulnerability. No longer adolescents, young, emerging adults have achieved critical strengths, yet in a complex and demanding culture, they remain appropriately dependent in distinctive ways on recognition, support, challenge, and inspiration as they make their way into full adulthood. Not only the quality of their individual lives but also our future as a culture depends in no small measure on our capacity to recognize emerging adults, to initiate them into the big questions of their lives and our times, and to give them access to worthy dreams.

This book is intended to inform and inspire renewed commitment to the practice of mentoring and to invite reconsideration of some of the institutional and cultural patterns that affect emerging adults. Its purpose is to serve as a bridge across the divides between generations and to encourage a more adequate recognition of what is at stake in the response of all who interact with emerging, young adult lives.

In 1986, I published The Critical Years: Young Adults and the Search for Meaning, Faith, and Commitment. Anchored in constructive-developmental research and theory, it revealed a new stage or era emerging in the human life span and a vital set of tasks in the development of adult meaning-making. After it went out of print yet was still being used, I was invited by Jossey-Bass to rewrite the work—creating a new book. Big Questions, Worthy Dreams: Mentoring Young Adults in Their Search for Meaning, Purpose, and Faith retained the essence of the earlier work while expanding the focus from the traditional undergraduate period to a broader recognition of the power of the twenty-something years as a whole. It also reflected an expanded awareness not only of the importance of mentors, but also of the vital significance of “mentoring environments.”

That was a decade ago—a decade in which Big Questions, Worthy Dreams has been widely used, and now I am privileged to have been invited to offer a tenth anniversary revised edition. Because the book describes core processes of human becoming that do not change dramatically, much of the book is the same. But there are also changes because I continue to live, learn, and grapple with new questions; because other scholars and theorists have provided additional traction in our understanding of this “new” era in the human life span; and because the cultural landscape is shifting at whiplash speed, affecting the aspirations and anxieties of young, emerging adults and all the rest of us.

Notably, our economic and political life has become yet more brittle, volatile, and global—both enlarging and constraining young adult aspirations. Today’s emerging adults are “digital natives”—connected and distracted in unprecedented forms. Emerging adults now move in not only a religiously variegated world in which religion and faith have become problematized and polarized, but also a world in which hybrid and atheistic claims have gained currency along with various forms of fundamentalism. In this context, it has become all the more essential to recognize, as this book does, that the word faith in its broadest, most inclusive form is an activity that all human beings share. Whether expressed in religious or secular terms, faith is the activity of making-meaning in the most comprehensive dimensions of our awareness. This understanding of the word faith is increasingly crucial not only for making one’s way in a multireligious world, but also for recognizing, in any case, that the ways in which we do or do not make sense of the whole of life profoundly affects our personal and collective life.

The primary concern that initially fueled my research and writing was that although young people rightly discover a critical perspective that calls into question their inherited, conventional faith, and although they may then be able to increase their respect for the faith of others, they often are left adrift in a sea of unqualified ethical relativism, unable to compose a worthy faith of their own. This concern remains. But my more recent concerns are two. First, too many emerging adults are not being encouraged to ask the big questions that awaken critical thought in the first place. Swept up in religious assumptions that remain unexamined (and economic and political assumptions that function religiously), they may easily become vulnerable to conventional assumptions and miss being invited to their own authentic and worthy dreams. This was a significant influence in shaping the first edition of Big Questions, Worthy Dreams. My second concern affecting this revision is this question: for those who do achieve a capacity for critical thought, why is critical thought apparently so difficult to sustain beyond the borders of a narrow expertise—that is, why is it inadequately applied to the broader challenges now facing our society and world? Too often the collective work of all citizens is dodged through denial, misdefinition, or an inappropriate deference to authority. Moreover, during the past decade, I published a book, Leadership Can Be Taught: A Bold Approach for a Complex World, focused on the need for adaptive leadership in a society where there has been a growing sense of a “crisis of leadership” across sectors. Emerging adulthood is a distinctively vital time for the formation of the kind of critically aware faith that undergirds the trust, agency, sense of belonging, respect, compassion, intelligence, and confidence required for citizenship and leadership in today’s societies. And yet if emerging adults and their potential mentors simply operate on the current default settings, the formation of self and society that is needed may not occur.

In some quarters, emerging adults are being more effectively recognized in both their potential and vulnerability. This revised edition is offered as a companion to that good work and is intended to inspire the imagination of yet others. It is written particularly for those who meet young adults in the context of higher education and spans the unfortunate chasm that often exists between the academic concerns of the faculty and “student services.” But it is intended also for supervisors and other potential mentors in the professions; business, corporate, and nonprofit workplaces; and the broad range of communities and agencies in which young adults live, work, and seek recognition, support, challenge, and inspiration.

This book draws on forty years of teaching, counseling, research, and study with young adults in college, university, and professional school contexts, as well as in workplace and other settings both formal and informal. Unless otherwise cited, quotations from young adults themselves are drawn from my research at Whitworth University (in collaboration with Gonzaga University), Harvard Divinity School, Harvard Business School (in collaboration with the Tuck School of Business and the Darden School of Business), the Harvard Kennedy School of Government, from the study reported in my book with colleagues Common Fire: Leading Lives of Commitment in a Complex World, and from more informal conversations—most recently at Seattle University, the Whidbey Institute, and other places where I have served as speaker and consultant. In most instances names and identifying elements have been changed because anonymity was a condition of the research interviews; thus, any similarity to actual people or organizations is accidental. To each of the interviewees who so graciously and continually confounded and informed my understanding, I want to express my ongoing and deep gratitude.

There are, however, some who in their emerging adult years (past or present) have made essential contributions that can be acknowledged here: Peter Bloomquist, Peter Dykstra, Danielle Hendrix, Hannah Lee Jones, Hannah Merriman, Julie Neraas, Elana Polichuk, Wendy Evans Sewall, Scott Shaw, Cindy Smith, Greg Spenser, Susan Hunt Stevens, Kendra Terry, Drew Tupper, Sarah Waring, and Tyler Whitmire.

From the beginning and for always I am grateful to David Erb, Duncan Ferguson, James Fowler, Beverly Harrison, Fritz Hull, Vivienne Hull, James Paisley, Robert Rankin, William R. Rogers, William G. Perry Jr., and George Rupp—apart from whom my study of young adult faith might never have been launched or, once launched, might never have found a voice and a home. I am also deeply indebted to many colleagues from a wide range of institutions—particularly faculty, administrators, and campus chaplains—who have generously shared their insight, competence, skepticism, and the inspiration of their commitment to the next generation. These include Keith Anderson, Chris Cobel, Jeff Dalseid, Jon Dalton, Tony Deifell, Craig Dykstra, Dave Evans, Josh Feigelson, Lucy Forester-Smith, Marianne Frase, Ron Frase, Diana Gale, Steve Garber, Cheryl Getz, Keith Howard, Jim Hunt, Linda Hunt, Chris Johnson, Heather Johnson, Julie Johnson, Robert Kegan, Patricia Killen, Sharon Lobel, Steve Moore, Ian Oliver, Mark Nepo, Parker Palmer, Suzanne Renna, Mary Romer, Michelle Sarna, Rick Spaulding, Terry Stokesbury, Ed Taylor, Michael Waggoner, Cathy Whitmire, and Arthur Zajonc.

This revised edition would never have come to be without the invitation and colleagueship of Sheryl Fullerton, senior editor at Jossey-Bass, and the competence of her colleagues, especially Joanne Clapp Fullagar, Susan Geraghty, Alison Knowles, and Jeff Puda, and I remain grateful for the earlier and considerable editorial gifts of Sarah Polster, Karen Thorkilsen, and Kate Daloz.

Finally, I am grateful beyond measure to my husband, Larry Daloz, for his steadfast presence, encouragement, and assistance as in our life together we have navigated the throes of yet one more book—sharing the faith that working on behalf of the next generation to provide leadership and mentorship within a new global commons is worthy of our best and ongoing efforts. And I am grateful in another and very special way to my stepdaughter, Kate Daloz, and my stepson, Todd Daloz. They were among the young adults to whom the original Big Questions, Worthy Dreams was dedicated—both then recently graduated from college. Now, married to Edward Herzman and Susannah Walsh, who entered their and our lives when they were all still emerging adults, I have had the privilege of watching the four of them complete their twenty-something years and become full adults, including becoming parents and moving into their own professional competence and commitments. They deeply inform my best imagination of the courage, costs, and gifts of the twenty-something years lived with an artful faithfulness—willing to ask big questions and to pursue worthy dreams.

Sharon Daloz Parks

Summer 2011

Chapter One

Emerging Adulthood in a Changing World

Potential and Vulnerability

A talented young man, recently graduated from an outstanding college, still trying to heal from his parents’ divorce, and somewhat at a loss for next steps in his search for a meaningful place in the world of adult work, is asked by his dad and stepmom, “When you think from your deepest self, what do you most desire?” To their surprise he quietly responds, “To laugh without cynicism.”

Having been admitted to a top-tier law school, but uncertain about that path, a bright young woman deferred admission for a year “to give myself some breathing room” and took a job to try something new as a community organizer in a nonprofit working to improve the quality of K–12 education. Three years later, she says, “It was hard. I learned that recruiting and training volunteers was time-consuming and emotionally draining. But it was amazing to see people you recruited lobby their elected officials, speak eloquently at a school board meeting, and show up five thousand strong to rally at the capitol. I’m increasingly interested in education policy, and though I’m uncertain about my next steps, I’ll never regret not going to law school three years ago.”

A young man from Guyana, twenty-six years old, is the proud owner of a small flooring company and a part-time student at a community college. One of his teachers observes that though last term he only occasionally slouched into class, he seems to have made some kind of decision and now attends regularly, alert and ready. “His papers have improved by about 200 percent, and he contributes to the friendly, thoughtful tone of the class. He is obviously working very hard both for class and in his business. He has dyslexia, and writing is very labored for him, but he has shown a tremendous amount of thought, effort, creativity, and truly beautiful insight—especially in a paper he wrote about being a young father. He is someone I really, really respect and am generally rooting for.”

A college student remarks with candid self-awareness that she and her peers are in a “self-centered” time in life, busy with identity and vocation questions, and aren’t yet thinking in terms of larger questions about justice or meaning. She is neither apologetic nor precluding that her perspective will change.