deep-sensory E-Book

Gudrun Leyendecker

• Herausgeber: BoD - Books on Demand
• Kategorie: Fachliteratur
• Sprache: Englisch
• Veröffentlichungsjahr: 2024

Seitenzahl: 96

Beschreibung

Gudrun Leyendecker has been an author since 1995. She was born in Bonn in 1948. See Wikipedia. She has published around 98 books, including non-fiction, crime novels, romance novels and satire. Leyendecker also writes as a ghostwriter for well-known directors. She is a member of writers' associations and an Italian cultural association. She also gained experience for her work during her decades as a life counselor.

Leseprobe

The book DEEP-SENSORY with the subtitle: "If you are highly sensitive",

shows questions and answers for people who have problems with their sensitivity.

It is estimated that between 15 and 30% of people belong to the group of highly sensitive people due to their sensitive perception.

Among them are people who have to find their own way to find their place in today's struggle for existence. Many of them are not aware that this subtle disposition can also be a gift.

Gudrun Leyendecker has been an author since 1995. She was born in Bonn in 1948.

See Wikipedia.

She has published around 98 books, including non-fiction, crime novels, romance novels and satire. Leyendecker also writes as a ghostwriter for well-known directors. She is a member of writers' associations and an Italian cultural association. She also gained experience for her work during her decades as a life counselor.

For RIKE

In deep solidarity

Table of contents

Topics and keywords in this book

My learned experiences

DEEP-SENSORY

Sensitivity and resilience

Tips for the evening

Sleep

Tips for the morning

The leisure time

A few special suggestions

What is positive stress?

A small example

Warning

The anxious type

The you-man

The fear biter

The restless, the hectic

The hermit

The panic attacks

The consequences

Unhealthy for highly sensitive people

The feeling

The creativity

Quick help

Dreams

Self-love and love

Moods

You can only fly with light luggage

Topics and keywords in this book:

High sensitivity is neither an illness nor a mental disorder

I wish I was an elephant

Why I am writing this book

my learned experiences

Deep-sensory

Sensitivity and resilience in everyday life

Tips for the evening

the sleep

Tips for the morning

leisure time

a few suggestions to get creative

A few advantages and disadvantages of high sensitivity

What is positive stress?

Example for ...

A great advantage that a highly sensitive person has ...

all our senses have...

Different types where high sensitivity is a particular issue

the order fanatic

the anxious type

the word fear... tightness

the you-man

the fear biter

the restless, the hectic

the hermit

the panic attacks

feel powerless

we practise pondering

We should only worry about things ...

The feeling

The dreams

Quick help

get creative

Goethe, poem about feelings

Self-love and love

Love yourself with flaws and weaknesses

The highly sensitive person in the partnership

Moods

all feelings are allowed

Anger

the laughter

Joy

If you have found something that interests you and possibly affects you in some way, it makes sense to read on.

High sensitivity is neither an illness nor a mental disorder. A highly sensitive person is characterized by an extremely intense perception of all sensory stimuli. Some or all of their senses are very sensitive and these people process all perceptions very thoroughly.

Because of this ability, I also classify this type of person as deeply sensitive. Further reasons and explanations can be found on the following pages.

Many people I have met over the many decades of my life and still meet today suffer from their high sensitivity. They feel like a marginalized group, sometimes excluded from the group of people who are more or less carefree, courageous and largely fearless in their pursuit of various goals.

Because highly sensitive people process everything very thoroughly, they often need more time and, above all, more energy to do so.

The basic requirement for highly sensitive people is to ensure that their nervous strain does not get out of hand.

Due to the greater effort that highly sensitive people need to process, they are generally more quickly exhausted and less resilient.

Because of the sensitivity of his perceptions, he usually feels rather "annoyed", irritated and burdened, and his feelings do not deceive him. The limit of his resilience lies far below the resilience of those people who are not highly sensitive and are equipped with a "thick nervous system" or, as they say in the vernacular, a "thick skin".

In order not to be disadvantaged as a highly sensitive person, it is important to recognize yourself, accept yourself and learn to live positively with your high sensitivity.

As a child, I heard my father say the saying that I still remember today:

I wish I was an elephant,

then I would cheer loudly:

It wouldn't be because of the ivory

No, because of the thick skin.

I think this saying comes from a highly sensitive person who wanted to have a good nervous system and who did not feel comfortable among less sensitive people. I also gather from these words that this poet felt disadvantaged and could not really use his high sensitivity in a positive way. He envied the less sensitive people and obviously suffered from the disadvantages that a highly sensitive person can have. But this is exactly where every highly sensitive person can start. They have the opportunity to live more intensively and better in a positive way and can discover the creative potential that they can draw from their soul.

The deeply processed impressions contain a great potential for creative ideas. Everything a person has experienced finds an echo in their soul.

Many people claim that they are not creative, but everyone can awaken something in themselves that allows creativity to flow (more on this later in this book).

Believers are convinced that they were created by (a) God in his image. It is therefore also understandable that there is creative power in every human being, even if it is sometimes (still) hidden.

And with all this knowledge about highly sensitive people and being able to draw on my creative potential, I am quite sure that being a highly sensitive person is good for me. I don't want to have the proverbial "thick skin", no "elephant skin" as my skin. I like my sensitive skin.

Rainer Maria Rilke

expresses his feelings, his high sensitivity in a poem:

If only it would be, just once, completely quiet.

If the random and, the approximate

Went mute, and the neighbors’ laughter,

If the noise that my senses make,

Would not so stubbornly keep me from waking,

-

Then I could, in a thousandfold

Thought, think you right to the edge of you

and have you (just a smile long),

to give to all life as a gift

like a thank-you.

Take a break! Look at a flower or a leaf (if it is possible, in nature), see how creative nature is!

Why am I writing this book?

The topic of high sensitivity is important. Especially in these fast-moving times, we have to learn to reflect on ourselves again and again. This topic seems to be brand new, as it is currently appearing everywhere on the internet and in the media, as if a new generation of special people has been born.

Highly sensitive people have been around for ages, but their abilities have rarely been noticed, often even less appreciated and sometimes even tabooed. Especially in this day and age of widespread communication through the media, this taboo should be broken. It is important that the different groups of people understand each other and get to know each other.

It is particularly important that people who belong to the group of highly sensitive people connect with each other in order to exchange ideas and share similarities. But it is just as important that the group of less sensitive people not only shows understanding for the highly sensitive people, but also enables them to act in positions where they can give their best. The less sensitive people must learn to be more considerate, more attentive, more mindful, especially when living together with the highly sensitive people.

As I grew up in an environment of highly sensitive people and was often surrounded by them later in life, I, 76 years old, report al lot of life experiences.

Sensitivity is not a disease, but a special disposition that you should recognize and accept in yourself in order to learn how to deal with it correctly.

My own story is a life with high sensitivity.

Some readers may find themselves in this report and receive suggestions for living their own life of high sensitivity.

I was born in 1948, in the post-war period, as the fourth child in a family of artists.

My mother was not only a pianist and highly gifted musician, she also had a talent for drawing and writing poetry. Because of her own sensitivity, she suffered from migraines for many decades of her life, had stomach ulcers and gallstones. All these manifestations of the body indicate that the artist was too stressed by everyday and other problems.

My father, an art historian and doctor of philosophy, also played the piano, painted, wrote poetry and wrote art history travel guides. He suffered from high blood pressure and cardiac arrhythmia for many years, which later led to him being fitted with a pacemaker. This is also a sign that he was constantly exposed to too many stressful moments.

Even though the word "highly sensitive" wasn't used back then, I am convinced that both my parents should be counted as highly sensitive people.

My mother always worried a lot about us, which she shared with us. My eldest sister's illness, who suffered from various symptoms of a mental disorder on her way to adulthood, was a particularly hard blow. I was sensitized to the sensitive people around me and to people with symptoms of illness.

I remember the first moments of fear in my life: alone in a dark room, fear of various adults, vague feelings of anxiety.

Asthma in early childhood led to lung sensitivity, followed by whooping cough, two bouts of pneumonia and pleurisy as a child. An aversion to milk and butter made me avoid these products. I often developed nausea when driving, apparently a reaction of "the sense of balance".

I didn't go to kindergarten, but invented a lot of fantasy games, as my older siblings were already at school at the time and I was often left to my own devices, for example when my mother wasn't feeling well. I invented friends who didn't exist, fantasized and played with non-existent people.

As I was still quite a good student in elementary school, my fears were limited during this time, especially as I soon discovered that there were a few things I could do better than many others. These were drawing, painting, writing stories and the ability to empathize with others. This led me to acting in amateur theater groups at an early age. Wherever the opportunity arose, I played various roles. My sister and I often performed sketches, small or larger plays, which we presented to any audience.

From the 5th school year, my first year at grammar school, I put myself under pressure to perform. Various fears prevented me from expressing myself. Fear of failure was combined with a fundamental fear of making mistakes and the fear of embarrassing myself in front of my classmates.

At the same time, I had joined a circle of new classmates, almost all of whom belonged to an upper class. There were many girls in my class, some of whose parents were important personalities and, above all, very wealthy. These schoolgirls attached great importance to their appearance, their image and everything material.

However, I had already been presented with a particular ideology for idealistic values at home and had been shown that it was a goal worth striving for. This made me fit in very poorly with my classmates, especially the elite clique that had formed a special group.

It was all about parties, model dresses and other fashion.

There were only a few classmates who thought like me and very few who felt like me. I had a casual acquaintance with these classmates, and a deep and genuine friendship with only one of them, which still exists today.